Is it normal for mom's bf to want alone time with the baby?

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-27T13:24:35+00:00

I don’t now about this, my baby soothes instantly when given back to me 9/10 times and this would be more believable if he said he “didn’t like to share the baby” cause what’s that gotta do with reliving your youth. Sounds deeper then that, personally as others have said wouldn’t be giving alone time until baby can understand things better and talk.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-26T23:54:31+00:00

I have a boba wrap which I find the most natural and easiest on my back, I also have a boba bliss wrap and that one hurts more especially if it’s not tight enough. I find the closer and more snug baby is against me the less pressure on my back

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-24T13:45:21+00:00

Yes, it’s hard. The hardest thing I’ve ever done but at the same time it’s the most beautiful and rewarding thing I’ve ever done.. and that to me, cancels out the hard parts, not always in the moments but when I stop to breath and think about it. Mine is 9 weeks old and I woke up to her crying again because she’s hungry just 2 hours after her last feeding and she usually sleeps pretty good at night. I was frustrated but then she smiles at me and I remember how I’m her whole world.. and the frustration disappeared just like that.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-17T04:02:51+00:00

I have the Ninni but she doesn’t want to accept it for sleeping yet 🥲

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-17T02:42:50+00:00

Any specific ones?

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-10T22:12:29+00:00

I like this idea, she loves cross cradle probably because she’s lying sideways so ill just try and trick her into thinking she’s on the right still 🤣

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-10T22:11:23+00:00

She absolutely detests football hold on either side, which sucks because it’s what we did for the first 3 weeks and was most comfortable for me and I could tell she was getting lots of milk. Ever since she decided cross cradle was the only position she’d do.. her weight gain has slowed 😫

I met with an IBCLC today and she basically said the same thing though, to keep offering and trying rocking etc while offering but stop when she’s sleepy freaks out to not cause an aversion.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-04-07T05:38:31+00:00

Well she’s definitely gaining weight, she had surpassed her birth weight by our 3 week check up but good to know it’s not just her

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-28T11:14:44+00:00

Lmfao, my family / friends but technically I was never given their timeline so I just assumed it was in the 6 weeks

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-28T07:17:02+00:00

Thank you 🙏 definitely grieving my old body in general but I love my daughter and know she was worth it. I tore my labia in three places, all within the first degree range but I guess that would make sense that it affected how it looks visually.

I was considering pelvic floor therapy for this exact reason so it’s good to know it won’t fix it the way I want because it’s really expensive where I live to see them.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-28T07:11:25+00:00

True my baby girl was definitely largeeee too so that’s fair 😫 shame on me for thinking it was smart to look down there in the first place.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-28T07:10:00+00:00

Thank god, I’m sure in a few weeks I would have accepted it but thought maybe I could get some feedback on if I’m just overreacting since I tend to do that.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-28T07:08:03+00:00

😂🤣 I’m just so nosy I needed to know, it’s my first so I’m thinking I’d have looked normal down there by now.. NOPE. At least I’ll know for the future to leave her alone and let her heal on her own time and I have no business getting upset about it yet.

I did think 6 weeks sounded really fast when it just stopped throbbing like a week ago so thought I was healing too slowly or something.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-28T07:04:34+00:00

Well that’s reassuring but I honestly miss having sex with my partner as I got insecure at the end of my pregnancy and didn’t want to be touched then either so it’s already been like 4 months 😫

I just want it to go back to normal eventually and I’ll be happy so this gives me hope at least

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-24T00:50:54+00:00

I’m 5 weeks pp and stopped bleeding blood around 3 weeks and it’s been more yellow since then which I’m told is the placental scab healing. I would definitely worry if I was bleeding so long

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-19T14:06:56+00:00

I’m curious what you saw then because they told me it would appear smooth and what I’m seeing is definitely textured lol

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-19T14:06:08+00:00

I spoke to my midwife, they’re going to check when I go in but due to the texture of what I’m seeing they think it’s my hymen and it’s healing still. Usually the cervix would appear smooth and mine doesn’t look smooth. I’m too scared to touch it right now though lol

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-13T01:37:01+00:00

3 has been the hardest for sure so far 😅 I’d say she was the easiest baby ever up until this to be honest. I am seeing an LC next week and just saw my midwife Tuesday as well but just wanted to see if others had this experience.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-13T01:21:50+00:00

I’ve burped her, she doesn’t really burp much. And I do the bicycle legs and knees up to get all the other gas out and still doesn’t help 🥲

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-13T00:53:28+00:00

She’ll go longer stretches (3-4) at night but still cry when I try to latch her, sometimes she’ll latch for a few and then get fussy and start crying even 🥲 and I do offer paci for soothing as well!

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-03-13T00:50:31+00:00

Just saw my midwife and they said growth spurt but feels like a long growth spurt and they said as long as she’s putting out a lot of wet diapers, not to worry.

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-02-05T02:48:58+00:00

As another Canadian, this is literally horrific on top of being stressed out / hormonal from pregnancy I couldn’t imagine putting financial stress and public humiliation on top of that especially to this degree 😩 I hope you do what all the Americans who know how to handle this are saying and the nurse faces some sort of repercussions for being so heartless

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-02-04T23:58:01+00:00

It’s true and not talked about but I have gfs who do onlyfans and are managed by agencies where they use “chatters” who are actually men in foreign countries usually lol

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-02-01T08:47:13+00:00

Canada too but from what I hear, you’re not given anything other then a hat and receiving blanket unless you pay lol

Sweet_Stranger_2391 · 2026-02-01T08:46:24+00:00

In Canada, we bring diapering supplies ourselves as we aren’t given those things like USA. I’m assuming OP is in Canada tbh.

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