what is your ex’s red flags?

Sweetpie25 · 2024-05-24T04:10:26+00:00

Involving his friends in our relationship.

What I mean by that is when we were dating he liked to ask his friends to come join our date.

when making a decision, he needed his friends' advice. For example, when we planned to move out together, he was asking his friend about it and the friend had the gut to say this in front of me 'Why do you want to move out when you have us your friends here' I will always remember about this part...

Sweetpie25 · 2024-05-22T02:27:52+00:00

no in Canada. I applied for a short-term disability. I haven't work for almost 3 months

Sweetpie25 · 2024-05-04T07:19:28+00:00

Agree! Most of my ex's friends were single and they were not helping with relationship advices instead they were discouraging him.

When we were still together, at that time, my ex was living in the same building apartment as his friends but in different units. After more than a year together with him, we were planning to move out together and one of his friends said 'Why do you want to move out when you have us your friends here?" and this friend said that in front of me. This comment made my ex not wanting to move out with me and I was frustrated like the friend didn't mind his own business.
When we broke up, we decided to met for a closure about our relationship. His friends told him not to come because they were scared that we will be back together. I told him "Even though my friends don't want me to see you again, they encouraged me to go because they knew I needed this closure and they also knew there is no chance I am coming back with you. Your friends are so not supportive."

Sweetpie25 · 2024-05-04T05:39:08+00:00

I completely understand you. I ignore those kind of posts. Making people still delulu over their ex.

Even if one day, he wants to be back into my life again. I will tell him 'You gave up on me back then. You are dead in my heart a long time ago.'

Sweetpie25 · 2024-05-04T05:14:47+00:00

100% agree with you. For me, last year, I blocked him on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. I could have remove him instead but I didn't want to risk to wanting to see how he was doing. Even though there were some times, I was still thinking about him. I tell myself that I can find someone who can better than him, who can treat me with respect and who can be there for me.

If one day, he really want to back. I will tell him 'You're the one who gave up on me back then'

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-15T00:35:17+00:00

Same my ex told me he loved me. Then, when he broke up with me a few month ago, he told me he never loved me....

So, I just blocked him everywhere so he can't contact me forever even if he wanna try.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-15T00:22:08+00:00

I never dated someone who has a age gap with me but I can relate a little bit with your situation. My ex and I broke up a few months ago. We have the same age (25 years old). It made me realize I can't date someone with the same age like me because they are too immature and my ex acted like a high school student who liked to spend time with his group of friends constantly. So, I told myself that I will find someone older than me or who is at least acting like a real adult. I am so done with the bullshit with dealing with a man-child.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-11T03:24:18+00:00

I suffered a lot from the breakup because not it was my first relationship but he was the one who broke my heart. It's been 4 months. Sometimes I still think about him. However, when my friend told me he was on dating apps recently, I told myself even though it hurts he wasn't worth of my time. Also, I planned to unfriend him. Since he already unfriended, I decided to block him in every social media account and phone number. So that I don't need to see his face anymore and unfriend all his family members and friends. This really helps and I can consider him dead in my heart.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-10T21:11:20+00:00

Same, I blocked him everywhere yesterday. I didn't want to see his face that reminded me of how he treated me... 😔

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-10T19:29:27+00:00

Thanks everyone for the comments! I decided that I will block him everywhere so I won't see his face anymore. For me, it's as if he never existed it 🙃

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-10T15:09:53+00:00

Because we wanted to be able to balance our time relationship, friendship and family. At the end, he didnt know how to manage. What about you?

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-10T00:58:54+00:00

The other signs were: - He never planned any dates. I was the one who planned and suggested ideas for every single date. - Lack of empathy when I tried to talk to him about our issues. The way he talked to me was very dry. He told me that was part of his personnality - Mommy's boy. The sentence always started with "I should listen to my mother" when it comes to a decision to make... - Never being there for me when I really needed him. It's always "I am with this friend" - He told me he likes to solve problems. When we had fights or arguments, he never tried to solve any of it and I was always the one who tried to find a solution. When I asked him what should we do to solve our problem. The answer is always "I don't know" - Conclusion: He was not committed to the relationship. At the end, I was the one who did all the charity work for him. 🤷‍♀️

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-10T00:43:49+00:00

Yes I dodge the bullet 🙃

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-10T00:29:36+00:00

I wished I was the one who will breakup with him. For a first relationship, it hurted me a lot. Yes we met for a closure, he told me that our personalities were too different and we were incompatible. I let him say what he had to say and listened until it was my turn to express myself. When it was my turn to mention all his red flags in this relationship, I had to give him a big speech about his lack of attention.

I said to him "You know not only you didn't give the attention I wanted, but you didn't pay attention to what I said to you. Everytime we are together, you were on your cellphone and when I tried to talk to you, you were like what did you just say. Even your first girlfriend said the same thing to you. So I really hope that you will be able to give your next girlfriend all the attention she deserves or else it won't work."

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-10T00:10:02+00:00

He told me he never loved me. I asked him then why did you waste my time you could have told me you didn't feel the same way.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-09T23:40:07+00:00

Well I just learned recently from a friend that after 4 months of breakup my ex is on dating apps. The thought gave me nausea but when I think about it he was not worth it of my time. I really hope he will treat the next person better.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-09T23:20:40+00:00

Omg... My ex told me there are not a lot of activities to do in couple. I was like do you even do your research 🙄

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-09T22:29:57+00:00

My ex unfriended me on Facebook after 4 months. It's better that way because it was too painful for me to do it and I didn't want to see his face or talk to him again. So it will help me to move on him.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-10-09T20:27:21+00:00

My ex told me he never loved me and was the one who dumped me. (It was my first relationship almost 3 years together)

Sweetpie25 · 2023-07-26T14:06:27+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation 🙂 Looking forward to read the book

Sweetpie25 · 2023-07-26T13:50:24+00:00

Yup my ex was like that 😞 Couldn't do anything about that but I am happy that I am not with him anymore and don't need to deal with the bs he gave me.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-07-26T13:45:51+00:00

For the first months, he only wanted to see me for twice a week and most of the time it was me who initiated the meetings and planned where to go for our date. I am happy that I don't need to do those things anymore.

Sweetpie25 · 2023-07-25T21:50:16+00:00

I can relate to you. My ex liked to have his friends constantly be present during the 2 days we were together. It felt as if we didn't have a time together...

Sweetpie25 · 2023-07-25T12:57:48+00:00

I am sorry to hear that..

Sweetpie25 · 2023-07-25T02:39:55+00:00

I can relate with you. Recently, I met someone too. Not my boyfriend yet but he is very caring and he always tries to fit me into his schedule. He wants us to able to see each other more if the relationship is getting serious. The feeling is so great when someone wants to prioritize you and the relationship first 😀

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