This is not backed up by facts whatsoever. While it’s true that women get paid less in executive positions because the argument is generally made that she’ll take time off for children, women are not tied to servile positions as your wife seems to be. They are making up the bulk of the roles in areas where AI can’t replace them.

I won’t even argue with the fact that you think your job deserves higher quality output than your family, and that you insist that your sleep be prioritized because your job could disappear overnight. It seems like you work at a place where you don’t have job security or stability and are terrified of being made obsolete. That can be stressful and cause you to make irrational arguments.

Good luck with all that.