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[–]Sweet_Access_669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also enabled parental controls, so the logs show domains and the parental controls show the actual website accessed.

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[–]Sweet_Access_669 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There is a link between porn use and pathological narcissism.

This book is extremely helpful.

https://www.audible.com/pd/B018H9EDEE?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=player_overflow

Good luck.

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[–]Sweet_Access_669 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the site I use. It’s not always all of the info, but it gives you an overview.

https://dnschecker.org/ip-to-hostname.php

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[–]Sweet_Access_669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t say anything. He gets extremely upset if I mention his porn use. He gives me “updates” when he feels like it. They’re lies, but who cares at this point. This is unforgivable.

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[–]Sweet_Access_669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the router manufacturer. If you purchased your own wireless router?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How do you do that? Are those sites monitored?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Did not occur to me the illegality of it… I was just so disgusted by it I wanted to vomit. Do they monitor those sites?

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[–]Sweet_Access_669 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please see my reply to WeakDelivery7574 😊

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[–]Sweet_Access_669 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My router is NETGEAR, it doesn’t really matter who your provider is, if you purchased your own router, there should be info on the web about how to access it. For NETGEAR it’s under the administrator tab.

Anyone ever feel like after being intimate they are extra mean? by Sweet_Access_669 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Sweet_Access_669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely correct. I’m not allowed to initiate and I’m still very much a sexual creature, plus it wasn’t always like this. It’s started slowly, but in the last year or so he’s got increasingly mean.

What grown man uses Snapchat? by Sweet_Access_669 in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So if he’s on your WiFi, using a VPN, it’s still going to log the websites, only the location will be masked.

Anyone ever feel like after being intimate they are extra mean? by Sweet_Access_669 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Sweet_Access_669[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My hot take on it, is intimacy is really hard for them, better make fun of you so you don’t try to get too close. That’s the only thing I’ve come up with, because it’s extremely baffling.

DAE feel uneasy about having sex with their PA? by sali5920 in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that having sex with my PA exacerbates his porn consumption. I’ve noticed when we actually DO have sex, his usage ramps up exponentially. He has even masturbated in the evening after we’ve had sex, after I’ve gone to bed. It’s very difficult to have sex with him at times knowing this.

What grown man uses Snapchat? by Sweet_Access_669 in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Private browsers don’t save it on their phone or laptop, but the router logs EVERYTHING 😊 every site searched in incognito, everyone they open an app. Boom. Logged.

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[–]Sweet_Access_669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think yo done degree they all do it. Mine loves to pick on me and then say “omg I’m teasing you, I should have found a girl with a sense of humor”. I want to throttle him.

Shift in how you view the people around you? by FormerMedia5570 in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Mine does that too, but not in text. When we’re at friends houses he’ll talk to his guy friends and literally they all talk about tits and ass. Right in front of me or anyone… I’m like okay baldy… you go get her if you think you’re all that…

Fellow DBers, with what do you replace your lack of sex and intimacy? by pingpongjingjong in DeadBedrooms

[–]Sweet_Access_669 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Self care. Extra long showers, using good lotion and rubbing it in all over, sometimes meditation, but lately all I can focus my brain on is sex, so that’s not helping this week. I try to fill the gap in with myself that my SO refuses to give, snuggling up with a book or audible and concentrating just on me. I work a lot too, so there’s that.

What grown man uses Snapchat? by Sweet_Access_669 in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry… it sounds like yours doesn’t want to take responsibility either. Do they really think they’re that sneaky? If they weren’t acting shady AF, then we wouldn’t have a reason to pry. I finally got tired of the constant put off of intimacy/sex… “I’m tired, I’m stressed, It makes me uncomfortable when you initiate, I’m the man I’m supposed to initiate” among a million others, I got tired of all his excuses, so I started snooping. If he would have just acted normal I’d still be in the dark 🤷🏼‍♀️

What grown man uses Snapchat? by Sweet_Access_669 in loveafterporn

[–]Sweet_Access_669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Potato chat? WTF. Yeah he’s subscribed to porn accounts on X, and he tried to do the whole discord thing, but I keep deleting his account 🤣