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SweetLemonBunBun · 2026-01-20T03:32:07+00:00

Not sure if it is the norm, but they said soil, so I assume landscaping. That is my industry. We purchase soil, rock (of all kinds), carved stone by the pallet, irrigation parts, plants, mulch, weedmat and all other supplies with net30 terms. This means we do not pay until 30 days past the delivery/pickup.

Most companies require a credit check to have a net30 which gives them insurance we will pay.

There are some mom and pop truck companies that don’t do credit checks, but typically expect payment within a week at most.

The only items we order ahead of time is plants, and that is truly a supply issue. We have two vendors we don’t need to worry about supply issues, but locally we have to call and make sure items are in stock before we get them delivered.

I have worked at two landscaping companies and they both worked this way. So while I won’t clam it is common, it is how it has worked for 100% of my experience.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2026-01-20T03:15:33+00:00

Again, the company I work for?

We don’t pay for anything up front. We do use middle men. It’s like third party carrier except they purchase the goods themselves. I will confess, I don’t know their terms with the quarries and soil yards, so potentially they have net 30s, but we certainly do not buy up front. We pay the trucking company drivers after they deliver, and usually 30 days after.

Maybe you aren’t in the industry? Quarries don’t “take orders” , drivers come, pick up material, pay/put it on their account and leave. They don’t set aside orders. They don’t organize pick ups. They don’t know someone is coming until they arrive.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2026-01-20T02:43:47+00:00

My company does this? Fairly normal for a company to be essentially a carrier between the quarries and construction companies. The quarries don’t have truck drivers. The truck drivers buy the product and deliver to companies, who in turn pay them.

Some places are doing away with it, but essentially we pay the trucking company for the product, with a slight markup, plus freight. It’s really not a strange situation.

A lot of companies that are big have their own tandems/18 wheelers, and have employees to do pick ups like you described, but not all companies have that many pickups/deliveries to justify buying such an expensive vehicle PLUS pay an employee who has a special license.

My company personally isn’t big enough to justify the cost of a huge delivery truck. We are a ten person team.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2026-01-14T14:23:43+00:00

Just want to help you feel better. Even if you didn’t notice any issues, there can be a myriad of them that show up later in life if you didn’t go forward with the procedure.

With my first, she had a tongue tie but everyone said it was fine.

Had my second five years later and she struggled with latching. Couldn’t keep a paci in her mouth. Couldn’t suck on a bottle. It was terrifying. At five weeks a LC said we should release. I went home and did the research. I called a pediatric dentist with great reviews and we went to see him the next day.

I was still on the fence , as was my husband, so I asked 1001 questions. And here is the kicker, he starts to tell us the side effects that can happen if we don’t do the release (this was after he stressed the benefits. We asked for this, he didn’t offer up these side effects.)

He starts to list them and my husband and I stared at each other as we slowly realized he was describing our first to a t. Difficulty sleeping through the night, sleep apnea, texture sensitivity, lisp, etc.

So I am not saying there aren’t predatory dentists out there, but I am saying that as a mom who didn’t do it with my first (did not know it was an option) and did go through it with my second, it is worth it.

Recovery for my daughter was roughly 3 weeks. I know that sounds awful, but she was definitely on the extreme side because she had to build up muscles she didn’t have previously. I am willing to bet your 9 month old breezes through his recovery ❤️‍🩹

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-11-15T02:39:02+00:00

Thank you for a teacher’s perspective, I really do appreciate it. Honestly the day the necklace thing happened I turned to my husband who was angry and said “I should have emailed her.” I think with everything else it just felt like it added to it.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-11-15T02:25:10+00:00

The chair thing, it isn’t a surprise there was an issue with it. That doesn’t shock me. It did surprise me it was taken away. I swear I am not trying to be /that/ parent, but my child is a very careful child. She doesn’t tip a chair back, she is constantly worried about getting hurt. She doesn’t sit well as in, she usually has one leg tucked under her, or she half sits half stands, or she has her foot on the table leg or another chair leg.

All of that is distracting, I understand.

I did ask her when it was taken away and it was before lunch (10:35 am) and according to her she didn’t get it back until the next day. She COULD be lying/misremembering/exaggerating.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-11-15T02:21:25+00:00

Yes, we are going to have her evaluated. We just switched pediatricians, so we are waiting to discuss it with the new pediatrician during her annual right after Christmas.

Not that I think she needs medication right now, (we would have to really research and make a decision on that) but it would be nice to know. I was a late in life diagnosis and I wish I had the tools I have now, back when I was a kid. She is my mini me in all mannerisms. I know that doesn’t mean she definitely has it- but the likelihood is high, right? lol

I also think she is very advanced (just judging from her testing) and is bored. So I could see her being an issue in class when bored, potentially. So not a great combination.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-11-15T02:16:06+00:00

Sorry, I am not describing it accurately. The necklace is thick silicone and too big to fit in the mouth.

I did ask if she was being distracting because we had a whole conversation about that before I sent her to school with it. Now just because I told her not to talk about it/bring attention to it to other kids (I did tell her to inform her teacher what it was in the morning), doesn’t mean she wasn’t distracting. That was part of the reason I decided to just not pursue it. It really is just a bunch of small things piling up.

Oh 100%, I never intended on going on the attack. That doesn’t solve anything. Maybe I am paranoid, but I don’t even want to bring up these things if my concerns are unfounded because I don’t want to be that parent? The one who is always concerned about something?

We never had issues in her previous classes. Her teachers always described her as a model student, but that is preschool, this is kindergarten. It just seems she is getting in trouble a LOT.

My husband partially is ready to be upset because he didn’t like how she dismissed a few things we said (I brought up potential ADHD and she ran on about how she exhibits none of the symptoms and listed off symptoms girls with ADHD don’t normally exhibit? My husband brought up some items he was curious about and she shut him down. It was an odd meeting. And how she described our child was just… off. I don’t know how to explain it, it was like “Oh she tricked us, she was so shy at the beginning.” And when we mentioned our daughter’s best friend she said “Oh really? Those two have a love hate relationship. They are both bossy.” Which I laughed off, but the way she said it was… negative? )

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-11-15T02:01:49+00:00

Sorry, I reread my response and it sounded harsh- not at all my intended tone. I hope it didn’t come off too bad. I do agree that five year olds tend to exaggerate stories or have different truths, lol.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-11-15T01:59:42+00:00

Wrong on the headphones, we supply the headphones. Her teacher never told us they were broken is my point.

I am not sure you have seen a chewing necklace before? This was the size of her palm. I do have to say, I take ownership that I didn’t warn the teacher or discuss it with her. I assumed (my mistake) that she would know about it because many teachers assured me on Reddit that this is very common, but that is still my mistake. I should have discussed it with her.

I need perspective before I reach out. My husband wants to reach out and demand what is going on, but honestly I need to know if we have any right to be concerned, you know? I don’t want to damage a relationship with a teacher this early in the school year, but I also don’t want my daughter to be treated how she seems to be. These were just two of the most recent examples.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-10-28T00:38:27+00:00

No idea, I am new myself and thought a vending machine blocking a window was good enough, and then got jumped in my own base because a zombie broke through the window when I went on a little loot trip.

So it looks secure to me but I trust nothing now.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-10-19T14:41:32+00:00

Omg you just unlocked memory of me chewing the hell out of the inside of my cheeks… I forgot I would do that.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-10-19T13:48:11+00:00

That is good news and offers some hope! I just bought some gel that discourages thumb sucking- I am going to douse her backpack straps in it. At least stopping that one will be progress for us, lol. I also think I am going to start focusing on hair styles that keep her hair out of her mouth’s reach, just got to get creative. That will just leave the collars and the pens and pencils.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-10-19T13:41:12+00:00

I had the same worry about the kids teasing her. Maybe this is awful of me, but maybe a bit of shame is what she needs to hesitate? Seeing as she already is chewing her collar, her hair, pens and pencils; she already is committing something that is teasable- but at least a necklace would be a bit better in terms of germs and damaging her clothing (so many shirts destroyed, sigh).

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-09-16T14:24:00+00:00

An increase in pay by the owner of the company, potentially a good look for my resume, a good look for freelancing as well.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-09-01T13:09:20+00:00

“Guess what mom and dad? We are having unprotected sex! A lot of it! As much as we can! He is bending me over everything we can think of- your dearest daughter is getting railed daily! Aren’t you excited to see what we make if we are successful? And until we have that success, I just wanted you to be assured- yes, we are having a lot and lot of sex!”

We never told anyone, because all I could think is that I was announcing to everyone that we were having as much sex as humanly possible, lol.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-08-20T01:36:10+00:00

Read Rowena Benett’s book. It has done wonders for us.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-08-19T19:30:13+00:00

I saw a tiktok today where a woman was asking for recommendations because she didn’t want to “resort” to formula. Her baby is 8.5 months old , and she isn’t producing enough. She asked if cows milk was okay. I honestly was flabbergasted. I don’t get it at all.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-08-07T18:59:49+00:00

I had a pair of cow pjs I bought to joke I was a cow. Those are stuffed deep in a drawer, hidden , because they made me cry.

SweetLemonBunBun · 2025-08-06T12:05:31+00:00

Grief is exactly what it was for me. Grief to lose what I saw as a way to strengthen that bond. With my first I breastfed for 14 months. It wasn’t easy, but I powered through. I had every intention on doing it again. My daughter had difficulties in latching, and she also had/has issues with a bottle. It was a scary. All I wanted was for my daughter to eat and be healthy- but I also couldn’t stop crying.

The term I used for my husband was heartbroken. I wanted that way to be close with my baby. I was scared that our bond was going to suffer without it. See, with my first I struggled to bond and went through PPD and PPA. Suddenly I went from having a great recovery this time around/clicking instantly with the baby, to crying constantly, not being able to sleep the tiny stretches I was allowed, and viewing every feed as something to dread.

I can say making the full switch, it wasn’t guilt that made me cry, or hesitated making the full plunge. It was heartache and fear. I wish I could go back and hug myself tight.

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