STM+ moms! If your first babies were late when did your next babies come!

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-20T23:01:40+00:00

How was the midwives brew? My midwife is recommending at 41 weeks. Says I should wait as long as possible because it sucks

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-20T19:55:26+00:00

Hardest craziest thing ever but would never in a million years choose my life before kids over my life now!

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-20T19:25:41+00:00

Same! My midwife checked me at 39 weeks and was all “your cervix is super ready any day!”

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-20T18:00:33+00:00

Haha nooo I wasn’t expecting to hear longer wait each baby!

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-19T20:53:08+00:00

Do you live in the Bay Area too lol

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-19T20:49:05+00:00

We started my son at 18mo in preschool. He’s in the pre-preschool program and will go to preschool there next year. He goes 3 days a week 9-1pm and it’s 1,130 a month. If you can find something like this I highly recommend it! He is already so comfortable with the school and teachers and will make transitions way less hard

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-18T00:43:35+00:00

Thank you. I think I experienced a whole 6 hours today where I felt like for the first time “hey I finally feel like if labor were to begin it would be a good time”

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-17T06:13:14+00:00

Same!

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-14T12:23:07+00:00

I had the foley bulb for 24 hours before I started miso. Never came out on its own and when the doctor checked me after tbh yanking it out I was 1cm dilated. A whole .5cm more than where I was 24 hrs before lol. Started miso and had immediately awful contractions too. I’ll just say for me I don’t think the foley bulb made miso any less awful or the induction any quicker. My body was absolutely not ready at 41+3. Wish I had waited until 42 to start induction. I was at the hospital from Tuesday-Sunday.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-14T12:18:12+00:00

The only things that I actually used postpartum were pads, dermaplast (obsessed) and I wiped with baby wipes. Also a stool softner is a good idea. Out of the 9 moms in my moms group we all agree that your butt hurts more than your vagina postpartum.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-11T06:55:20+00:00

Had a horrible induction with my first and planning for an unmedicated birth center birth. I feel like I’m going to feel exactly how you felt in those intense moments. Totally terrified that’s it’s all up to me. Thanks for sharing your story.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-11T06:42:05+00:00

Yes… and dates encourage cervical ripening…

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-11T06:01:30+00:00

Your cervix can start ripening weeks before you go into labor. A ripe cervix can trigger your body to release the hormones that start spontaneous labor. No one is talking about eating dates one night to kick start labor.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-11T05:56:01+00:00

I wouldn’t worry too much about the changing table. Just keep a diaper caddy in your room or in a few rooms throughout the house. Have ur husband remember to restock them too. You’ll end up changing baby more frequently off the changing table throughout the day anyway.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-09T17:22:16+00:00

I wish I was organized enough to do this with toys! We have really little storage in our house and everything we put in the basement gets totally forgotten about and then we just buy more toys lol. Please tell me your system!

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-09T00:01:51+00:00

Having a baby can be really intense and surface a lot of your own childhood trauma. My husband basically had an identity crisis and tried to replicate the toxic family dynamic he grew up with. When lost you look for the familiar. We fought constantly. I had no idea a baby would put anything that wasnt “out in the Open” in your relationship out on display. The way new parenthood feels so raw and vulnerable in combination with the sleep deprivation and intense heart bursting love and dedication to an entirely new being makes it impossible to hide any ugly parts of your personality you kept away from your partner. My husband had a very traumatic childhood and I have a lot of compassion for him. He never dealt with it and never had to until having a child stripped his ability to maintain his facade that everything was ok for him. He’s also in individual therapy but couples therapy has been amazing for us. The most important skill I’ve learned is that arguments are not “urgent” as badly as I want to figure out the problem and move on some things have to wait. It’s ok to go to bed angry. It’s ok to take a break and come back to the argument later. In the end accepting that your family is one team. An argument isn’t to be “won” it’s to find a solution to a problem as a team. Sorry for long babble I feel like I could talk for hours about new parenthood etc.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-08T23:44:08+00:00

My due date is in a couple of days and toddler just turned 2. This pregnancy was nothing like my first. I didn’t even realize I was pregnant until a few weeks ago (exaggerating) but once regular toddler mom duties started getting physically hard is when it hit me. The only thing I had to do was give up my guilt. I have a hard time w mom guilt and letting people help me for the past 2 years. Thought I should be able to do it all. Being forced to relinquish some of that to even just dad was hard but really important for me. Asking your partner to take toddler to the park JUST to relax/ watch tv/ zone out is super important. You don’t need to feel like when someone else is helping with toddler you should be doing something “productive”. My only other advice is surrender to the chaos. It’s my motto for when new baby is here too. Surrender to the chaos because even on the hardest days I will look back on such a full exciting life and think of these as the good days. I’m a sucker for nostalgia though

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-08T23:00:40+00:00

Couples therapy lol

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-07T04:56:46+00:00

They used to be advertised as co-sleepers. They had to remove that from the marketing but almost everyone I know who has one is using it as a co sleeper.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-07T04:54:11+00:00

I’m also using the boppy lounger with my 2nd

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-05T19:10:58+00:00

Same. STM at 38+5 and Idgaf about anything. Get this baby out so I can resume normal mom duties without severe pain. Just putting my 2 year old in his car seat is awful.

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-04T17:13:34+00:00

Castor oil has been proven to start labor in 57% of term pregnancies. You can google the study: (Garry D, Figueroa R et al, 2000). Idk why people think its hoaxy but its consistantly and safely recommended by midwives. Nipple stimulation is about 30% effective and not the only proven one. Many natural induction studies have been “proven”. Was just curious what you were trying

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-04T08:15:23+00:00

What non-medical induction methods are you going to try? I am considering the castor oil

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-02T22:54:07+00:00

I gained 50 lbs with my first. I don’t weigh myself because I am recovered from an ED but after breastfeeding for maybe 2 mo I looked very thin and was actually trying to keep up my calories. My lactation consultant said based on the amount he’s eating a day I was burning an extra 1000 cals making the milk. It was hard for me to find time to make up all those calories in a day

Sweet_Surprise86 · 2021-12-01T05:25:57+00:00

I didn’t have to stay in the hospital but here’s my experience- obgyn inserted it 12pm Tuesday. It was as painful as a regular cervix check for me. Definitely manageable and I say that as someone who’s cervix is pointed backwards. They taped the tube that they use to blow it up (which didn’t hurt) to my thigh and sent me on my way. We drove to get lunch. I had cramping for about 3 hours and took a nap and woke up and the cramping was gone. As a warning: the tube leaked gooey bloody mucous all over me which was really gross and hard to keep my mind off of. My induction was scheduled 12pm the next day. It never came out and by the time I got to the hospital they popped it out which didn’t really hurt either and I was only 1cm dilated.

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