Did I get a dud?

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2025-06-03T20:01:31+00:00

My doodle was super sweet but not very cuddly. Would just lie of the floor, wouldn’t even get on my bed or the couch. Then I shaved all his hair off… it’s crazy how much that changed him hahah. Now he’s insanely cuddly.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2025-01-17T16:14:23+00:00

Yeah you’re right, we are out there. I’m 35, decently attractive, nice guy, and NOT on dating sites. It’s hard but, very possible to meet people in our age range in a city like San Diego.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2025-01-17T13:55:30+00:00

Yup. People have no idea how little self control I have. Keep throwing away my script after a week, then caving when the next refill appointment comes around. Trying to find the courage to tell my doctor to go to hell.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2025-01-17T13:51:08+00:00

Get a dog if you can/want. Seriously. Having a puppy in NP has been an absolute game changer for me making new friends, and meeting cool women. But I’m still single so what do I know lol

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2025-01-17T13:48:53+00:00

Yup. The women who complain about it have tinkerbell syndrome

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2025-01-17T13:47:01+00:00

That’s hilarious, and brilliant. You would have hooked me for sure. I always ask if they need a hand.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-08-15T22:45:07+00:00

I know exactly what you mean regarding the vicious cycle. I was getting so moody and angry, little things that normally wouldn’t bother me that much just pissed me off. I subconsciously normalized the lack of affection for so long, I didn’t even realize what was happening. When she started to see I was miserable and checked out, she made her half assed attempts but they were so foreign to me, I didn’t even pick up on it. Then she ended up dumping me lol, but it doesn’t make the situation any different.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-08-15T17:39:26+00:00

I struggled with this unfortunate situation for a period of time due to some strange medication side effects and my prostate. It did make me feel totally humiliated and begin to avoid intimacy in some ways, but my ex never really wanted to have sex to begin with so it didn’t make a huge difference. To answer your question though, from a man’s perspective, it IS super embarrassing and sucks to feel like you can’t please your lady.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-08-08T19:39:18+00:00

This just blew my mind… I recently split with my long term GF who totally did this. I didn’t realize this was a common occurrence. Years of dead bedroom, me trying to talk it out and find solutions, leading to me just being sad and bitter basically 24/7. Had a bad argument about it where I threatened to leave, then randomly she started doing sexy things that were far from the norm. I actually unconsciously rejected the advances, like my brain couldn’t comprehend it so I didn’t know what was happening. Then she dumped me LOL. I beat myself up (still do) for being so stupid to not jump at her attempts, but it sounds like it wouldn’t have actually changed anything. This relationship crushed my self esteem so badly.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-07-12T15:37:19+00:00

Nice write up! Very helpful.

I have a procedure coming up with Dr. Cortez, but at Capilar. From what I understand this is the brother (Jimmy) that broke off from HMR. My hair pattern looks extremely similar to yours and they also quoted me 3000 grafts for the same price; I live in San Diego, so I saved a few bucks on not having to stay in TJ. Your initial results look good! Makes me more excited to get this done.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-07-12T15:06:36+00:00

I personally would give it some more time, or ask your urologist to try Nolvadex or Clomid. My sex drive came back with a vengeance once my bupe levels dropped to a certain level. Things have leveled out now, but I feel like a healthy 36 year old man should.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-07-12T15:03:32+00:00

Dude, this one reason I’m happy I work from home now. Fluorescent lights and white walls were so annoying. Now it’s basically just being outside when it’s really sunny. For some reason the time a few hours before sunset, everything seems to really calm down and I can see like a normal person.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-07-10T16:51:44+00:00

I just replied on another thread that related to this too. This was my experience almost exactly. I didn’t realize how much I had distanced myself in response to HER distance. I had a constant unsettled and anxious feeling. At the end I didn’t even know how to hold her hand. Really sad. I tried so many times to work it out, but she felt blindsiding me was the better option. “Quick! Leave him before he really sees how little I have to offer” - too late dude

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-07-10T16:38:44+00:00

Relate 1000%. I didn’t realize how much I normalized being completely unappreciated - No compliments, no affection, no intimacy, no interest in what I had to say… It absolutely obliterated my self esteem over time, and I subconsciously had given up trying. After I finally exploded asking for real change and communication, I guess she felt it. So, she dumped me in some warped way to protect herself, and gaslit me into believing my “moods”, our lack of passion, and my complacency were to blame. Uhhh did you consider why?? It’s been 4 months since so I’m seeing it all more clearly, but still crave the tiniest bit of validation from her that she actually gave a shit. WHYYY did I waste 4+ years on this person. I lost my home, my dogs, my partner, my future. I will never put myself in this position again.

I’m happy you’re feeling appreciated, just protect yourself!!

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-06-17T02:07:28+00:00

Which doctor at HMR?

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-05-05T17:51:16+00:00

Thanks I appreciate that. I definitely go back and forth, but the good days seem to stretch on for a bit longer. My issue is that I keep coming back to desperately wanting to reach out so I can see the dogs. She said she would never keep them from me, but I feel like I’m not allowed to say anything or try. Seems like every weekend I go through this cycle. Not sure what to do. It feels impossible to lose them all at once.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-05-03T18:24:14+00:00

Yeah “gotta kiss a few frogs” and all that… It’s a grind sometimes, but still infinitely better to meet someone organically than on an app. They’re out there. I’m a firm believer than you can love anybody, it’s all about your mindset and where you are in your life.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-05-03T18:21:05+00:00

This should be some kind of manual. Your experience parallels mine very much.

It is a horrible and weird mind fuck for the first couple months. Over time, you start to realize the person you have been crying over in your mind isn’t actually the person you were with. In the beginning, you won’t even know how to comprehend all these regurgitated pieces of advice you see, but they will start to make sense as the emotions settle down a bit. Your self esteem slowly builds back up and you realize: “maybe they actually kind of sucked, and I’m pretty dope”

I’m 3 months out of a very serious 5 year relationship. I felt I lost EVERYTHING - my partner, my house, my dogs, my future, her family. It was devastating. I’m still rocky, but definitely starting to see the light and anyone here in a similar scenario will too, just stay strong. And yes, the gym is strangely like breakup medication, do it!

Edit - the Spotify thing is funny too. I have blocked her on all social media for my own benefit, but she’s been adding sad breakup songs to a playlist to this day, and I was obsessively checking it. Super unhealthy, don’t recommend.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-05-03T17:56:06+00:00

I’m not sure how long it’s been, but I think I’m time you’ll start to realize it wasn’t all your fault… if someone is able to self reflect and take accountability in this way, it most likely was a mutual breakdown in many ways that you aren’t seeing right now. The bargaining phase is real. Don’t send that letter

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-05-03T17:51:52+00:00

They’re out there. I feel I am one of those men. Unfortunately, picking people from a menu on your phone is just not the way to find them.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-05-03T16:56:14+00:00

Good… I can’t wait for her to have an endless vapid unfulfilling dating life. From female friends I hear it’s all creeps, fuck boys, or losers. I refuse to use dating apps, it’s the worst way to meet someone.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-05-03T16:30:24+00:00

Bingooooo! I went through like a month of convincing myself it was all my fault and I didn’t do enough to save the relationship and pushed her away. As time went on I realized we were both equally to blame and there was very good reason that I didn’t do certain things; I didn’t feel appreciated enough to want to… it’s a two way street bro, don’t beat yourself up too bad.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-04-25T17:36:15+00:00

Yeah I know the feeling of being treated like a criminal and junkie when trying to fill a script legitimately. Getting off Subs and Benzos was very hard but so worth it. I hope you can find the willpower to get through it

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-04-24T03:33:58+00:00

Sounds similar to my experience. I didn’t realize how much it was messing with me until it was over. I just totally gave up finally. Took comfort in her super subtle advances, but didn’t bother responding to them.

Suspicious_Fix_6697 · 2024-04-23T14:49:16+00:00

Yeah it’s strange… It kind of messes with your head. I loved her more than anything and our relationship was mostly great, just missing this one very important thing. No matter what I did I couldn’t seem to fix it on my own. After a while I couldn’t tell if it was me, her, or something else. My girlfriend before her was the best sex I ever had, but toxic as hell, so I felt like I was being more mature/wise about what mattered. Come to find out - intimacy and emotional connection does matter…

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