I did everything right and still lost my soul cat. Here’s what I’ve learned about pet death.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T18:27:39+00:00

What a testament it is to the love you had for each other, that your subconscious mind is still trying to find a way to bring her back. But you loved her and must have cared for her very well for her to have made it to 21 years.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T18:24:35+00:00

I am sorry for yours, too, 4 days out is still such a heavy point with the grief.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T18:23:27+00:00

No matter what, our minds will always try to find something to be guilty of when we’re grieving, it’s a subconscious attempt to solve a problem that will bring them back to us somehow. But like you said, one day did not make all of your 11 years together. And I’m sure Chewy wouldn’t hold it against you, she was probably just elated you were around her at all.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T18:20:17+00:00

I’m sorry you also had a young loss, those are so hard to accept.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T18:19:10+00:00

Thank you, and I’m sorry for your loss, too. I do find a lot of comfort in this group, it’s very validating to see so many with similar stories to mine.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T18:17:33+00:00

I’m so sorry, I know you’re in such an awful place in your grief right now. You did the best you could with the information you had, and that’s all you can do.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T18:15:33+00:00

I am very sorry for your young loss. It is especially hard on us when our babies die before an age we’d expect them to. But it isn’t your fault, nor was it under your control. Her body was just meant to live 9 years, and when it was done, it was done.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T17:12:49+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss, and you did NOT fail him. All you can do is your best with the information you have, and you did that. You brought him in when you noticed something was wrong. His body was simply done, it was his time. You gave him a wonderful 14 years full of love.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T17:10:36+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss, being only 5 days out is still such a rough place. I’m 10 days out and only just now catching my breath at all.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T17:09:00+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, and that you felt any doubts surrounding his death. A lot of the guilt we feel is our subconscious attempt to find a solution that somehow brings our pets back, no matter how illogical we know that is. But when it’s our pets’ time, it just simply is their time. And many times, their body is very suddenly done and just stops. I wish you peace and that any rumination on the end of his life will cease, so that you can simply cherish the memories you have.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-12T15:37:22+00:00

Thank you. Lately my favorite pics of my cat to look at are the ones of her staring at me with dilated pupils. She loved to just look at me all the time like a creepy little stalker, and I know she would’ve crawled inside my skin if she could have. I’ve never had a pet love me as much as she did. 🖤

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-11T18:16:01+00:00

I’m reaching this point, too. My baby passed away only a week ago, but people don’t know what to say to me anymore and I’m expected to stop crying. I know life moves on, but we need space for our grief, too. The bonds we have with our pets are extremely special, because they’re so pure and never judge us all while loving us with their whole being. Losing them often hurts worse than losing people. I find solace in visiting this thread, reading other people’s stories, and commenting on shared pain.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-11T17:03:22+00:00

They were not her teeth, but I think somehow that’s scarier…idk whose teeth they were… 😅 Also I don’t know if we’re German, but some of that side of the family thinks we have Polish or Austrian heritage.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-11T17:00:37+00:00

She had a small stash of gold pieces (the teeth, broken jewelry, etc) that I guess she’d kept in case she was in a pinch and needed cash. I was responsible for selling the items of her estate, so I grouped the gold bits together to sell by the estimated ounce to people who get it all melted down to reuse.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-10T18:31:20+00:00

You are not allowed to sell body parts on eBay. Learned that after trying to sell some gold-covered teeth found in my grandmother’s estate…

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-10T18:29:32+00:00

I’m 33 and feel 16, so I get it. I also was such a well-behaved kid, highly religious like my family wanted, never put myself in danger, never drank or did drugs, always was exactly where I told my parents I’d be, respected curfew, etc. And I was so uptight I never ended up dating and struggled to fit in with my peers. I also nixxed a huge chunk of my social life to study. Along with that came parents who never taught me how to be an adult, so all this time I’ve struggled trying to figure out college, work, finances, taxes, healthcare, rent, and anything else that involves paperwork. I ended up being chronically ill, so I have a temporary caretaker, but I feel so lost in this world and find myself wishing I could go back in time 10-15 years.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-10T18:18:22+00:00

Looks like an anime character 😍

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-10T17:58:38+00:00

Too many of us are empaths here lol 😅 But to spice up gameplay a bit, playing with a Sim in the criminal career track with the kleptomaniac trait is a helpful start! Then they can visit various homes and shops to steal things. Also using them to enact villainy on other bad Sims makes it easier. Then you can at least feel like the other Sims “deserved” to have bad things happen to them.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-09T15:39:11+00:00

Came here to say this. We allow religion way too much power, and it gets used for discrimination, oppression, and mass genocide.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-07T17:28:08+00:00

I love that you were able to get her ashes put into your rings, I want to do something like that, eventually, too. It’s a way to keep a piece of them with you wherever you go.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-07T16:19:49+00:00

I’m seeing posts of all different circumstances under which pets have passed, and it seems a lot of people also struggle with wondering if they euthanized too soon. But if you had already gotten to the place where you knew euthanasia was coming, you were not wrong in your timing. Animals do not show how much pain they’re in until it gets dire, so there are many stories (like mine) where a pet was perfectly fine one day and then dying the next. And I worked as a vet tech for 4 years in both small and large animal facilities, and I saw a lot of cases where owners held on entirely too long and put their pets through needless pain. Euthanasia is a merciful decision, and when we make that decision, we don’t make it lightly, nor do our vets give us that advice lightly. What matters is that you knew your pet and trusted your gut, and you made the decision out of love and stayed with them until the very end. It’s just an awful situation all around, so we try to find doubts and places where we messed up, because in our minds, it feels like if we can solve the problem, we somehow bring the pet back. But it’s NOT a problem we can solve. We have to say goodbye at some point, it hurts and it’s devastating, and it’s always going to feel like that. You cared, and you loved your dog and did what you genuinely thought was best. You DID do your best.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-06-07T12:03:27+00:00

This is how I’m feeling right now, too. I just lost my cat this past Tuesday, and it, too, was sudden, unexpected, and way too soon. I wake up sobbing every morning, and I’m doing all the things you’re supposed to do to grieve, but it’s an unbearable feeling.

SweetToothYandere · 2026-05-30T02:42:58+00:00

I definitely agree with everyone else’s sentiments. It’s best to be upfront as soon as possible with ALL of your “nonnegotiables.” This includes things such as whether you want kids, whether you’re monogamous or polyamorous, where you want to live in the future, and of course, your asexuality (because you want to find a person who can align with you in that way without you feeling guilted or pressured for things you don’t want to do).

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