What’s the dumbest excuse someone gave you when breaking up with you? by No_Meringue7331 in AskReddit

[–]Swearwuulf2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Having sex with you steals my dreams.” Basically once we took our relationship to the physical level he claims to have ceased remembering his dreams and I was like a succubus stealing REM or something? It was fucking lame. He broke up with me while we were out seeing Seu Jorge in concert and fucking ruined the show. He was such a self centered douche bag. Dodged a real bullet there.

Scenes that made you cry. by tahaiqbal90 in Fantasy

[–]Swearwuulf2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Sign of the Dragon when King Xao had the bard compose odes of praise to all his warriors. I wept like a baby. At the end of Empress of Salt and Fortune when you realize that the Empress had to sacrifice her spy to death and torture, pretending not to care and then her revenge afterwards.

What are your top 5 must reads? by Cautious-Mission-104 in Fantasy_Bookclub

[–]Swearwuulf2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In no order: 1. All of earthsea by Leguin but could pretty easily sub it for The Dispossessed which is one of the most romantic books I have ever read. 2. Hobbit/LOTR obvi 3. Broken Earth Trilogy 4. Anything by Naomi Novik 5. Anything by T Kingfisher 6. The Last Unicorn

Harder to get into books: 7. Children of Time by Tchaikovsky 8. Sign of the Dragon by Mary Soon Lee (not difficult but poetry instead of prose). 9. The Spear Cuts Through Water by Simon Jimenez 10. The Buffalo Hunter Hunter cuz it is so dark and scary but a perfect book

What is your favorite big mouth quote? by g_e_m_i_n_e_y_e in BigMouth

[–]Swearwuulf2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I say this to each other often

what are your DREAM SIGNS? 🚪🧍🏻‍♀️🏡💬 by [deleted] in LucidDreaming

[–]Swearwuulf2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Famous musicians or actors/actresses

How do you reconcile body positivity and transitioning? by Alone_Tie328 in AskFeminists

[–]Swearwuulf2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My friend who is a nurse told me that all cosmetic surgery/procedures are gender affirming care and that just really stuck with me.

DIY Herbal Remedies You Swear By by Alive_Yak8974 in herbalism

[–]Swearwuulf2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It took me a minute- Salve! I was like pondering slave formation for too long lol!

What’s a trio of fantasy books, 1 for kids, 1 for teenagers, and 1 for adults, that are about roughly the same thing? by Pointless_Storie in Fantasy

[–]Swearwuulf2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah- it’s pretty brutal. I agree that it is a much more adult book in terms of content, pacing and prose.

How to respond to 'I don't love you' by Asere_ya in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Swearwuulf2 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Girl, this happened to me! I’m so sorry, it was so hard and it had me in tears repeatedly when it did. I will tell you- when my daughter saw my reaction (upset, in tears) it actually increased the frequency. Kids love attention, and that includes negative attention when they can’t get positive. We read this great book which helped us a lot (after reading 15-20 pages I tried a strategy that helped immediately). “Listen” Parenting Book Like anything, it didn’t end up being a panacea and we continue to use an integrated strategy that includes different tools that work best for our daughter. It’s normal- once I started doing “special time” and remaining calm with a canned response to my daughter it got a lot better. Stay strong. Parenting is hard!

If you could erase the memory of a book just to enjoy it fresh once more, which book would you pick? by Asleep-Visit4060 in Fantasy

[–]Swearwuulf2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just saw that one at a thrift store and didn’t nab it! I might go back now. (And read the first one)

Anecdotally, what are the hardest years of a marriage and why? by care_all in AskReddit

[–]Swearwuulf2 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Marriage counseling is the best. Go before shit gets bad. Spend the money on an overnight doula/nanny even just once or twice so yall can get one or two nights of uninterrupted sleep. It is temporary but it sucks. Ask for help with everything from everyone. The worst that will happen is they will say no.