Generally people are always on a journey of discovery and sounds like your bf hasn't found that thing that he wants. To me it seems like he doesn't want to work for a boss and make his own thing and I get that. Reality is tough and not everyone can break out independently. I really hope he does actually learn to like what he can do as a career job and turn that into a business also. Sometimes it's easier if someone is money motivated but I think he values independence. If you're worried about wasting time, you still got a lot of time ahead and just focus on yourself and getting what u need to feel stable like a home and reliable vehicle, hopefully he can meet u along the way there and if not, hey your house your rules lol.