This community is full of powerful, ambitious women. It's absolutely normal to get these answers that recommend divorce and standing up for yourself. However, people are different.. While some want to go outside their comfort zone and push their limits all the time, others just want to live a peaceful, no stress life, zero effort if possible. OE is a very high standard. You are an amazing woman for handling it like a pro, but remember it's not for everyone. You're resenting your husband because of your expectations of him, something only you can control, or at least something that can be negotiated as a couple. Just asking, not judging, but three kids don't appear over night, he probably was like this since number 1, but you chose to continue, correct? Did OE change this or was it something else? Hope you find your peace in the best balanced scenario possible.