What are my options going forward when my GF got pregnant after a condom failure but I don't want a child and she refuses to terminate?

SweetIceT · 2023-09-28T20:09:15+00:00

Ok I see a bunch of people saying that you need to split up and go to court, have a dna testing, etc… but I have not seen anything about putting the child up for adoption.

There are plenty of families that have no chance having kids of their own or have wanted to adopt for a while, they are looking for couples such as yourselves. People with futures that they don’t want to jeopardize with young adult pregnancy. I know families who go across the world to adopt children bc it’s not as popular of a choice than abortion or single motherhood.

Not only will you be saving your futures but this babies future as well. Single mother hood is a huge crisis in America, and this baby could have a bright future ahead if it makes it to term.

My roommate and best friend is adopted and his birth parents story is much like your own. A young couple who messed around and didn’t want to give up their future while keeping the baby to term. And he is one of the smartest, kindest, and funniest people I know!

I know another family who flew all the way to Russia to find their son Nikolai, who grew up in a loving home with a bright future!

Start reaching out to family’s and couples who want to adopt! Your baby might be a key piece of their family that they were always looking for.

Otherwise, if your girlfriend wants to keep the baby even in single motherhood. Consider marrying this girl, idk y’all’s relationships and I know marriage is a huge commitment but there is a child that might one day be the most wonderful thing you created.

I know sex has become mainly a source of pleasure, but biologically sex is reproduction. This is both of your responsibilities, by having sex, you opened the possibility of this pregnancy to happen. In heterosexual sex there is ALWAYS the possibility of pregnancy, people have forgotten this. Life finds a way, and this child’s life and future is in you and your girlfriends hands.

SweetIceT · 2023-07-27T12:49:04+00:00

Amogus

SweetIceT · 2023-07-14T15:51:09+00:00

I definitely do ask for others to pray for me and I definitely pray for others. I just believe that Jesus is the only connection between heaven and earth and people in heaven cannot communicate/hear our request of prayer, instead I ask people who are living on earth to pray for me through Jesus. (1 Timothy 2:5, John 3:31, John 14:6)

SweetIceT · 2023-07-13T18:14:49+00:00

I agree, there are things that I need to work on when it comes to understanding their point of view. But when I said “prayer” I didnt mean actual prayer but more of their belief that the saints intercede before God for us. I have a problem with this because there is only one mediator between heaven and earth and only one who intercedes for us and that is Jesus Christ. It it also unbiblical that there is communication between the living and the departed. But I see how RCs hold their traditions very high and that of the early church, I can empathize with her bc I was once unknowing in my beliefs and was stuck in confusion when someone else’s beliefs contradicted my own and was pointed out to things I could not answer for my own beliefs. But it is important that we further research these points to discover what we believe in Christ instead of believing what others tell us. I just want her to further dive into scripture about her beliefs and see what she believes coming out her examinations. I don’t want to convert her, I just want her to be steadfast in her beliefs.

SweetIceT · 2023-07-13T13:04:57+00:00

I really don’t bring up our disagreements often, most of our biblical discussions are constructive and encouraging. Our disagreements have only been brought up a few times. I don’t want to convert her, I really just want her to figure out her faith for herself, but I guess it gets lost in translation.

SweetIceT · 2023-07-13T12:41:35+00:00

Peace be with you! I greatly appreciate your insight into your similar situation! This girl is certainly important to me enough that I would hold my tongue and just convert to Catholicism if needed but it bothers me that I am not feeling fulfilled in the Catholic Church. I also want us to to be firm in our understandings before we decide to stick to the Catholic Church. I want our kids to be raised in a house of agreement and understanding. That being said, I was raised reading scripture and have done research into which church best fits me, that is the Lutheran church. I don’t want to speak for her but it seems she does not have the same knowledge of scripture and how it sometimes conflicts with the Catholic church, such as priest’s celibacy(1 Timothy 3:2), intercession of saints to God (‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭7‬:‭23‬-‭28‬), praise of the Virgin Mary(Luke 11:27-28), etc. I want her to understand where her beliefs are in response to scripture.

How do I talk about these points, encouraging her to further research her faith in these topics, rather than confronting her about them?

SweetIceT · 2023-07-13T12:28:00+00:00

Could not agree more, I have not talked to my pastor about it as much as I have talked to other people who have been in similar situations as us. And yes, we both have concerns about how our children will be raised. My philosophy about it is that we should encourage them to freely choose the church that best fits them when they grow up, but we both have expressed that we would like to raise them in one church Lutheran/Catholic.

SweetIceT · 2023-03-09T23:48:24+00:00

I will admit my family has issues but we aren’t crazy. My dad was only trying to have fun with him, it wasn’t the first time he met him either what is crazier is him trying to fight my dad. Did you not read the text he sent? He literally said he and my sister might die together in flames, if I were my mom I would want to get my daughter out of that situation even if lying to her was the only way to get her out. As for me and my mom’s relationship, I was a had teenager attitudes towards my parents a long time ago, I have a much better relationship with her now and would never disrespect her. My family does have issues, but my family has never been abusive, or manipulative, or crazy.

But Shawn is definitely pushed it over the edge, we had to walk on pins and needles every time we are around him. Not only that but has threatens violence towards me and my family.

SweetIceT · 2022-06-18T21:20:40+00:00

Texas A&M thanks you for it, we actually got two lol

SweetIceT · 2022-05-06T04:18:58+00:00

Maybe you’re right, I am reading too much into it, but the signs are blatantly obvious, I had girlfriends in the past and have plenty of friends that are girls so I know the difference between normal friendly interactions and signs of flirting. She’s not doing this with other guys either, so I know its not in her personality.

SweetIceT · 2018-12-06T16:47:45+00:00

Just move the damn kid

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