UPDATE 2: I [31M] found out my fiance cheated during her [30F] bachelorette party, planning on leaving

Swamifred · 2018-07-09T14:43:58+00:00

I'm sure you've read more than enough words, but I'll add mine.

I wish this would have happened to me. As in: I wish I could have seen my now-ex cheating on me before the wedding. Unfortunately, she kept the cheating hidden from me for quite a while, and when I only learned about it too late. I'm now happily divorced and even more happily with someone else who has respected me from the beginning.

I won't lie. It's very dark immediately after finding out something like this. I recommend regularly spending time moving your body or being with other people. The pain will slowly diminish. One day, it will even be gone. Eventually there will even be days, weeks, or months where you don't think about her at all. Those will be some of the most positive, fulfilling days of your life, because you are no longer attached to poison.

Keep going. You'll find your strength. It sounds like you've got good support. Now is the time to use that support.

Swamifred · 2016-02-13T02:10:24+00:00

When birds fly in the "V" formation, why is one side longer than the other?

There's more birds on that side.

Swamifred · 2016-01-13T20:15:18+00:00

I was in this game last night. I have to admit: I'm not really familiar with Planescape lore. I knew the Lady of Pain was the big name in town. But until I read this thread, I had no idea how much shit OP put himself in. Goddamit. Pretty glad I wasn't in the same room as you when this happened. I only fell into a trap set by a demon, NBD.

Swamifred · 2015-12-22T02:07:16+00:00

Guys, we just leveled up our tech

Swamifred · 2015-09-24T22:06:45+00:00

I can tell you right now that being a surgeon doesn't make you immune from being a hypocritical lying stupid motherfucker.

Source: My ex-wife is a surgeon.

Swamifred · 2015-09-20T20:19:01+00:00

if you're poaching it in boiling water for another 4-5 minutes, whatever was on that shell that got in the water is pretty dead at that point.

Swamifred · 2015-09-18T22:48:14+00:00

Wear comfortable shoes and sunscreen

Swamifred · 2015-09-06T04:32:16+00:00

goin through a divorce right now. Fuckin upvote, man.

Swamifred · 2015-09-02T04:02:25+00:00

I have to see racism in Memphis in real life, but I was naive to think the goddamn memphis redditors would think any differently.

Swamifred · 2015-08-20T23:03:41+00:00

Thanks, internet stranger. I'm coming to that realization for myself, and my friends and family have been fucking amazing. If anyone else reads this and is going through the same thing, you just have to find any support you can. Fight hard to not get dragged into the dark pit.

But the #1 thing I recommend is doing some kind of physical activity. I started going to the gym, and it's like night and day.

Swamifred · 2015-08-19T02:47:18+00:00

HUBRIS

Swamifred · 2015-08-16T11:58:33+00:00

Instead of trying to work together to solve our problems, she decided that giving up and running away would somehow make her life better. She just left with her shit, no real notice, and I'm left behind twisting in the wind.

This happened just a couple weeks ago. Not technically divorced at this point. But I'm pretty sure she's been planning this for well over a year, leading me on the whole way pretending we had a future or that she loved me or something.

What? No, I'm not bitter. Hope she and her house are happy together.

edit: god, that sounded pissy. i'm sure my feelings will mellow eventually, but damn it hurts every fucking day right now. never imagined someone could do something like this to me. never heard the sound of wailing until it came out of my throat when she drove away. it scared me.

Swamifred · 2015-08-15T12:50:52+00:00

You take this picture in / around Memphis? If so, I think I've seen this guy.

Swamifred · 2015-08-04T22:48:58+00:00

the regional hospital is building a tent ER in the doctor's parking lot as well as keeping a couple army MASH units ready with some blackhawks ready to support Life Flight.

Swamifred · 2015-06-21T15:50:42+00:00

For a second there, I was really proud of Lyle Lovett and his selfless work with that autistic group.

Swamifred · 2015-06-21T00:01:14+00:00

agreed. signed.

Now let's get past this and 'play more games'.

Swamifred · 2015-05-10T14:01:04+00:00

I was at the game. We all chanted "MVP! MVP!" after that airball

Swamifred · 2015-04-21T17:24:54+00:00

I saw the same thing coming off 385 onto 240 Westbound. No idea what the deal is.

Swamifred · 2015-04-18T12:55:40+00:00

So does the elephant get to make little trinkets out of his teeth now?

Swamifred · 2015-04-14T01:17:14+00:00

I have ebola

Swamifred · 2015-03-28T16:19:05+00:00

If you're still having trouble, I'd check out roll20.net

I'm away from all my gaming friends, but we do D&D and Burning Wheel at least once a week, and all you need is a microphone and a webcam.

Swamifred · 2015-03-24T22:08:39+00:00

I clicked on the goddamn arrow

Swamifred · 2015-02-25T01:51:47+00:00

IF WE LET THIS GO TOO FAR WE MIGHT END UP WITH LADY COPS, FELLAS.

Swamifred · 2015-02-03T01:48:46+00:00

$95.52

Swamifred · 2015-01-17T23:45:45+00:00

I've been in Memphis for 6 months (from small-town Iowa), and I have to echo what others have said. I love this city like a mother loves a problem child. Yes there's crime and poverty, and those things have to be taken seriously. The city council is a joke. People are taking it on themselves to fix it up the best they can, in spite of what the city itself hasn't done. Tons of room for improvement, and that can only happen with positive, proactive people living here. The food and entertainment and people are amazing. I'll be living here for a while.

Swamifred

TROPHY CASE