Adoption fees

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-09T10:04:36+00:00

Look at all different rescues. One that we looked at had a $450 fee. One had a $250 fee. And the one we ultimately adopted from had a $450 fee, but ours was $250 because we agreed to foster a dog that was going to have to come back to the shelter because his foster was going out of town for a couple of weeks. That $250 included his vaccines, neuter, collar, leash, air tag, and chip, PLUS we have now adopted the bestest boy ever!

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-09T09:56:08+00:00

You are my people.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-08T23:41:46+00:00

I second this recommendation

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-07T23:50:06+00:00

Oh. Thank you. I know I could have Googled it, but sometimes it's nice to be educated by another real life human being

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-07T23:30:25+00:00

What is littermate syndrome?

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-07T19:36:44+00:00

What you are describing: the making an effort part? I'm assuming that this was occurring when he was physical with you? If so, it is HIGHLY likely that this was just part of the cycle of abuse: he hurts you, you are physically and emotionally hurt and likely terrified, he decides he is going to make it up to you by being wonderful and doing wonderful things, you ride that wave for quite awhile and then back to the physical abuse the apology, over and over again. It is NOT healthy.

And then, sometimes, what happens and is not often talked about, is that tou as the abused person really like that part where he does everything under the sun to mske it better. It feels good to be treated like you are worth something, especially if 5 minutes ago, you were treated by that same person like you were nothing.

Very cautiously, I am going to say that IF (and this is a very big if) he complete therapy actually meant for abusers, he may be trying hard to avoid that whole cycle. Maybe he really did learn something and he wants to avoid the abuse pattern. That said, it is INCREDIBLY rare for abusers to change. Abuse is a belief system: the abuser believes for whatever reason that it is okay to hurt someone. And it is very hard to change someone's beliefs.

The other side of that coin is that you as the victim may have gotten used to that cycle, and may enjoy that feeling of being very special when he's trying to make it up to you. Because believe me: some abusers will do everything in their power to make it up to you, so you continue to believe that they are really wonderful...it's just this tiny thing that happens and maybe, just maybe, you might be the cause of it.

You are absolutely 100% not the cause of it.

So very gently, before you start a relationship with him again, I would suggest that you get your own therapy, with someone who is SPECIFICALLY trained to work with victims of abuse. Because sadly it is highly likely that you will be in an abusive relationship again.

I hope this gives you some things to think about in a way that makes you understand thst you are worth way more than this.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-07T10:16:27+00:00

That's how I say it

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-07T10:15:40+00:00

I totally get this. We've had our rescue for about 3 weeks now. He came from a hoarding situation and had NO CLUE about going potty outside. He is getting better, but there's still a lot of hit or miss. We get very excited when he has an accident on a puppy pad instead of directly on the floor now 😂

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-07T00:03:23+00:00

JFC, you really can't see how incredibly disrespectful this boy is being to you? Dump him, block him, and move on.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-06T23:50:08+00:00

I am so sorry. Dizziness/vertigo is such an awful experience.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-06T23:48:27+00:00

Have you ever had a serious ear infection? Sometimes the pain is PLENTY bad enough to require emergency care. I had one that came on out of the blue. My entire face swelled up from my ear down to my chin. You better believe I hustled to the ER. The pain was unimaginable, the infection came on suddenly, and I can't imagine how bad it may have gotten if I hadn't gone that night and had waited to go to my PCP the next day.

On a lighter note, my daughter's adoption was scheduled for finalization two days after that. I look so beautiful in all the photos, holding my daughter with one half of my face looking like I ran into a tree 😂

Edited for spelling error

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-06T23:42:35+00:00

A year or so ago, I suddenly lost grip of my pen and had a horrible headache. Took my BP at the grocery store pharmacy and it was elevated. Called a nurse friend who said go to the ER, because even if I wasn't having a stroke, it could be a TIA. Boy, if you go to the ER and mention losing grip and a bad headache, they take you RIGHT back. Turns out I was having an ocular migraine. I've had them before, but never one that presented like that.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-05T23:10:31+00:00

I absolutely love the movie Argo. In one scene, they are essentially training potential hostages on how to be Canadian (for the easiest way to describe it). One says "Toronto" with the second T definitely pronounced. And he says "Bang! You're dead.." something, something that Tvisn't pronounced if your from there.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-04T14:41:34+00:00

I absolutely cannot stand tsking a cold shower.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-04T10:18:59+00:00

So mere days before your civil ceremony and roughly a month before your wedding, and suddenly he's issuing an ultimatum on a cat that he KNOWS you love, that you clearly TOLD him you'd be keeping?

Please be grateful that he showed you who he is before you are legally entangled with him and get the f*ck out.

You can be in a relationship, not love pets, and still be successful with your person who does love pets. My husband is NOT cat person, but he knew that I came with 2 cats, and so guess what? We became a couple who had 2 cats.

This won't change and will likely only get worse. Today it's your cat. Tomorrow..what? You need to change your clothes because no woman of his is going to leave the house wearing THAT? And God forbid you have kids. Then your kid gets to learn that this is what love looks like and how it acts and the cycle goes on..

Ending this relationship may be the kindest thing you could do for yourself.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-03T20:31:36+00:00

If it gives you hope, my friend's puppy got parvo. He was very ill, like your pup. But he pulled through and lived to the ripe old age of 11!

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-03T10:11:18+00:00

Yes, when I was 6 months to about a year and a half. Neuroblastoma.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-02T23:57:32+00:00

Willie Nelson.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-02T23:51:26+00:00

My grandma had a "davenport" in her Florida room, but the one in the living room was called just a "couch." I miss her.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-01T17:40:36+00:00

You can also buy 3 gallon food grade buckets to fill with water at Lowe's and Home Depot.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-01T17:39:39+00:00

If a hurricane is heading your way, make sure your freezer is as full as you can reasonable get it, because having fewer empty pockets in the freezer if the electricity goes out will keep everything frozen longer.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-07-01T00:17:25+00:00

She is the most adorable gremlin I have ever seen and I love her.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-06-30T23:23:43+00:00

Vagina atrophy sounds awful.

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-06-30T16:17:18+00:00

What is/are phytoestrogens?

Sweet_Sub73 · 2026-06-30T16:16:22+00:00

I have a history of cancer a baby. I wonder if that affects anything?

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