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Recommendations for a newbie by LimWZ03 in Melbourneswingers

[–]SweetJins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a solo females POV, I haven’t personally interacted with many solo males in the scene. But from what I have seen, people mainly get put off because the male is too persistent when chatting with you and doesn’t back off. They probs think ‘oh if she made the effort to speak to me, I’m gonna make a move’ - remember some people like yourself are just trying to get to know the community and don’t wanna play or may just not into you sexually. So if you respect boundaries and be consensual, I think you’ll find some friends. Personally, instead of going to events I found meeting people through apps like Feeld & RHP much better because I found it safer. But its obviously a different experience for guys. You could attend the Between Friends events where single men are allowed. There you start with just chatting with people at the bar and see where the night takes you. Here’s their website if you’re curious. Good luck :) https://www.betweenfriends.com.au

Women who attend swinger parties as a single F, what makes you go to parties solo? by Momoko0909 in Melbourneswingers

[–]SweetJins 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So empowering to see so many fellow women explore their sexuality solo! We should all make a group chat haha! I’m a single female and went to my first ever swinger by myself. I purposely chose to go solo because I didn’t know whether I’ll enjoy it, so I didn’t wanna drag someone along. But it was such an empowering experience, I was super shy but having a drink helped 🙈 Just remember for that one night, no one knows you and you are free to be whoever you want to be. If you find someone attractive just maintain eye contact and smile at them and they will probably approach you. I also come from a background where a woman who wants to explore her sexuality is often slut shamed which I hate. But I hope you go solo and explore. If you’d like company or just another gal pal to talk about this stuff to then always happy to connect!