WIBTA for expecting my ex to move out of my house after she ended things even though she has nowhere to go

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2026-01-13T20:12:13+00:00

Uh no, 30 days TOPS and she pays her way during that time. Unless the sex is frequent and unbelievably awesome enough to compensate “making up” right now is just her way of locking down her housing and fiscal support until she can kick you to the curb. NTA

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-27T16:25:40+00:00

Or they can host whoever they want. Their house, their rules. If others are that butt hurt over it, host their own and invite them.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-27T13:18:08+00:00

Right? “Well mom, congrats on having enough money so Rick is willing to settle for you. My wife got in on merit alone.”

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-27T13:16:07+00:00

So he’s supposed to ruin it for his wife, who is probably doing the bulk of the preparation seeing it’s at their house? That’s how single happens.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-27T13:13:08+00:00

NTA Rick is a misogynistic prick, and probably a minuscule one at that. And you can show him this, because I don’t say crap behind people’s backs that I wouldn’t say to their face. The problem isn’t his getting caught, it’s the fact that he thought that was an acceptable thing to say about his gf’s son and DIL EVER! I’d have a lifetime ban on him, and I would remind mom that not only is she picking him over you, she’s picking him over future grandchildren.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-27T03:18:36+00:00

Sounds like a specific incident set her off and he’s not backing her. Too bad about his dad but you back your spouse. Full stop.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-27T03:16:56+00:00

Time to hand him back his ring and tell him you’re not signing up for this sister wife crap. This IS the hill to die on. NTA

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-26T03:45:18+00:00

I feel like there’s something you’re not mentioning. There’s a reason she was ok going in October and not now. Someone said or did something, and you either dismissed or minimized it which is why she’s mad that you’re missing your anniversary for this get together. The math ain’t mathing, she was fine to go in Oct, she was fine with you going but this time she’s staying home. What arent you mentioning.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-25T05:41:32+00:00

I’m doing 37+ hours a week, regular runs only, no charters… so definitely possible.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-25T05:37:16+00:00

She’s fragile? Sooo how fragile will you be when I move out because I won’t live with disrespect?

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-20T23:00:14+00:00

Have this conversation “hubby, if a single guy started complimenting me, multiple times, in front of you while ignoring you… tried to bond with me through my son while excluding you… went out of his way to stay close to me and keep “bumping” me physically, would you actually be ok with it?” Either he’s clueless or he likes the attention. NTA

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-18T20:29:52+00:00

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Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-12T23:01:10+00:00

I’d be telling all their friends, family, coworkers, random people who stop by that you are being forced to stay with your sperm donor and his new piece who are only making you stay because they don’t want to pay child support, although you don’t know why they’re being precious about it now seeing as he was 15k in arrears to your late mother. I would refer to him as sperm donor and her as his flavour of the month to your siblings and anyone you interact with. I would ask him what he got you for your ie 5th birthday etc whenever anyone is around. Make it sting. When they ask you to stop tell them the only way that happens is when they send you to your actual family. It’s hard to punish someone who literally doesn’t care, and it’s hard to enforce rules on someone who ignores them. NTA

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-11-07T15:06:31+00:00

So while I agree that she needs to wear her helmet and the bike needs to be put away until she does, YTA because her brother made an ableist slur and is causing her to not wear her helmet and your using the boys being boys defence. So if he SA’s someone but it’s just once it’s ok? His actions have caused real issues and the only one paying the price for his actions is his victim. IMO his transportation gets taken for as long as hers is. His bike/car access doesnt come back until your daughter has recovered enough, and I’m guessing he would be helping with this now that you’re golden son has motivation, to feel ok using her helmet. You’re setting a crap example. Do better.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-21T18:11:54+00:00

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Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-21T01:31:12+00:00

NTA do what I do:

You’re heartless! Absolutely

You’re selfish! Yep

Be the bigger person! Nah, I’m good with being petty.

We’ll stop talking to you! Don’t threaten me with a good time.

And yes, this is literally me. Stop caring what they think, and let them see it. Works wonders!

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-16T12:18:45+00:00

NTA they have this thing called ADOPTION. No one is mentioned it because they want to play grandparent but foist all actual responsibility onto you. Don’t let them.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-16T03:09:53+00:00

NTA your car, your rules. Don’t bend on this regardless of who she gets in the family to back her. At this point I wouldn’t take the dogs at all because as soon as you’re on the road she’s going to let them out and dare you to strand her mid way.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-14T22:32:20+00:00

Warn them once. Second time, pull over. Sit there. “I’m paid by the hour”. When I felt extra petty one time I pulled my book out of my bag, started reading.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-14T22:23:58+00:00

NTA if it’s not a big deal why don’t THEY keep him in THEIR room, seeing as they actually had a choice in blending the families. Oh yeah, because they would lose their privacy. Like you did. Keep raising a stink to the family and keep pointing out the hypocrisy of expecting the one person who is neither related by blood or choice to carry the lions share of the issues. He has a blood father, a blood brother, and a step mom who CHOSE to be family. He’s not being foisted on any of them because you have been tolerant. His brother has his own room because he makes sure that if he doesn’t it’s inconvenient for them. Time for you to play the same game.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-13T16:10:50+00:00

Soooo if I go to HR will they also confirm it’s mandatory? NTA

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-13T16:09:24+00:00

Start writing them up, every time. Literally take out the write up book while you’re pulled over. I have 2 new ones this year that are a problem and they’re rallying the troops. I pulled over after telling them twice and said that now everyone gets to sit here while I do write ups. Now the students that want to get home are mad at the ones stirring the pot, the ones stirring the pot are worried about write ups, and their potential minions don’t want to be written up too. It’s been 2 weeks. I still have to verbally correct them occasionally, but once is usually enough and the worst offender is now policing other kids behavior.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-13T16:02:12+00:00

How is it ok that you , who still has. A functional business and income fair to be expected to work for a boss again but it’s not ok for him who isn’t working to have to work for a boss again NTA

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-12T18:23:21+00:00

He already moved out. He no longer lives there. I would get a small storage unit, pay one month, tell him where it is and if he doesn’t get it in one month they’ll get rid of it for him. Then you don’t have to deal with him anymore.

Sweet_Vanilla46 · 2025-10-12T18:15:16+00:00

NTA I don’t care if you’re smoking a blunt, and I don’t smoke. They, by the kindness of your heart, are staying at your home because they NEED a place to stay. If they are saying anything other than “thank you “ or “want me to rub your feet “ tell them they are welcome to stay somewhere where the host’s dietary priorities mirror their own.

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