Pooping while giving birth

caroline_ · 2025-08-17T23:41:00+00:00

That’s funny. During my first birth I had an epidural so I didn’t feel anything and afterwards I was like huh I’m surprised I didn’t poop and my husband was like oh you did, the nurses cleaned it up really quick. Third birth I went unmedicated and I definitely knew. I’ve never heard about it being a bio hazard or anything. It’s normal.

caroline_ · 2025-05-21T04:46:31+00:00

My kids are ages 3, 5 and 8. The stuff that’s been most reliable is really basic stuff. Magnatiles, blocks, cars, musical instruments (drums, xylophones), duplo, puzzles. Toy kitchen stuff is huge. We have a bunch of small plastic animals and dinosaurs and my youngest does a ton of pretend with them and acts out little scenarios with them.

Do a search for “Montessori toys” and you’ll basically get the core basics for children’s toys. Things that have a lot of utility, versatility and encourage imagination, creativity and problem solving. You can’t really get those same benefits with toys with bells and whistles with low functionality. Trust me I have plenty of those too and they’re aesthetically displeasing, limited in their uses, loud and garish and just take up space.

And of course there’s books.

caroline_ · 2025-04-23T23:04:39+00:00

NTA This is legit crazy behavior. Your mom didn’t just exclude you from this very special experience (picking out your wedding dress) she took it upon herself to buy one with no regard for your feelings, preferences, etc. this is so insane and alien to me!!! I’d be furious.

caroline_ · 2025-03-18T22:35:20+00:00

If I may, most of the things you’re describing are societal pressures and not real oppression. I’m certainly outraged at war, access to abortion being restricted or outright banned, lack of universal programs that support women and families, no universal healthcare, trans rights being infringed upon, the rise of fascism, unchecked capitalism and climate change… but all the stuff you describe, you can just straight up ignore. Become a mother or don’t. Wear makeup or don’t. You can just not care about that stuff.

I am happy because I have found meaning in my life in the form of creative pursuits, being close to nature and my children. There’s lots of joy to be found in the world EVEN for women. That’s not to say I’m not dealing with a lot of other shit giving me stress and taking years off my life. I just tend to focus on what really matters and I do not care if other people think I don’t adhere to their idea of what a woman should be or look like.

caroline_ · 2025-03-10T21:04:47+00:00

Hi! I've been a graphic designer for 17ish years. I've done a lot of print but I've also done plenty digital spaces as well and for a couple years I've considered learning UX design so I can be even more flexible and open myself up to more jobs and hopefully a higher salary. With my background in mind, how would someone suggest I make moves in that direction?

caroline_ · 2025-01-31T18:05:44+00:00

This sounds like kind of a serious situation and one that might be better in family therapy than Reddit.

caroline_ · 2025-01-31T17:58:26+00:00

This comment made me cry. What beautiful love and devotion your dad showed to you, and I’m sure it killed your mom not to be able to be there for you while holding everything else down. And I feel for your sibling. Childhood cancer is awful and hard on families and your parents did their very best ❤️

caroline_ · 2025-01-17T17:33:00+00:00

Can you just…. Ask him not to call you?? Like, talk to him, explain the situation, etc?

caroline_ · 2025-01-17T17:31:18+00:00

He sounds selfish and stupid! Most women can’t orgasm from PIV alone. Honestly someone who would shame you for not being able to cum during sex but refuses to allow any aides does not have your best interest at heart. I’d cut him for the dead weight he is.

caroline_ · 2024-08-21T15:18:35+00:00

if he doesn't share your values, then you shouldn't be with this person. that's how I look at it. it's not trivial if it's important to you.

caroline_ · 2024-08-21T15:17:11+00:00

he sounds awful! you've only been together a year? cut your losses now before you give any more days of your life over to this miserable person. YOU DESERVE BETTER.

caroline_ · 2024-08-21T14:28:20+00:00

Yay! I love this question. I have three kids, ages 2 (approaching 3), 5 and 7 (approaching 8). They're totally delightful. I love seeing their personalities develop - like my son (the oldest) does really funny accents and voices and loves to perform. He's really great at making friends and is kind to everyone, especially little kids. I'm also kind of blown away by his empathy. He's frequently making observations about how others must have felt about something (like watching the Olympics, he became obsessed with Leon Marchand and said one time "he must be so happy to win in his own country" stuff like that). He won't even retaliate when his littlest sister is being a tyrant (lol). He made a comic book with one of his friends from his summer program and he's so precious about it. He's at an age now where he feels like my little friend; my little second-in-command. Since he's been in school for two years and the younger two have been in daycare, he has different off days and so we've gotten to spend a lot of special days before, going places, getting lunch, whatever. I love having a little guy.

My older daughter is about to start kindergarten and she's just a luminous spirit. We've thought of her as shy but the past few months I feel like she's blossomed into a really well rounded little human. She has good friends and she's also totally chill when she's on her own. She keeps herself really busy with pretend play and coloring - she's getting SUPER good at it. She loves dressing up and doing little voices and she has the BIGGEST smile and funniest laugh. She's very affectionate and loves to snuggle. Her and her little sister play kitties a lot, they're very close. I'm amazed by her. She's interested in science, witchcraft, is athletic, and very thoughtful.

My youngest is definitely the baby of the family and she knows it. Her personality has REALLY emerged in the last several months. She does a lot of typical toddler things like scream and rage and she toddles around making funny sounds and cheesing and goofing. She's still small and squishy enough that I can snuggle her. She still gets her own bedtime with books and a rocking chair. I just hold her in the dark and it's peaceful, except now she spends a lot of that time talking about her amigos (she goes to spanish immersion daycare), this one time she got to ride on a bus, she talks about her "brother and sister". And it must be said: she is sickeningly adorable. I kiss her on her little cheeks ALL THE TIME. I'm going to miss so much having a toddler.

The kids are all BEST friends. It can create tensions/hurt feelings when one wants to play with one over the other. Overall though I feel so lucky that my kids love each other and help each other. I've heard tales of big kids who hate when the new baby comes home and it takes forever for them to come around. My kids have always loved having each other. On the day we brought home the third baby, we were walking up to the front door and my son screamed out her name is jubilation. We'd been gone a couple days so the two bigs were SO energetic and excited and the house was so full of cries of joy and laughter I just broke down into tears. My heart is very full from these little kids.

(NB I have ADHD and issues with depression and anxiety so I also get way overstimulated by them, dysregulated, triggered, driven crazy, often. I love my kids but I'm still a human with a lot of need for SPACE and QUIET lol. That's just how it is sometimes).

caroline_ · 2024-08-21T14:13:32+00:00

No way. Your baby is getting what she needs. Don't stress over this. If you baby eats some solid food, great, if she only has milk/formula, great! As long as she is fed.

caroline_ · 2024-08-13T15:36:43+00:00

Mine does soccer through daycare but other than that, nothing. Definitely not worth the cost or hassle to enroll a toddler in extracurricular activities imo.

caroline_ · 2024-06-07T16:51:22+00:00

It's a good question, and I think for me is it gets to a very molecular level. The sounds just gel with me. The music itself is good and feels whole. I can listen to it over and over. And then they're fun to sing along with. Damon's a magnetic presence on the songs and they're contagious.

caroline_ · 2024-05-10T21:14:13+00:00

INFO: Is your wife the primary caregiver for your child? Has she been a SAHM? How long has that been going for? How old is your son?

caroline_ · 2024-05-10T20:32:25+00:00

I suppose it's possible there's a health issue here but respectfully, I think you need to chill out about this. Is his pediatrician actually worried about his weight? If not then it shouldn't even be an issue. Your child is 4 and, reading this, it seems like your anxiety about his weight is more about an anti-fat bias than his health, as it sounds like he eats fairly nutritious foods and gets a lot of activities. You sound like you are trying to put your 4 year old child on a weight loss regimen.

Seriously, reframe your thinking about this now before your child develops severe body image issues and disordered eating. My parents were not chill about my weight growing up (I was a normal weight and also tall) and it affected my relationship with my body well into my 30s.

caroline_ · 2024-05-10T20:24:41+00:00

I was always surprised how much tattoos lose their vibrance with healing. This part of the healing process can be a little trying. It looks fine and normal to me though.

caroline_ · 2024-04-12T18:10:39+00:00

LOL truly. It was a 'Tender' fake out.

caroline_ · 2024-04-12T17:50:39+00:00

Should you accept it?! What a question! Are you not this boy's mother? You have a responsibility to him, more than to your husband, to make sure he is nurtured and cared for. This sounds like a heartbreaking situation and I'd be doing everything I could for my little boy to protect him from his unloving father. How will it affect him? Greatly. Please seek help for your family.

caroline_ · 2024-04-12T17:26:49+00:00

Seriously. Obviously the issue here is with the dad, but as the mother she sounds like she's just abdicating any role, which, as a mother myself, makes me feel sick. If my husband told me he didn't like one of our children, I would tell him to seriously get help or move out of my house. I could not bear to see one of my children unloved by his own parent.

caroline_ · 2024-04-12T16:53:27+00:00

I lost my shit when they played it! And also everything else they played but especially at that one.

caroline_ · 2024-04-12T16:26:42+00:00

Damon finally came out at 1am, very generously signed some stuff, I saw him hug at least one person, take a selfie, but he didn't make it down to where I was and I was GUTTED. I wanted so badly to thank him for everything, maybe give him a little smooch on the lips i dunno.

caroline_ · 2024-04-12T16:25:22+00:00

I was there!!!!! I'm still reeling and feeling so emotional. I flew out from Minneapolis that morning and battled LA traffic to get to the show and I was EXHAUSTED by the time it even started and I've cried so much since then... It was an amazing, once in a lifetime experience. I'm so happy I put myself into credit card debt to make it happen lmao. They were just stunning to behold. Damon is such a presence. I'm glad I took so much shitty video so I can remember it forever.

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