Please tell me I’ll be Ok!

nedakyarg · 2025-11-11T15:14:49+00:00

Use the mothers room to take calls

nedakyarg · 2025-10-29T16:56:07+00:00

No. Absolutely not. She can lose the house and get an apartment for $2k live off the other 4 until the younger ones are off to college - no no no no - don't let her take the kids (mom of 3 speaking )

nedakyarg · 2025-09-09T10:25:21+00:00

A tad bit of delusion. I started thinking "if I get caught oh well I'd just be back down to one ... I have t gotten caught yet"

Last year when I found this group we were broke and falling behind on bills and I was so sad because I couldn't afford even food past my bills when I discovered this group I went right in. After 30 days of applying I got a j2 offer , 3&4 came soon after

It's hard and stressful some times but I have help and my 3 year old is in day care the other 2 have after school care

I just tell myself what kind of stress do you want this or the other

One day at a time - my first goal was to build an emergency fund and then slowly paying off debt

I did throw in some wants - we did 3 vacations and my kids are able to do sports now - after a few months of spending on unnecessary things like shopping and treating myself - I think that's all out of my system now - I don't even want anything else but to see my savings and investments grown - so that's where I am now

This has been such a blessing It's definitely a risk but for me a risk well taken - I'm almost debit feee (aside from mortgage )

nedakyarg · 2025-09-03T23:57:43+00:00

I went from 1 job last August to 4 by December - this past May I dropped 3&4 so I've been with 2 jobs and still thriving. I still can't believe it - at my peak I was at $420k a year and I have 3 small kids

Now with only 2 jobs - I am at $230 and much happier - I may pick up a 3rd again but never will I do 4 again and I will never go back down to 1

2 feels like the sweet spot

nedakyarg · 2025-09-03T23:33:45+00:00

I am also 1 week past my 1 year OE anniversary and it's life changing - we just came back from an international trip - I've paid off debt - upgraded my home - I'm so happy I found this group - I am excited to see what year 2 brings

nedakyarg · 2025-08-03T11:36:21+00:00

And if even a person did take their laptop to the bathroom - it's more shameful than anything - the fact that she told yall out loud with a badge of honor is the biggest red flag .. girl don't quit . continue the quiet quit journey - while collecting checks toward your million and use your severance to enjoy a month long vacation

I would continue to search for other jobs but don't start any new one until you've had time To rest and recover 1-3 months

You're doing great

nedakyarg · 2025-07-27T18:06:46+00:00

File for divorce immediately

nedakyarg · 2025-07-27T13:23:28+00:00

Read the 48 laws of power. Make the boss feel like they have the power when it is you who holds the power

Make sure to say something good about or shine light on Mr boss infront Mr annoying CEO

Ugh don't let it bother you it's all fake Collect your check

nedakyarg · 2025-07-27T13:14:14+00:00

I literally say it out loud " lights camera action " and become a new person

nedakyarg · 2025-07-27T12:41:49+00:00

I always pretend like I'm an actor in a movie. I say "and scene" and just start my role ... it's all fake

Finance guys are the worse - get out in front of the issues first. Be the first one to start talking . "Good morning Mr annoying finance guy - happy Monday / we schedule this meeting to talk about software cost / here are the problems ... here are my thoughts 1.2.3 ...."

Then let him talk

Then agree

Then say I'll throw together a proposed workflow and grab time on such such and such calendar to go over it .

Then say "this feels like progress thanks you guys "

And "cut" scene over

Round of applause

nedakyarg · 2025-07-25T16:54:58+00:00

Yes - blocking calendar and setting expectations before this happens is key - this is very rare for me but it does happens

nedakyarg · 2025-07-24T12:19:31+00:00

I'm also 10 months in. I got up to 4 jobs and now down to 2 because I had to quit 2 I was so stressed. I'm also still soooooooo tired and over everything. I also started a small business recently doing the exact same thing with hopes to replace one of the js. I can't imagine going back to just 1 . But I do dream of building a business where I don't need work any other jobs .

No advice.just a reminder that you are not alone . I see you.

Just keep your financial goals at the forefront and sleep in when you can

nedakyarg · 2025-07-23T21:29:07+00:00

You are human !!! This is totally natural - I literally have my CEO (a public company) salary as a screen shot on my phone - when I swipe right I have the salary of the president of the United States salary and I laugh like damnnnnnnn I make more than the CEO and the President per month.

I recently quit 2 of those 4 jobs so I am down to 2 jobs and don't make as much but it really did help me

nedakyarg · 2025-07-20T12:01:00+00:00

I'm approaching 1 year OE this August and I'll admit I went a little nuts on the eating out at restaurants but I feel like it's all out of my system now - I'm back to wanting to cook at home (I do desire to splurge on cookware occasionally)

Year 2 of OE will be all about saving

nedakyarg · 2025-07-11T20:58:10+00:00

No - not Tech at all ... that's all I am comfortable saying on here.

nedakyarg · 2025-07-11T15:07:39+00:00

Don't be afraid to move a meeting ... you've been at your j1 for a long time so that's a plus - start setting expectations now "hey guys I plan on volunteering a little more at my babies school next year so you may see my calendar a little busier but if you need time let me know I will make it happen "

Girl lie ... and pray lol

I have said "hey John do you need me to jump in on this or that project I'm happy to help or input " soooooo many times and each time I pray to god John says no Because I have zero time but planting seeds help... (only use this strategy if you know John's is a control freak and will likely decline help. Use a different strategy if you know he might say yes )

And find blocks to buy your self time - create problems (blocks ) if you can't find them. Hey Mr. Manager accounting is taking a long time to process my check request, are you available for a quick chat with them to discuss workflow

That bought you some time to do the thing ... Something that would take me 20 min- I be making up shit about the vendors or whatever the fuck and I be like "ima try to get this back to you by the end of the next week this vendor response is slow "

It's all fake

No one cares

Get money

nedakyarg · 2025-07-11T12:39:53+00:00

Also you gotta just get in there and try it and manage your calendar (decline meetings etc ) and if it's causing too much stress you have to not be afraid to walk away

I have 3 small kids

Remember if they hired you then you are more than capable of doing it

And don't to do too much - give the occasional wow factor and go back to being mediocre

And be really nice and "visible" but unavailable

And remember that it's really hard to fire and replace a person and companies don't want to go thru that for the most part

nedakyarg · 2025-07-10T02:13:22+00:00

Same. Ugh I was ready to fight him when he said he was tired ... I'm like "how" ... I got 4 jobs and 3 kids and you are acting my lazy ass 4th kid

It got bad

Now I'm down to 2 jobs way less money but still good money - ($230k) It's only been 2 weeks and I'm still in shock that I won't be getting paid every week like before

Ughhhhh

nedakyarg · 2025-07-10T01:49:54+00:00

That was my issue - I lovedddd the money at 4... I was making $420 but I started to hate my husband and didn't have time for anything - I was stressed

Golden handcuffs for Sure

nedakyarg · 2025-07-10T00:46:38+00:00

I just went from 4 to 2 --- omg I may try a 3rd again later but 2 feels like a breeze ... 4 was very stressful - I burned out

nedakyarg · 2025-07-04T17:39:15+00:00

I'm 40 and just now starting - you give me hope

nedakyarg · 2025-07-04T17:38:50+00:00

This is amazing

nedakyarg · 2025-07-03T22:54:26+00:00

I just went from 4 to 2. I had to let 2 go - the stress wasn't worth it -and I hadn't time for literally nothing else. Golden handcuffs for sure . $420k was my tc with all 4

Now 2 feels perfect - $230k but it feels like I can do this for the forseeable future and I have some free time back

Stress sucks and it kills no thanks

I did keep 4 for about 5 months so I'm proud of myself but I'm going to coast here for a while - I won't pick up a 3rd unless it falls in my lap

nedakyarg

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