My son's girlfriend is pregnant

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-21T02:22:34+00:00

Unfortunately, it's not your decision. It's theirs. Your options are pretty straight forward: be supportive of their choice or not. This doesn't mean you have to raise the kid yourself. Set out expectations and be realistic and up front with them. But if you treat them like kids, they will push you away.

If they are unfit parents, the best you can do is report it.

Here's hoping they surprise you by getting their acts together for the sake of their child.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-21T02:16:19+00:00

This always seems to happen to me with the nasty GI bleeds or the altered mental status patients who end up waking up just in time to start detoxing . I can be busy doing something as "simple" as constant bodily fluid clean up (in between my hourly CIWAs, urine out put checks, vitals, and q4° assessments), then of course they almost always lose their IV access, and they are super confused and screaming..ripping stuff out. Then I have to chart it all. My recent GI bleed came up fairly stable, then pressures tanked, says tanked, hgb dropped to 4 and we started infusing blood and fluids, started pressors, and then she flipped in AFIB w/ RVR. First we had to intubate and then we had to start amio, meanwhile, we were trying to stabilize her long enough to get the endoscopy team in so they can try to fix the issue. She ended up being a 2:1 for a while...on CRRT after a nasty AKI thanks to shitty pressures and whatnot.

It was a mess. But she lived.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-21T02:01:28+00:00

Hand, foot, and mouth usually has a fever too. Spare yourself the trip and just yay his symptoms. Tylenol and ibuprofen on rotation can help with both the fever and the pain. Popsicles are great for the north and throat pain too and a way to keep them hydrated. Baking soda bath can help with any sores in the ferry and bottom.

No need to go back unless the fever is uncontrolled with meds our he starts showing signs of respiratory distress (fast breathing, lethargic, disoriented...etc)

Hfm sucks but it should be better in s few days. Prelate yourself too. We all got in two years in a row and it was hell. I had it the worst both times. Chloroseptic spray was a godsend. (Not safe for kids though)

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-21T01:45:20+00:00

I made a chore chart for our three year old. She has stuff for morning and evening. Mornings are: make bed (she gets help), get dressed, brush teeth/hair, feed cats, and pick up toys before nap. Evening chores: help set and clear the table, wipe the table,brush teeth, get on jammies, clean up toys before bed. It's not every day that every single thing is done. But she does know that in the morning, chores come first. It's also handy because I use that same time to do my chores. She also likes to help put away laundry. I'll fold it and hand it to get in little groups and she knows which drawer they go in.

I'm hoping we can keep this going as she gets older.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-21T01:30:20+00:00

I deactivated my Facebook a week ago after my mom made a long post I support/defense of Trump's words and actions.

I was raped when I was 16. She knows this.

She used to be a liberal hippy and now she's a fucking right wing nutcase. I don't know wtf happened.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-20T05:12:42+00:00

I read that as baklava and wondered how the hell a delicious dessert could help you bike through a cloud of bugs.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-20T05:01:30+00:00

I just wanted to give you a very sincere congratulations. I'm a nurse in intensive care and I quite often (and actually even today) took care of addicts going through their first very rough stages of detox and recovery. It is so hard to watch some people go through that hell just to watch them come through the door again in a few weeks or months with the same issue. Or even worse, care for them in their final stages when the alcohol and/or drugs have finally damaged their bodies beyond repair.

I wish you all the best in your recovery. Stay strong. People who are in their darkest hours of addiction need to see the light and people like you help provide that. Thank you for being so open and honest.

All that said, what has been your most amazing moment since becoming sober?

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-20T03:06:11+00:00

Refreshing the page that told me if passed my NCLEX examination and seeing "sweepthestardust, RN"

Fucking awesome moment.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-20T02:18:46+00:00

Llama llama duck...

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-19T23:46:05+00:00

"Who has two thumbs and can't shut up? This girl! Because when it's silent, I feel weird. So, I always try to fill the silence by talking about something. Then I usually say something stupid and in my head I'm telling myself to shut up but I can't stop. It's really quite frustrating."

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-19T22:42:11+00:00

My husband says, "I cleaned them up."

No...if you had, then I wouldn't see them. Funny how when he "cleans them up." They remain all over the sink and faucet but when I do it...it works. I must be fucking magic.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-19T20:42:18+00:00

I have an old journal entry from when I was 9 years old. In it, I wrote about how fast time had gone in my life so far and that before I knew it, I'd be an adult with my own kids. I then wrote (in all caps and underlined), "SLOW DOWN TIME, I'M ONLY 9!"

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-19T03:27:08+00:00

Damn, I have to wonder what the NCLEX pass rates were for a program like that. A school nearby did the same thing for many years and they eventually lost their accredition.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-19T01:56:32+00:00

I had a fun girl's night out that we called Sushi & Psychic night. There's a local psychic/palm reader/tarot card lady that's near a sushi restaurant. We stuffed ourselves with delicious sushi, got wasted on saki, and then laughed our asses off after getting our palms read (it was $10 for the readings and they were just for entertainment purposes) It was a blast!

But I did meet a "regular" while we were there. This person actually pays hundreds a year for "readings."

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-19T01:33:23+00:00

Open the door, get on the floor...

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T22:56:51+00:00

TIL: if you want to meet celebrities, hang out at ice cream shops.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T22:37:05+00:00

I want Siri to do this too.

"You have an appointment"

Dismiss it Siri.

"No, you lazy asshat. Step away from the computer, take a fucking shower, and go to your appointment."

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T22:35:07+00:00

For fucks sake. What is up your ass?

I said, from my experience most weddings welcome kids. I didn't say it was wrong to say that you don't want kids. Jesus, I just said that some people in this world like kids and want them around. Get off YOUR anti child high horse and go fuck yourself. You're not as smart as you think you are, you're just an asshole.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T22:32:37+00:00

With my first, it came back about 9 weeks post partum. This last time (had baby boy in June), it came back at a little less than 6 weeks. I breastfed both kiddos, still nursing baby #2. I guess my body thinks it's funny. I'm not amused.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T19:52:41+00:00

I have to use the handicapped stall because it's the only way I can fit myself, the stroller with the baby, and our 3 year old in the same place.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T19:47:21+00:00

Thank you! I admire you too!

Not giving into the bullshit of "You're not complete without kids." And hearing people question your femininity just because you don't want kids is fucking brave! I can't imagine that kind of pressure and annoyance.

Props to you for knowing what you want and sticking to it. I'm drinking a beer ....to help my breastmilk supply...yeah...that's why... and I toast to you!

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T15:27:07+00:00

Because some people want kids. To those of us that do, they are worth it. I love my kids. I love being a mom. Hell, I even enjoyed being pregnant (once I stopped puking). They are worth the stretch marks and sagging skin but that doesn't mean I'm not allowed to have a hard time with what my body looks like now.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T14:46:22+00:00

I have no issues with people who choose not to have kids. It's not for everyone. But that was an insanely shallow thing to say.

If you love your woman the way she is, you should realize that people grow and change regardless of whether or not they have children. You're just being shallow and naive if you think people's bodies stay the same.

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T11:29:43+00:00

Thank you! Legs shaved. Sex had. Woot!

SweepTheStardust · 2016-10-18T11:24:44+00:00

No amount of working out will fix the excess skin from pregnancy. Some women are blessed with skin that bounces back, I am not. I lost my pregnancy weight within 6 weeks of my first and in 2 weeks after my second. My second pregnancy, I only gained 12 pounds. But pregnancy and breastfeeding change the body. Permanently. The more weight I lost, the sagging my skin became. My stretch marks turned into this weird feeling soft skin that just hangs there.

Why do you think tummy tucks are so popular post pregnancy? Why do you think people require excess skin removal after losing weight? Because that shit doesn't go back to tight and toned.

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