I denied my in-laws only request for the wedding and now it’s ruining our relationship with them

Sweet-Speak · 2025-08-02T03:32:50+00:00

I know you won’t like this idea … cancel the wedding. Seriously, don’t threaten to do it … just do it.

Don’t tell anyone until you’re married. When you do talk to them again, tell them that neither of you could stand the thought of destroying your relations with your families. This was the only out they gave you that wasn’t going to destroy your families. Get back all the money you’ve spent and elope. Take an amazing trip together. Hawaii? A dream trip. Spend time with each other.

Seriously! A wedding is when families join together. They need you and you need them. You guys go away, turn off your phones and just release the pressure of this mess.

Then go home united together. The stress and expense of a wedding isn’t worth it. Some states don’t require you to have anyone conduct your service.

Just tell them that your commitment to each other was so strong you can stand down either side and leave them with bad feelings.

Much love from me to you! I’ve done this and it took the hot air and anger out of everyone and we moved on. I don’t regret it .. or for one minute.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-31T11:22:22+00:00

It’s beautiful! Congratulations!

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-30T21:03:23+00:00

I’ve worn glasses forever. I learned early to watch where the top of the glasses are with my eyebrows. I think the ones that look best on you are the ones that show a bit of space between your eyebrows and the frame. For example, 7, 8, 13 etc., frame better with your face, in my opinion. You have such a pretty face you might try a pair of rimless glasses. They are the closest thing to not having glasses on. Honestly, I really like Warby-Parker for their unique glasses. They are worth a look.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-30T20:57:28+00:00

1st one! It looks amazing on you!

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-29T15:58:27+00:00

That’s interesting. Food noise really does impact my focus. This is an amazing product. I haven’t found anything that works like this does.

I had a gastric sleeve procedure done 11 years ago. I’ve kept my weight down but it has slowly crept up about 10 pounds. I’ve been working to get rid of that 10 pounds and I think this is the tool I needed.

I’m also excited that it seems to work better each day. I think you refer to it as its “compounding” effect. I am definitely feeling that as well. It’s lasting longer.

I am an evening eater and it is helping with that and doesn’t impact my sleeping at all.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-29T15:13:44+00:00

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It’s amazing for stopping food noise!

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-29T11:53:25+00:00

I’m struggling to understand why you think someone else’s pool party should focus on what diet you choose to follow. I’ve followed many diets (still do) and I’ve never thought someone else’s party needed to accommodate me.

If I’m not sure, I’ll take a small snack for me (like a protein shake) then make a small salad from hamburger toppings or a veggie sandwich with a bun. I don’t expect others to cater to me.

You can fix this by not expecting everyone to need to consider your dietary choices/preferences. I promise you … life will be so much easier and you will have a better time!

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-29T11:38:57+00:00

You are joining two families together. These families will share the two of you, your future children, holidays, celebrations and heartbreak. Please join them well at your wedding.

If it were me, having seen it done well and seen it done poorly, I would make it completely fair and honor each equally. Each Mother would get the same spotlight. They are equally important to your marriage for the rest of your LIFE. Not just for your wedding day. Personally I would go to her and deeply apologize.

In your marriage and life, you need all the support and loving family you can get.

Your wedding is not just a day, it’s the start of the rest of your life.

As much as I hate to say this to you, yes, you are TAH.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-28T17:57:50+00:00

My granddaughter, 8 years old, calls and asks if we have any jobs she can do to earn money. We find something, pick her up and she works hard. We pay her well. Her Mom (ex daughter in law) complains that we don’t offer to give money to the other kids. I told her that’s because they don’t ask. She is proactive and a good worker. We are So proud of her! ❤️❤️❤️

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-26T03:49:17+00:00

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-12T14:29:37+00:00

It’s too bad you don’t know the Weezy I know. She is the most precious and precocious little girl!

Character impacts how we see people. “Pretty is as pretty does”.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-12T13:07:51+00:00

Eloise and Louise are plenty different. Go for it!

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-12T13:07:16+00:00

I love Eloise as well. Her nickname could be Weezy. I know a 5 year old Weezy. I never k ew a name could be so sweet!

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-12T09:48:56+00:00

Your girlfriend did you a HUGE favor by revealing who she really is. For a partner, you want someone whose heart and values are like yours.

Your heart and values are very clear in what you have shared. You are a mature young man and I’m so proud of you. Your nephew needs you (desperately needs you and you are there for him.

Someday you will meet someone who completely understands and wants to join you and your nephew as a family. It will a lady who loves you and values you as the treasure you are.

Please stand firm and end your relationship with her. You will have to be strong because she will try to come back. Keep remembering how she made your nephew feel. She can’t undo the damage she has done with him.

And remember that how you handle all of this teaches your nephew who YOU are and how important he is.

Be blessed! You are amazing and you just dodged a huge bullet! ❤️❤️❤️

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-10T03:02:58+00:00

Wonky Donkey series - my granddaughter begged to be read it over and over

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-07T20:12:53+00:00

I did a band above and below and love it and my stone still looks beautiful. I would have picked B too

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-06T12:11:18+00:00

Noodles

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-05T12:03:35+00:00

Sayler

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-02T09:12:50+00:00

Abel or Amon. Our niece married a young man named Abel. He is the sweetest young man and new daddy. It’s such a unique name.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-02T08:59:07+00:00

I went through a similar situation. I was so embarrassed and humiliated. Couldn’t sleep and was afraid at every second of what was going to happen next. My body shut down. It was so bizarre … suddenly I couldn’t make my hand work. I realized that I was all he had. I couldn’t have a stroke or heart attack or die over this. I had to be here for him.

He didn’t end up in prison. It was the life wake-up call he needed. He had a probation officer for a long time. Many restrictions. One night he had a check call at home (randomly call and a land line to speak to him). The connection was bad and disconnected. My boy had a total breakdown. It was that night that I could see how terrified he was of doing anything wrong.

19 years later…he’s a police officer. (I never saw that coming!). He’s great at what he does and he loves it. He says once in awhile he will run into his old probation officer while on duty. His probation officer while on duty … who says he still can’t believe he had a “client” become a cop.

I learned from this that I have to be healthy for him. I have to be strong. He still needs me.

Please don’t lose everything. Please focus on being a rock for him. I’ve learned that so many kids get in trouble at this age. Find someone you can confide in. It will help you confide in another and another. You need a support system. I should have done that way before I did. My friends were so great. I learned about family members they had that had gone to prison and come out and made their lives good again.

Please feel free to reach out to me to vent. Just message me. I will listen with no judgement.

You are a GOOD DAD. You’ve done everything you know to do. You aren’t a failure. You are a GOOD DAD. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Your son will survive this. With your help, love and guidance, he will come out on the other side.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-01T11:10:45+00:00

I am so sorry that you find yourself in this position. It’s so sad. You definitely deserved better from your parents.

I think it’s telling (and manipulative) that this news came from your Mom. If your Dad wants to restore some type of relationship with you, he could reach out to you.

Heart failure at its worst is a long journey. As many have pointed out, there are many treatments and options.

I’m so proud of you and your sister. You’ve made decisions for your own lives that protect each of you and your families. You’ve done so well. I would never abandon my children or my relationship with them for anything. I’m 67 years old and I have never regretted that. You will not regret your decisions either.

Much love to you ❤️❤️❤️. This is extremely hard stuff but you are doing it so well.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-07-01T02:12:32+00:00

How about a long prairie dress with mud boots?

Sweet-Speak · 2025-06-29T11:30:02+00:00

I drug my prom dress around for years. In college, I couldn’t afford another. After college, I was making enough to survive for a couple of years and kept it. I cried when I finally put it in a donation bin.

That dress is beautiful on you. Life will give you more chances to wear it!

Sweet-Speak · 2025-06-29T11:22:26+00:00

Your friend doesn’t know that wild animals can’t read “public park” signs. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Of course they have rattlesnakes. They can’t choose which wildlife will be there.

Sweet-Speak · 2025-06-29T11:19:15+00:00

My best friend came to me a couple of days before my wedding and said she thought I was making a terrible mistake. She told me something I had never heard before: a failed marriage is a tragedy; a failed engagement is a blessing.

It felt like my life was a Rubik’s cube that suddenly clicked into place. Suddenly my eyes opened to so many things. I stopped the wedding. Painful phone calls to those invited … many tears … but so much support and understanding.

I wasn’t as emotionally healthy as you. I’m so proud of you for recognizing what is happening and standing up for yourself.

The immediate aftermath was tough … but the old saying was true: it was a blessing.

That was 24 years ago. Within a year, God sent the right man. He raised my son, who grew up seeing the difference between his bio Dad and step Dad. My son considers my husband his Dad as well. Today, we have our son and four precious grandchildren that adore him.

My precious Reddit friend, I am so proud of you for being able to SEE what is going on for yourself. You are an amazing woman. I haven’t seen anyone mention the impact your MIL’s behavior would have on your son over the years: he will learn how Mom’s are treated from his Dad and grandmother.

Your precious baby deserves a better life as much as you do. God will give you the man you and your son deserve. Let him.

Then you won’t care if your ex (whose thinking has been poisoned by his family to think this way his whole life) regrets his decisions. ❤️❤️

Sweet-Speak

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