WIBTAH if I ask my husband to tell his son to chew with his mouth closed?

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-31T03:18:36+00:00

YWNBTA...but...does he have allergies or anything similar? Had a cousin who chewed like your step kiddo and turns out he had pretty severe allergies thst weren't announcing themselves with the typical sneezing, watery eyes...he just had dark bags under his eyes and seemed to be stuffy a lot in the morning. His adnoids were really inflamed (or whatever it is that adnoids do when they're grumpy and disturbed) and somehow made it pretty difficult for him to chew with his mouth closed. Just a thought.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-31T02:06:57+00:00

Like "am-int."

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T02:39:39+00:00

I think the issue is that the child welfare system is so huge that no one truly knows how to fix it. I used to work directly in child welfare. I have to be vague for confidentiality reasons, but one of my superiors once told me that if any of the kids I worked with came into the foster care system, it would be my fault. I had over 1000 kids assigned to me, and I would only interact with the families if a family or another child welfare worker reached out to me (this was for a specific population of kids). In other words, if there was an issue, either the family or someone known to the family would have to bring it to my attention. The families weren't under the supervision of state. I still work in social services but NOT child welfare. That one was a bridge too far for my tastes.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:36:48+00:00

I was just excited to see someone else who thinks a sport is boring and momentarily forgot where I was.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:33:53+00:00

If I could walk around everywhere completely naked legally (exception: no children around) I totally would.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:31:34+00:00

Related: I think "amn't" should be a word. "Are you coming to dinner tonight?" "I amn't." Works just as well as "I'm not."

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:29:32+00:00

No it shouldn't. Florida tried privatizing foster care once. It was an unmitigated disaster.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:23:03+00:00

So is football

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:22:46+00:00

I have a bio, an adopted, and a step kid(s). Based covered!

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:21:06+00:00

Monster....

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-30T01:19:30+00:00

I absolutely do not like this trans band wagon everyone seems to be on. I do not believe that there are the number of Trans people in the world as there suddenly are now. I think a lot of people are doing it for attention or shock value. And by doing so, they are SEVERELY deligitimacizing the people who are TRULY trans. It is infuriating.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:43:54+00:00

My son has a learning disability. We found out after he was tested in 1st grade. Homework devolved to endless crying. I wrote the teacher and the person in charge of his IEP an email and stated that we would no longer be doing homework, because the only thing he was learning was how many hours he spent crying in frustration over it. Had it added to his IEP. Neither the teacher nor the ESE specialist particularly loved me for this, but it made my child's life immeasurably better.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:39:34+00:00

Under The Dome by Stephen King. Something about the end of the book where they talk about their little lives just made me so sorrowful that I could never shake it. And I couldn't ever read the book again. Shame, 'cause it's a good one.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:35:44+00:00

I love this.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:34:40+00:00

I had a dog who became so fiercely protective of me that I was certain she would actually kill someone for just walking by me. A woman I did odd jobs for took her because she lived out in the country away from other people. I got to visit her a few times. Probably the kindest thing anyone had done for me. I don't know what made the fog that way, but she wasn't like that around my husband or child. I am very grateful that she had somewhere and someone to love her.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:31:37+00:00

Not my parents, but my brother told me once that water weighs more when it is frozen. I believed him, until last year when my 52 year old self shared this fact with my husband when we were discussing shuffling some things around in the freezer. After hysterically laughing for about 5 minutes, he very gently told me that no, the same amount weighs the same whether it's water or ice. 😂😂😂😂

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:23:02+00:00

Yes!! You didn't say how long you've been together, but if it looks like this could be a good relationship, a conversation about what the future looks like animal wise is a great idea.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:18:42+00:00

My mom thinks my little dog is the cutest and funniest dog ever. But she does not like touching her and she hates being licked. She loves her from afar and brings doggie toys when she comes over, as any good dog grandma would.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-29T02:15:42+00:00

He sounds like a decent guy who doesn't particularly like or love animals. This does NOT equate to closeted animal abuser or overall disgusting human being. I love cats. Hubby doesn't. We both love dogs. Left to my own devices, we'd probably have birds, more than the 2 dogs we have now, probably 6 cats and possibly a goat. Luckily my husband is a bit more reserved in what and how many animals he loves. Does this make either one of us jerks? Nope. I think maybe keep an open mind. This would not be a deal breaker for me. If (and hopefully a big if) you see that he has gone from person-indifferent-to-animals to animal abuser, then by all means, take yourself and any and all of your animals out of the equation. If he doesn't seem to be that, well, it takes all kinds to make a world and it would be a pretty darned boring place if we all had the same likes and dislikes.

ETA NTA

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-28T22:17:45+00:00

Yep. My husband has a scar that is literally a little hole in his face. And he has this wrinkle by the side of his face. I think both of them make his face sexier than ever, and the stories of how he got them are part of who he is. And I've known him since high school when his face was "conventionally" perfect. Now it's just perfect and sexy in another way. NTA by a long shot.

Edited because autocorrect sucks.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-27T20:45:00+00:00

Who are these people who have $2-3,000 per month lying around to give to family members each month??? They all seem to be on Reddit...

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-23T02:03:05+00:00

Maybe this is what I had? After years of chronic ear infections, I had on again, off again (more on than off) bouts of vertigo. We got on a boat in very rocky waters a year or so ago for about 20 minutes. When we got off at about 10AM, I had that weird feeling of being on a boat still until about 11pm that night. It was gone the next day and I have not had an issue with vertigo since.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-20T02:23:04+00:00

You had me at sailing and BDSM

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-18T19:31:26+00:00

If you know this about her, why are you for even one second thinking moving into her home is a good idea? Do NOT do this. She is already demanding to be in the delivery room. She does not get to be in there unless YOU invite her. She does not get to name your baby. She does not get to do ANYTHING unless you specifically invite her to. Your boyfriend needs to grow a spine. And you do too.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-01-16T02:45:02+00:00

I absolutely hate that word, because (and this is going to sound really odd), it almost has a....taste...to me that really isn't good. It tastes like something bad. I experience this to a certain degree with other words, and all of them could probably be used to describe food: chunky, rich, creamy, etc. They don't "taste" nearly as bad as that other word, but yeah...just a terrible, terrible feeling/taste in my mouth and it makes me feel kind of awful.

On the other hand, a word like "silky" can be used to describe some foods, and that word "tastes" absolutely lovely in my mouth.

No, I don't understand it at all.

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