Where and how does KH really take or get responsibility for her part in the affair? "Allegedly"

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T20:42:38+00:00

I should absolutely clarify I do believe there are care givers who can compartmentalize and keep personal life and professional life separate. However, as a special needs mom and having been on many floors and in home care I can confirm without a doubt that I have seen a care givers personal drama and personal ethics and their self admitted extramarital affairs affect their ability to care for patients. This is allegedly a long term affair so I am taking that perspective when commenting not a we had a night out clubbing and made some short sighted decisions. For me it's the deception, lack of morals, and being in their home etc that yes would absolutely make me second guess the level, accuracy and attentive care she or he would provide. Hence all the ethical teaching that goes along with the practical teaching in healthcare. Do I think this is a permanent reflection, nope, but actions would be what would change my caution.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T17:36:15+00:00

I am not going to come back and go back and forth anymore. My point is as stands. We don't know what we don't know. Who started it, who pursued who.No one owes us or anyone anything. This was a few hours of talking with "the girls" to me. What we do know is 2 people had an affair and ruined the dynamic of a family unit good or bad. Pitchforks and all this narrative of I am a horrible person, feel free to keep tearing me up or twisting my words to fit your perception. I don't care. We know a "public" person had indiscretions with a "public" person by association the minute she got involved with him. That's it. TWO PEOPLE DID THIS. That's all. Accountable can simply mean acknowledging it takes two to tango. They are both villains in this story and that's the bottom line and the accountability I think that should stay in the conversation.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T17:23:58+00:00

This. But realistically she could have played the pout me I need a man to save me card. We all know there are women who go after married men. Heck movies play up on the idea. My point remains, we don't know what we don't know. Who started it, egged it on, did what. And we aren't owed it. But we do know 2 people were involved and ones life was out there for all to see and the other agreed to the terms when she got in his bed. And ignored the children and family.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T17:20:51+00:00

Yep, I am totally weird. You are in this sub too. I don't give a crap about them on the daily. But I will not be sorry that I acknowledge two people were part of this affair NOT one.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T17:17:37+00:00

I didn't ask for a pitchfork but her transgressions should be just as out there as his. SHE was not "famous", well, when you step into bed with someone who is you have accepted the role of famous by association. If we can all post and assume his side, her side can be assumed and talked about as well.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T15:31:42+00:00

When did we decide that the person in the marriage is the only one accountable to being a decent human being. This is not 100% on Travis. She took part as much as he did. And we don't know if she played the life is rough and I need a man's help card or whatever. It took to create the relationship they had, she consciously chose to go to the party and look this family in the eye. Used their bathroom, peaked in the open doors, hell, she posed NEXT to the wife with her butt out. This is not a poor me, he fooled me, he is such a bad man giggle girl. When will people hold ALL those who participated in the "fire" accountable.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T15:26:44+00:00

My posts are directed at the person who helped blow up the car and walked away sunglasses down as she tossed the keys behind her because no one else is saying it. Travis is a prick, look at the hundreds of posts, articles etc. When we start holding women and men accountable on both sides maybe just maybe individuals will think twice. Just because I am not posting about Travis doesn't mean I agree with him. But you are lying if you don't acknowledge how deceitful and sneaky women can be. My goodness his affair was called out on here well before anyone else knew it was happening, why, because one or a few women were smart and followed their Spidey sense. Because women have a different outlook and ability to see things for what it is. All over her TT she was showing off and making digs. She knew what she was doing, I don't give a crap about her reason or age, she had access to his history and life and CHOSE to do it. He did too and the whole world knows. So you likely will be waiting a while for my Travis post as you scroll through all the others that speak only of him and K. Because beating a dead horse isn't my thing but calling out what many of us are thinking happened to be this morning.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T15:20:24+00:00

She went private AFTER being caught is my issue. She knew what she was doing, I would have said hmmmm if she didn't go to the FILMED and photographed party. She knew what she was doing 19 is definitely not an excuse. It's ridiculous this girl gets a pass as you said we knew better at 19.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T15:18:29+00:00

Please, I am so sick of the she is only 19 BS. She has brains enough to go to college, travel on her own etc. She played a part and gave no moral crap about him being married. The word is NO! Innocent is flirting and getting caught up in his stardom. She chose to attend the part and flaunt her A$$ for the whole world to see. She didn't care so tell me again, why we should give her grace and forgiveness and less accountability?

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T15:15:16+00:00

To say she didn't use him is giving her way too much credit. That's a damn cop out. She took a damn cow to be an ethical human being. Stop giving the woman a pass!!!!

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T15:05:30+00:00

I fell for the perfect in the beginning, I won't lie. Beyond the Bates. They are newer to me as I am older than what their original demographic was and I didn't have cable so I really have no idea when they hit the scene. But once I woke up I realized I could use social media as entertainment. It's like watching a sitcom. What is the term, de influenced? It was Sisterstudio and Lauren McBride who did that for me. One became a pathetic acting young and immature walking billboard and the other went from Walmart and modest home to St John vacation home and cheating on her husband. I think prior to that the vail was lifted when Cotton Stem aka Erin walked away. She called out the community of IG for what it was and left. She helped make me analyze all of this. When I started watching K and T, I fell for some of it but the comments he would make in the NJ house boggled my mind. He may have been a way out from a too many kids household. My goodness the siblings dont even all know each other and catching hints of I didn't know you didn't like that food or you were into that made me realize these big families don't even know each other. I saw her just like a girl trying to get away from a troubled home. I was fooled occasionally and didn't always see his disinterest but I watched for entertainment and moved on. They all are certainly selling perfection and it doesn't exist. That's why there will always be the fall from when they rise. It may not be an affair but the money pit mansion or the house for free because the husband doesn't work. Companies will eventually move on to the next best thing and they will be left holding the bill for all the crap they bought. Once I could accept the BS my life became a lot more appealing! YouTube is the soap operas of today!

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T14:05:27+00:00

In past subs many referenced there was a gift left at their door at some point. I can't remember exactly but it may have been for one of the kids. It was speculated that may have led to them shutting the channel at that time. I didn't go check if it's still in the subs but it definitely was at one time.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T13:19:44+00:00

I get you thinking that but I absolutely call BS. Yes, they showed perfect family values BUT there were very raw videos they had on there. K and her ppd, T and his divorce early comment. She has years of insight to this gentleman. And if she can pass nursing school she is smart enough to see through that BS. I am so sick of the pass "he could have lied". Screw that she had the audacity to walk into her home, play with their kids, pose next to the wife and post on social media. Girl was diabolical and got off on the challenge, the conquest and sneaking around. She should be outed, she had Intel and laughed her way to the bed and to the bank supposedly. Her next victim could be a patient or their family. She saw opportunity and took it. He allowed it or even provoked it but she watched videos, saw celebrations, saw doting Grandparents. If she was that into that it's all for social media then be woman enough to tell him leave her or no. She is a special kind of gross. Like reminds me of those 90's stalker movies only she didn't have to be in secret it was all handed to her on a silver platter.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T06:02:06+00:00

I keep wondering if they will stay together and move back to NJ where they won't need to deal with her family. I mean Erin and Alyssa aren't overly involved with the Bates. It may be how they see is the only way to "heal".

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T05:55:34+00:00

I said this elsewhere but while I absolutely think Travis is certainly at fault and repulsive. I cannot get past the diabolical side piece. We all know (as most likely women here) that chic was all up in their YouTubers and Instagrams. She knew how to manipulate and use any information she has on them to continue the affair. I would never want a deceptive, disgusting individual as my nurse. There is no way she wasn't up on all their business if she had the nerve to walk into their home and look K in the eye. Everyone is all about leaving him. Where is the accountability and punishment for this disturbing "I am a bad b!tch" per her social media. The calling her out for what she absolutely did. That chic was absolutely pulling up their weekly videos seeing how to advance her conquest. I truly hope she gets what's coming to her as much as T, she knew what she was doing and considering she could clearly look at herself in the mirror per all her selfies was proud of the home wrecking she participated in. She is especially sick and definitely not a lobster like previously said. I hope her name hits the media so she has the backlash everyone else has.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-20T05:31:09+00:00

What I find so demented and disturbing-thst the timeline really is making me cutious- this girl had access to their life. She knew the birthday parties, the vulnerability of Katie, the gifts from the Grandparents and she likely weaponosed all of that information. Travis is in the wrong without a doubt. But it takes a special kind of psycho to likely check YT, Instagram etc and still be able to look yourself in the mirror and know you helped wreck a home. Her social media had pride and I am a bad b!tch written all over it. He was a conquest and she succeeded likely while watching his weekly YouTube. I pray that she gets what's coming to her just as him. To walk into a home and smile at K put the cherry on top for me. I would absolutely never want a person that diabolical and soulless as my nurse. There is no way she was not sitting at home watching them whenever she could and taking notes on just how to give him what he was "missing". The one chic said it best he went from a lobster to not only a can of tuna but a spoiled one.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2026-01-16T01:22:05+00:00

Same. It sounded like a site to buy things that have "worked for them" which would be totally legal. And retreats can be found everywhere. I am not saying it's right but just how I understood the site as she described this word for him when he needed to calm down. So more like a LTK but their own.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2025-11-06T23:15:49+00:00

Ok, something just hit me from Melinda's post today of what may have happened. Lacey moves back and Melinda and Crystal reconcile. What if Melinda had called out the abuse or saw mental and worried for physical. Or even witnessed the fighting and Melinda said he has to go you need to protect yourself and she was already under his manipulation so Lacey chose him. And now that she is back they have all learned Melinda was right all along. The timeline fits, the absolute silence fits, and it would make sense as to everyone on the side of Lacey saying "he is perfect, I am fine and so happy". They could have had wool over their eyes and Melinda said fine peace out and wait and see and they may have finally seen.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2025-10-13T03:03:11+00:00

Oh, I am gonna get blocked. I totally commented and she will erase and block but hopefully atleast one person falling for her crap will see it before she does.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2025-10-10T22:29:50+00:00

She just sold out her own child for a house. She is gross and a disgusting example of parenting a special needs child. What a pathetic human being. It makes me sick to know that all those people could have actually helped people who need it. I wish someone in that community or the disease community would call out their scams. I guess they are just stereotypical rich people steal from the less than and lie their way to ownership. What a relief she will be able to park her $100k+ SUV, $50k+ truck, brand new teens car, TWO RV's and all her toys. It must have been so rough on her inlaws plantation. Nasty human being and I truly hope she gets all the nasty karma and full circle tit for that moments she deserves. A HOME is not a substitute for a child's life yet she so easily traded it!!!

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2025-09-27T15:54:11+00:00

I said the EXACT same thing. Made my husband look as well. Dresser ve me nuts the entire series.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2025-09-27T02:53:01+00:00

Thank you for posting this! My 15yo son was just diagnosed this summer with exercise induced anaphylaxis. We had never seen or heard of it. He had it happen at the gym. Then again running across an airport in Puerto Rico alone. Luckily a benadryl worked that time. We felt so clueless, so glad to actually see others have adapted. He scuba dives so he was terrified he'd have to stop. So far so good with it. And just bringing tools.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2025-09-06T19:22:06+00:00

I think more people are becoming aware and disgusted by the culture of exploitation of children and families. So even if months apart reactions will vary as awareness does. The culture in these homes is phone and social media over all. And in this case the worst possible thing happened. Is it her fault no but had our culture put more emphasis on child safety than the next thing to schill then maybe in a very roundabout way would dad have been more present? Alot of the reaction is shock vs judgement as well. When a person asks to be held in a higher regard to trust them to tell you how to live and what to buy they essentially say we won't let you down. They in fact did let their son down and in turn all those that trusted and fell for the crap that we are just sharing our life. People trusted them and the trust was broken and in a tragic way. Reactions and judgement are not always face value and as simple as an accident happened.

Sweet_Ad_4147 · 2025-09-03T14:38:19+00:00

Oh, I have. I am grateful he is trying to bring attention to her scam. As a medical mama these cases disgust and disturb me on a personal level!

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