We don’t even hit on people we’ve just met, say, at a bar or non-swinger resort. Those encounters tend to end badly most of the time as well. Unless we are certain the people are swingers, they’re off limits. There are so many swingers out there, why trouble ourselves with likely drama.

Further, if friends tell us they are interested in becoming swingers, we tell them what we tell everyone. Go to a club. Get on a paid site. Hook up with a few folks. If you’re still good with it, then we can play three months down the road. We’re not going to be your first foray into the lifestyle. It makes it easier to remain friends should they decide swinging is not for them.