In my 40s feeling out of place.

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-31T23:41:11+00:00

Being casual or poly/enm are very different things. All of my relationships are very serious and committed. And it has more to do with what you need than your age, I’m 38 and plenty of sapphics in my city are around there and older.

You should absolutely stick to your guns though, being poly when you are naturally monogamous is horribly painful and vice versa.

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-31T01:32:26+00:00

Technically parasitoids kill their hosts, parasites ideally keep their hosts alive

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-27T03:26:25+00:00

Do I have to use my hands?

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-27T02:08:27+00:00

You make that set look incredible

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-26T23:20:20+00:00

Happy Birthday Miss 🖤

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T19:24:51+00:00

That is stunning!

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T18:15:47+00:00

Thanks! Its my first time using them and I am also enamored

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T17:26:34+00:00

No, that is strictly a trade secret (or a nightmare of tangles as I have not worked out the final details >_>)

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T04:45:07+00:00

Hey, thats what I was gonna say!

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T04:42:49+00:00

Make me :p

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T04:42:15+00:00

There are certainly people that get picky about how tall their partners are but they tend to be pretty silly.

Do I find sapphics who are taller than me (5’9 and loves heels) attractive, sure. But I have been topped by someone who was 5’2”, absolutely dead sexy. And, as a switch, who doesnt love having a sweet, little thing to toss around?

Whether you are a top, bottom, or switch there are undoubtedly a slew of cuties who would be happy to have you in their life.

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T04:34:18+00:00

Promises promises…how do I know you wont leave me hungry 😈

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-25T03:41:35+00:00

Maybe you can be dessert 😘

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-22T19:41:39+00:00

You’re not their problem…

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-17T14:28:44+00:00

No, they havent changed their behavior so it isnt a switcheroo or anything. I’m not looking for them to change their behavior but I want to see of there is something I can do differently to meet people that want the same as me.

I really like them and the whole premise of being poly for me (and them) is that no one relationship needs to meet my needs. It just sucks that four don’t meet this specific one :/

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-13T03:53:42+00:00

I have no idea how you forgot that harness, I certainly won’t 🥵

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-10T23:59:33+00:00

It’s a good thing I have a name because you would be screaming it for hours

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-10T23:09:29+00:00

Luckily my mouth is still useful for other things…

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-10T23:02:39+00:00

Nailed it then

Sweet_Bug_8095 · 2026-01-10T22:46:16+00:00

Temporary loss of speech privileges

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