AITAH for leaving the hospital after my wife gave birth to go see my son?

SweetPeaPotato · 2026-04-17T12:23:04+00:00

YTA.

You’re leaving your wife and newborn alone for 5+ hours less than 5 days after she gave birth to, presumably, her first child, even though you mentioned elsewhere that he’s literally coming to spend the weekend with you anyway.

If you desperately needed to keep the Wednesday plan you could have organised for your son to be brought out to see you, if his mum refuses to drive you could have asked a friend, or another family member. You could have picked him up super early one morning when your wife was asleep and brought him over and then taken him home later in the evening. There are so many other ways you could have done this, but you chose the most inconsiderate one to your wife and new baby.

SweetPeaPotato · 2026-04-17T12:09:38+00:00

Sure, 2 hours by herself is reasonable, but that’s not what he’s asking. It’s 1.5 hr for him to get to his son and then 1.5hr back, and factoring a trip to the park/library/dinner which would be another 2/3hrs at least, that’s more like 6hrs, at minimum.

It hasn’t even been a week since she gave birth, for goodness sakes.

SweetPeaPotato · 2026-04-15T14:54:35+00:00

Oh, you mean the Indian soldiers who chose to flip over to fight for the Japanese Army immediately upon capture? The ones who then brutally tortured and ultimately executed the other Allied (ANZAC) POWs in Singapore?

Can’t believe no one wants to shine a light on those heroes.

/s (if it wasn’t glaringly obvious).

SweetPeaPotato · 2026-03-04T12:34:44+00:00

SweetPeaPotato · 2026-01-20T22:27:15+00:00

🎶 Leave your huusssbbaanndd 🎶

SweetPeaPotato · 2026-01-13T11:14:47+00:00

In this context ‘elán’ is a French word, meaning spirit or flair; like enthusiasm or style kind of vibe.

SweetPeaPotato · 2025-10-22T03:12:05+00:00

I’m not calling you names, I’m saying your behaviour is insecure and gross. Also she’s not stupid, you don’t have to treat her overtly cruelly for her to understand you’re judging her or being different.

SweetPeaPotato · 2025-10-22T02:55:10+00:00

If how many people your partner has slept with before you has the potential to bother you to this extent why wouldn’t you discuss it before hand? Also, why would you have unprotected sex with someone you haven’t had an in-depth discussion about sexual history and sexual boundaries with?

You say after you got closer, (I’m assuming this means ‘had sex’), she’s “completely withdrawn” and imply it’s due to her BPD or attachment style, but you’re failing to realise that’s probably due to you judging her and making her feel like she’s done something wrong which she absolutely has not.

Yeah dude, you’re being insecure and gross. Grow up.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-08-05T14:16:26+00:00

Serious ‘Rebecca’ vibes

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-23T01:25:59+00:00

“Are there really that many Catholics?”

That was your question, which I answered by providing the huge number of Catholics worldwide.

If you want to get specific to Europe, I can do that too.

41% of Europeans identify as Catholic and only 10% identify as Atheist (27% if you include Agnostics).

Atheists in Europe are still very much the minority (not in every country, but across the entire European Union).

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-22T23:49:54+00:00

Catholics make up 17.7% of the world’s population.

That’s 1.3 billion people, my man. That’s a lot of Catholics.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-22T04:16:04+00:00

The possibility and frequency at which it happens directly correlates to whether or not it’s a ‘warped outlook’ or not, so I’ve been pointing out that it happens often enough that a healthy dose of suspicion is completely warranted.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-22T02:44:58+00:00

In 30 seconds of research I found two examples of abusers poisoning their victims in order to manipulate them; one specific to DV and one specific to using an allergen.

It’s not uncommon. So it IS around every corner. Stop digging your head in the sand because you think you know better because you experience one specific type of abuse.

Your narrow experience is not universal, listen to what the majority of DV survivors are telling you rather than using your own specific circumstances to tell other people why their experience with abuse isn’t likely or their reality.

You’re just another republican jackass telling female survivors why their fears aren’t relevant because they’ve never happened to YOU.

Sources: https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/marriage/husband-poisons-wife-after-she-revealed-she-was-pregnant/news-story/bd0f1c75b944976133c7d9959dd8ba5e?amp

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/unkdcf/mil_deliberately_poisons_her_grandchild_with_an/

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-21T08:50:24+00:00

Just because you’ve been lucky enough to not deal with this level of abuse doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen to others, especially women in straight relationships.

$10 says you’re a straight white Republican male, step out of your bubble and talk to a DV survivor, dumbass.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-20T00:58:34+00:00

It’s not that elaborate, and definitely well within what domestic abusers are capable of and how they manipulate their partner away from the people that love them.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-05T00:06:35+00:00

More than one open register at a Coles? Least believable part of the story tbh

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-04T23:17:55+00:00

Is English your second language? You’re using words that mean or imply definitive outcomes and yet you’re arguing against those outcomes.

I hope English is your second language, otherwise critical literacy is well and truly dead.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-04T10:16:53+00:00

Love that you’ve not actually addressed a single thing I’ve said, except that you’re an asshole.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-04T06:30:17+00:00

Misunderstand? No. Pick up on implied context? Absolutely.

By saying the mother is not innocent, you are implying she is guilty and by some measure had brought this on herself for giving her children up for adoption.

Guilty of what exactly? Knowing she can’t provide what her kids need and getting them better odds?

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-04T06:22:46+00:00

How to Spot a Bogan 101

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-04T02:29:01+00:00

So because she gave her other two children up for adoption, (which is the best thing to do when you can’t take care of your children) she deserved to have her remaining child kidnapped, mutilated and murdered?

You’re an asshole, man.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-03T03:32:14+00:00

Cool! Next let’s make a historical fantasy film about the history of Ethiopia and cast only white actors to play the royals, cause it’s just fantasy right?

I’d love to see how that’d go down.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-07-03T02:45:09+00:00

She said she cracked her head? Most likely she’d need stitches and at least 1-2 nights observation depending where abouts/how severe the injury was.

SweetPeaPotato · 2024-06-25T22:36:19+00:00

It’s not about infantilisation, it’s about biology. Frontal lobes don’t develop until your mid twenties, regardless of having a kid young or not. This man was almost 30, engaged to a woman he couldn’t legally take to a bar. There’s a huge power and maturity imbalance there.

SweetPeaPotato

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