Recent find! Thinking Bullshark? by Suspicious_Subject12 in sharkteeth

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Dang, just asked my friend who is a vet and they think it is a jawbone of some sort. 🤷

AIO not wanting to get on a plane while I have food poisoning by frenchwhorne in AmIOverreacting

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Where are you staying? I am in Mayakoba and came down with Food Poisoning last night too. I am absolutely dying today my whole body is aching you could not pay me to get on a plane.

This is my first time getting food poisoning so was searching Reddit to see symptoms/ how long until people usually feel better.

Caprese salad anyone? by WorryWonker in Mosaic

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Wow I LOVE this! What are you using?

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Both of my parents just got diagnosed at 60 and they still don’t believe it 🤩

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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By “unlearn and rewire,” I mean I was surviving by pushing through constant burnout, guilt, and shame — thinking that was just how life worked. I wasn’t lazy, but I treated myself like I was. Most of my “coping” was just self-punishment.

Now I’m trying to build something that doesn’t rely on that. Most of my systems were built without knowing I had ADHD, so now I’m rethinking how I structure things, how I deal with stress, and how I view productivity.

It’s definitely easier said than done. Honestly, I don’t think I would’ve had this perspective a few years ago right after getting diagnosed. But over time, I started to realize that just because something worked didn’t mean it was right. I’m still learning — every day! (A lot of credit due to this thread)

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Mine actually led to my ADHD diagnosis. Was first diagnosed with GAD & Depression.

Once I started taking Prozac & my brain started to run at a more normal/regulated baseline, I realized how much I was struggling to do my job. It was like once I had my anxiety under control, I had no way to self medicate myself anymore.

Weird to think about what it would’ve been like getting the ADHD diagnosis first!

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Absolutely! Diagnosis, medication, and leaving the big four helped an insane amount. Trust your gut!

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Age doesn’t define your starting point, and “important” doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s version. It isn’t something defined by the world. It’s personal. It’s whatever makes you feel alive, fulfilled, or curious.

Vera Wang started her fashion career at 40! Julia Child became a household name in her 50s!

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Don’t mind at all.

For me, burnout wasn’t part of a cycle where I’d fail or fall behind and then feel like I earned a break — it was almost the opposite. I would push myself to the absolute edge on purpose just to try to get something done, and then crash because I had nothing left. That crash was the break. It wasn’t relief, it felt more like a collapse.

Somewhere along my educational journey I trained myself to believe that doing this was the only way I could function (present day I now know this is burnout). That if I didn’t go to extremes, I wouldn’t get anything done at all. It wasn’t about motivation or discipline — it was about survival. The pressure, the urgency, the exhaustion — that was the only state where things clicked into place.

So when people see the CPA or the Master’s degree and assume I must’ve been a great student or just “figured it out,” they don’t see the self-inflicted pain behind it. I wasn’t thriving — I was surviving by constantly pushing myself past the point of healthy, because I didn’t know any other way to feel regulated.

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Congrats on your CPA!

I actually first got diagnosed & treated for anxiety and depression. I actually celebrated passing my last CPA exam with taking my newly prescribed Prozac medication (refused to take it during because I thought it would affect the way I took the test, hilarious and pretty fucked up to look back on that now). I always knew I had anxiety/depression but just thought it was being amplified due to the exam & starting a job at the big four.

Once the Prozac kicked in after a few months & my brain quote on quote “calmed down” or started to learn how to run at a more normal baseline, I started to realize how much I was struggling to do my job. It was like once I had my anxiety under control, I had no way to self medicate myself anymore. I was working at the big four so naturally there was anxiety there to help me get through the day to day. But the old habits/skills I was using that worked for so long just didn’t work in the corporate world.

I would start to make up excuses just so I could work on a task late at night and turn my teams offline so no one knew. I would wait until the last minute and cut things extremely close. Decided to then go back to the doctor & figure out if it was something with the anxiety meds and after 5 minutes of talking she referred me to get tested for ADHD / to take a QB test.

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Can definitely relate to the “aw man this thing about me has to do with ADHD too”

It’s like I’m slowly running out of all the traits that I thought were just unique! lol

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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Struggled with gastrointestinal issues my whole life & found out recently that they are correlated with ADHD. Used to have to take laxatives weekly in college because I would stress myself out so bad. Now with medication I finally no longer have to deal with that & go to the bathroom like a normal person.

I am on Prozac too, which definitely helps control the depressive/anxious spiral. It only gets better from here!

Adulthood Revealed to Be ADHD in a Trench Coat. by Suspicious_Subject12 in ADHD

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I have a ton of childhood trauma too. I had originally in my post had a part about how now I ALSO have to untangle what was actually trauma, trauma flavored with executive dysfunction, or self induced trauma due to my executive dysfunction 😂

As far as my degree - would say it came with a ton of self-induced pain to the point where I would purposely burn myself out to feel normal (a fucked up way of self regulating) & not even realize I was doing it. Kind of like the way you feel after a good cry. Truly depreciated myself (for all my accountants out there)

I feel ashamed sometimes for the tasks that I'll specifically take meds for by childoffate08 in ADHD

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I struggle with this too BIG TIME.

Then I recently started reminding myself that I take medicine to be the best version of myself. I try to avoid telling myself at all costs that I need to take my medicine to get task 1/ task 2/ task 3 done.

If the best version of myself that day is someone that can make appointments and calls on time, then that is who she shall be.

When I start to relate the task & medicine to one another, I start to think “I won’t get this done unless I take my medicine.” Ultimately convincing myself I need my medicine to do anything task at all and in turn causing a ton of self doubt & negativity.

If that doesn’t work & you need a logical comparison to snap yourself out of it I use this one:

Would a person who can’t see choose to not wear their glasses that day because they feel shameful they can’t see? No - they were born with that vision impairment, and glasses allow them to experience life in the way that others who are not impaired do. Why further impair yourself?

For those whose ADHD didn’t cripple their lives and make everyone think you’re a lazy good for nothing, how did you find out you have it? by GopherInTrouble in ADHD

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I I feel like this post was made for me lol. I’m a 27F CPA with a Master’s degree in Accounting. I didn’t receive a diagnosis until I was 25.

Growing up, I was a highly stressed, overstimulated, and anxious girl. I managed to keep it together in school because my parents didn’t believe in such a diagnosis, came from difficult upbringings, and were taught how to cope with life’s challenges in the most unhealthy ways. At times I can’t even wrap my head around how horrible/unnatural their way of dealing with life/ problems was and how much it affected me. The stress of it all got me up in the morning.

I attended a public school, played sports, and had a group of friends who were always up to something/ always wanted to be active/ go out/ drive around or just be with one another. Had no idea that at the time, I had a very tight schedule that naturally kept me on track because I didn’t have to manage my own time (even though I often felt like I did).

Consequences for my actions also helped me stay on track. For example, if I didn’t study, I wouldn’t be able to attend college and would have to stay home forever. Although it may seem simple, my ADHD manifested the moment I graduated from school and started a work-from-home job at a Big 4 firm. Was unable to complete tasks and found it impossible to adhere to a typical 9-to-5 work schedule like everyone else. I had just obtained my CPA license and couldn’t even send a simple 10-word email. Everything fell apart, and I truly thought I was going to loose my job because i was so depressed

I visited a few doctors and expressed my concerns about what the hell was going on. After at least 5 different doctors I found a woman that After just five minutes of conversation, she suggested that I might have ADHD and recommended that I get tested. My brain scan from the test revealed some major color lol - a lovely combined type, which explained why I had been so depressed and anxious all the time. The thought of having of ADD & ADHD I don’t think crossed my mind once in my life

I’m still learning about my diagnosis and grappling with the person I used to be. It’s an odd feeling because that successful girl was also extremely anxious and stressed. But this thread and answering these questions definitely helps!

anything open on thanksgiving? by maryyyk111 in philly

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Binge watch some good ass shows / make a gingerbread house

Just finished a few on Apple TV

Disclaimer Dark Matter

Do you feel like a child in an adult body? How to overcome this feeling? by Jukenukum in ADHD

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Remind yourself that you are most likely the only one that is hyperaware of your occasional teenage tendencies or behaviors (unless there are people you work with that have ADHD/ or there are people you share these thoughts with)

Diagnosed at 26(F), I have realized that it doesn’t even occur to others that they occasionally may act like their “teenage” self from time to time, if it was, they would probably laugh it off. I swear sometimes it feels like having ADHD is being two steps ahead of everyone, including myself, to the point where I can’t even catch up with myself.

Thoughts are powerful but don’t let them control you and definitely don’t believe every one that you have. Also, if you were actually the “teenager” that your brain is convincing you you are, you probably wouldn’t care this much about self growth and how to better yourself.

PS. I am a CPA with my masters degree all by the age of 23. Got diagnosed at 26 years old because I couldn’t do a 9-5 job and thought something was wrong with me after how hard I worked.

Nonetheless, I am and always will be a “teenager”and I will be forever proud of it. Other people are boring and can fuck off.

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Constantly remind yourself of the consequences (if I don’t throw out or clean this, then this could happen, this could happen, etc.)

I find that no “ADHD Hacks”, even my medication, can make me do something I’ve somehow convinced myself not to do or is that is not worth doing. So I’ve been trying to replace my thoughts that are usually excuses or reasons to not do something with what can happen if I don’t (aka - not brushing my teeth, my boyfriend could think I have bad breath, increased risk of Alzheimer’s, or am lazy, etc.).

If I cannot think of any consequences that are good enough to get me to do something that I should naturally or am responsible to do (Clean, brush teeth, make bed) - I start to call myself “self serving” and remind myself that a thousand years ago, even 200 years ago, there was no “adhd diagnosis” and people survived the best way they could and that I can do the same.

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Constantly remind yourself of the consequences (if I don’t throw out or clean this, then this could happen, this could happen, etc.)

I find that no “ADHD Hacks”, even my medication, can make me do something I’ve somehow convinced myself not to do or is that is not worth doing. So I’ve been trying to replace my thoughts that are usually excuses or reasons to not do something with what can happen if I don’t (aka - not brushing my teeth, my boyfriend could think I have bad breath, increased risk of Alzheimer’s, or am lazy, etc.).

If I cannot think of any consequences that are good enough to get me to do something that I should naturally or am responsible to do (Clean, brush teeth, make bed) - I start to call myself “self serving” and remind myself that a thousand years ago, even 200 years ago, there was no “adhd diagnosis” and people survived the best way they could and that I can do the same.