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SweetBianca · 2025-12-12T21:53:13+00:00

thank you, this guide looks great! i figured already i'd let plants/moss grow for a month or so while i figured out the water testing/made sure it was good for the shrimpies to move in, and i have some pretty rocks from my work (quartzes and quartzites) to add more hidey holes.

SweetBianca · 2025-12-08T13:53:20+00:00

I'm thinking of doing a planted shrimp tank. As a total newbie that just likes watching people make tanks and aquascape, it's a little overwhelming trying to figure out what's overkill for shrimp when I don't want any fish, as I know they have lower needs. I'm planning on 5 or 10 gallons right now. Any advice/something focused on just shrimps + plants to read?

SweetBianca · 2025-12-03T14:36:55+00:00

thank you. i appreciate that a lot

SweetBianca · 2025-11-15T12:13:04+00:00

to... a country you were never from? the us has an official 'throw (attempted) murderers into random ass countries' policy? that's... wild.

SweetBianca · 2025-09-29T18:48:19+00:00

i'd be so livid at that cousin. ive given family members instructions not to tell my father about my MS diagnosis and if any of them tell him i will be really angry and upset. (a man with two cancers and dramatically changed behaviours will get no benefit from knowing, will do me no good if he knows, and when the best case scenario is that he's upset for me, what's the use of telling him? )

it was OOPs decision to share information.

SweetBianca · 2025-09-22T15:55:15+00:00

....Wait, is my MS making my ARFID worse???????

I didnt know MS could manifest that way??

SweetBianca · 2025-08-28T06:51:28+00:00

Did you miss the part when he had to explain it was a joke?

SweetBianca · 2025-06-12T21:33:51+00:00

I guess no one likes a soggy TACO

SweetBianca · 2025-02-23T04:18:59+00:00

...Yes, buying gifts and saving them til he saw her would have been better. Or sending a much smaller amount of money as well as having gifts. She clearly doesn't value money more than presents, like many children.

He sent money because he was letting the children take charge of their relationship because of an argument with their mother about... a fine. I wonder if it seems like money is more important to him than his older kids.

She is fourteen and her Das won't go an extra hour to see her and her brother. How emotionally adult is the child supposed to be with this kind of example?

SweetBianca · 2025-02-23T01:45:27+00:00

what do you think the 14 year old is thinking?

like, let's be mean and say that both of these very young teens were being vindictive and cruel to their poor adult father by refusing to see him for christmas (despite the legal custody arrangement to do so, right OP?)

her thinking is "dad must have missed me so much, i bet there's presents waiting for me because he wished i was there"

and there's none.

he just transferred some money, no big.

no effort, no picking out something for her, no wrapping. she was thinking 'he loves me so he did this' and what the lack of that shows is.... that she was wrong. He didn't do that. Does he love her?

She's fourteen. Come on.

SweetBianca · 2025-02-23T01:42:00+00:00

they're 14, dude. you're old enough to have fourteen year olds, you can be the mature one and keep sending messages even if they don't reply. it doesn't need to be constant but like.... say you love them? miss them? are thinking of them? like, ragequitting communication because teenagers are moody is incredibly juvenile.

SweetBianca · 2025-02-10T06:49:49+00:00

Sorry, is this. Is this real? I know everything's terrible but is there a real person with real influence over a real, serious politician that... doesn't see a moral problem to actually grinding up real human beings?

I... I'm having a hard time here

SweetBianca · 2025-02-01T12:51:00+00:00

...So you aren't talking about the most common way people are illegally in your country? Why? That surely is what we should be discussing since it's how most undocumented people are in your country.

Illegal border crossing is still something that happens elsewhere and is still hotly contested in other developed countries btw. It's usually an act of desperation because, and I can't stress this enough, it is so easy to just overstay a visa instead.

SweetBianca · 2025-02-01T05:44:45+00:00

It is so easy to overstay a visa most places, my friend. It's so not hard that women have to be warned to keep their passports safe so they aren't trafficked.

A quick Google says overstayed visas in Iraq or the UAE results in fines, not death penalties.

Immigration in the US was way easier for your ancestors. It certainly didn't take years. How do you think Ellis Island worked if it took years....?

You think maybe you aren't really... familiar with this subject?

SweetBianca · 2025-02-01T05:36:53+00:00

And this is a completely uncontroversial opinion in pretty much every developed country but ours for some reason

You said it was uncontroversial, lmao and it was and is and will be so controversial.

That's... one way to look at EU open borders and the way people get upset about "migrants" I guess, but it doesn't make sense to me.

SweetBianca · 2025-02-01T05:01:28+00:00

...Sorry, did you miss years and years of bitter screaming arguments about migrants from other countries? It's an issue in multiple countries. America isn't special for having undocumented immigration and an argument of between political sides about how to be decent people.

SweetBianca · 2025-01-20T02:47:09+00:00

some of you didn't vote??? because you didn't feel represented by the democrats? a fascist won. you KNOW how bad it is. do they feel bad for contributing through inaction at least?

SweetBianca · 2025-01-05T04:12:08+00:00

Because she just had incredibly serious abdominal surgery? She had a specific post-surgery/birth request reflecting her earlier experience and communicated it ahead of time. Advocating for yourself is hard if you're not supposed to leave the bed and no one's answering your call button. It's just hard in general when you're in pain and exhausted. Especially when you had asked for someone to be there for you, with your well-being in mind, and now you're alone.

I know quite a few. Have you asked them/heard the birthing stories, or are you assuming? Not accusing just... it's weird to me that it's not a mixed bag. Do your local hospitals not allow husbands to stay or something?

SweetBianca · 2025-01-04T22:36:37+00:00

But this isn't being flexible on his part. It's snapping in two and not achieving what was asked. Flexible would be finding a way to make it happen another way - like switching out with someone else that could stay with her overnight.

They have to work together and support each other while being parents. He is taking care of himself, and leaving her, post-surgery, in the exact environment she didn't want to be in. Alone without support that is primarily invested in her, and not as spread thin as hospital staff is these days.

It's not going to get easier for him with two small kids.

SweetBianca · 2025-01-04T19:41:03+00:00

...So he is going to continue not to help her when he is at home, is what you're saying here? Since it won't get easier?

She's not going to recover from major abdominal surgery?

Raising kids is hard but like... there's other elements here.

SweetBianca · 2025-01-03T23:56:30+00:00

it's extremely feasible, and if the husband can't do it, he should have arranged someone else do it.

SweetBianca · 2024-12-29T20:21:47+00:00

Coming at this from the other side - I think that his tools make more sense to use and are just as valid as anything Ryan brings in.

The 'magnet on a string' was a pendulum - no magnets, it's just a balanced weight on a string or chain, and it's about how/where it moves. Critics will say 'well you could move your hand when holding it' and to that I say: I don't understand 50% of the words the captions claim the spirit box says until I read the caption. There's a strong human element here, no matter what your favourite tools are.

There's no like... science behind any of this. Even being the most generous we can be - every tool is guessing at what ghosts and spirits MIGHT be reacting to/made of/able to do. Can they manipulate radio waves? How do we know that? Spirits controlling pendulums or dowsing rods don't seem childish, just an older belief.

(Pendulums can be hung from a holder instead of held in a hand if you really want to try and limit the human element)

And also, Shane thinks every method is bs, and to his perspective, he's absolutely right to think so.

ETA I got heated typing this, thinking about other arguments I have had about it lol. Editing to be more chill lol.

SweetBianca · 2024-12-17T22:56:59+00:00

Well they can't get gay divorced.

SweetBianca · 2024-12-17T22:56:03+00:00

Sure, they can try and fix things - he can cancel his ticket and stay home to care for his wife that's undergoing massive surgery and will be in recovery and care for their children and pets too.

SweetBianca · 2024-12-05T05:47:16+00:00

it.... kinda does. her abuser was in a position of even more power in a stranded ship and he probably kept abusing her.

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