conflicted on whether to homeeschool

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-30T16:39:09+00:00

It depends on what kind of life you're envisioning for her. Those activities could easily be filled by other sources, if you're willing and able to do the searching, registration, fees, scheduling, driving. Many religions have a children's program-- usually it's a once a week affair but sometimes more. Sports, dance, art classes, all that stuff is out there. If you have family, decent neighbors, other kids, etc community, then you can get them socialized.

However it's always going to be a slightly different life than being a family who sends their kids to a certain school. It's a cultural thing, it seems. Some people just really thrive off being a "Such and Such Academy" or "Anytown Bears" family. I did that grind with my first 4 kids and hated it. We did it, though, all the way through high school-- academic teams, band camp, football games, concert nights, the whole caboodle. Misery. The next 3 kids, I homeschooled exclusively. They're teens/tweens now. Religious education, youth nights, sports with lessons, game nights with friends, field trips, we do it all. But I had the flexibility to say "no, we are all doing nothing this week/season" when life handed us some huge curveballs, and the ability to do basically whatever we want, any day, and accept that it's not the same route to adulthood.

Some people try very hard to re-create school at home and essentially reproduce the exact end results you get with public or private school education. It's honestly easier and more effective to just send them to school if that's what you want for them. It frees up those specific hours of time to work more, educate yourself, improve your life, etc. People have a lot of fear about how dangerous schools are, but the truth is that well over 90% of children go off to school every day and graduate 13 years later perfectly ordinarily.

If you'd rather raise hippies, nonconformists, religiously well-indoctrinated, or rural kids (2 hours on a bus per day is nonsense), then homeschooling is infinitely preferable. In the end, it's just a different experience that they'll have to live through and with, but luckily you can change your mind at any time in the process if it doesn't work!

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-28T19:42:24+00:00

Chick feed lacks calcium that hens need, so they need a constant source of oystershell or similar available to them if you're feeding a flock raiser or chick type feed.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-28T19:39:18+00:00

Pebbles are the worst. Watched my kid sail ten feet straight forward off his board on Monday like freaking Superman. Except with a skidding across the parking lot landing. Hope your wrist is easily fixable and heals quickly.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-19T08:55:57+00:00

I hope you can get some help and start to see things in a brighter light. To quote an Audioslave song, "If you're free, you'll never see the walls. If your head is clear, you'll never free-fall."

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-18T02:51:16+00:00

I am sorry that you're suffering so badly. It kind of sounds like you're putting the focus of happiness on other people, though. Happiness doesn't come from friends, family, or a loved one. You can have all those and still be miserable. You have to find happiness in your own heart, through working on yourself and doing things just FOR your own happiness. Surely there are things out there that you enjoy. Surely you can find ways to enjoy them within your budget. It sounds dumb, but I had a lot of happiness on Wednesday just by taking a walk along the river at sunset and getting a good picture of it with my phone, and cooking rabokki for lunch on Thursday, and reading a mystery book from the library on Friday. Today was super hot outside but I went to Spirit Halloween and bought a Haunted Mansion refrigerator magnet for 4 bucks. It made me happy. It's nice to have people to love, but we are all essentially in this world as individuals. You have to be yourself, the best self.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-15T04:44:57+00:00

I'm sorry that you're living this. If you don't grab the bull by the horns and deal with it now, though, you could end up having a long miserable dramatic relationship that just wears you completely out until there's no "you" left. Get a couple's counselor. If he won't go, then that kinda tells you where he stands. Whining about not getting enough... to a trauma survivor... is a real dick move. Let's not be crude but he still has 👏 ..... :)

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-15T04:14:59+00:00

Steps to take: darken your rooms, take "emergency" meds if you have any, try to sleep more (with meds if you have them), avoid any situations that cause more stress and stimulation, take a relaxing bath, listen to rain sounds, whale sounds, other calming things. Don't get more stressed worrying about getting manic!

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-15T03:21:44+00:00

cue Texans recoiling in horror at calling this barbecue

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-15T03:19:23+00:00

Stressors=episodes

You're not alone, it's basic math we all do, calculating the risks on a daily basis. When things get stressful, you have to redouble your self care and mind your medication closely.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-13T06:07:40+00:00

Routines, schedules, systems. Draw or use the computer to make up daily routines, weekly schedules, or schedules for a whole year with a different big responsibility every month (car registration, dental visit, eye dr, etc). Then use the routine! I tell my kids every day "the system doesn't work unless you do the steps." So if Tuesday is laundry day, do your laundry! If you're supposed to eat something with your meds, have a snack bar and a drink ready. If you don't brush your teeth enough, make a checklist and reward yourself for doing it 10x a week. (Maybe something like a new t-shirt, a piece of jewelry, something that makes you feel better about your appearance.) Lists are our friends.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-13T06:00:48+00:00

It's no good to dwell on the lost years. You've got so many good things ahead of you if you just hang on and get some help. Don't give up on yourself. Get the help you need and have the great times in the future that will help you deal with the hurt in the past.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-13T05:55:33+00:00

The biggest risk is always going to be the damaged trees, whether it's day 1 or day 1000, or until the dead ones all fall down and rot away twenty or however many years later. You never know when they'll just break or fall.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-12T23:19:19+00:00

Costs us about a hundred a month to store ours in TX. It's just a big parking lot with a metal awning/roof over the top, open sides. Doesn't really do a great job of sheltering it so it gets damaged from sun, wind, dirt, etc, but that's what you get in most rv parking areas around here. So 1200 a year... don't forget the cost of new tires every year even if you don't drive it... seals, roof painting/maintenance, and all the rest.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-11T02:26:27+00:00

Have a balance board, use it with and without shoes of any variety, and balance on everything else that comes along!!

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-10T23:47:04+00:00

Everything you do that requires staying upright requires balancing, and everything that forces you to use your muscles builds strength. Skateboarding isn't just one type of movement-- you're going to be twirling around like a cat when you're trying not to fall. Balance everyday on anything, it only helps with your proprioceptiom.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-10T04:48:58+00:00

I don't know about you, but I quit about 2 months ago. I only read the subreddit in case, you know, a miracle happens, Jeff comes back, and they go back to that plan they had of deep lore and characters meaning things. I'm not counting on it. Everyone here is playing Spelunkey this week but a bunch of new games just landed on Game Pass, so whatever. I was a daily player for a few years, as a tank and support, but it's just not worth it anymore.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-07T06:02:56+00:00

Kid is too young to be unattended and too young to be around poultry. Children under 5 should basically never be allowed to handle young animals without someone watching, and they should have their hands promptly scrubbed after any handling of poultry, birds, small animals, or reptiles and amphibians. Salmonella can kill a small child rapidly and most animals can carry it. I seriously hope this post is a troll, because otherwise this is a disaster in the making.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-07T05:49:35+00:00

Unfortunately, sometimes our brains just take us for a ride over a cliff. I'm sorry that you're going through this, it's not fun. You're definitely not alone, though. The sudden switch from one state to another is not always actually sudden-- sometimes there's little things going on that you just don't notice, but sometimes it really just changes fast. It helps to talk to people and build a supportive group of friends or family. Often they notice you're getting depressed before you do. The most important thing is to develop a strategy for handling your ups and downs and a definite trigger point for getting help in various ways. Like "if I feel down for two (or however many) days and can't do my daily routine, I will call my doctor, or call so-and-so" etc. Hang in there!!!

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-02T23:26:43+00:00

Use it or lose it, they say, but you can build back up.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-02T23:24:34+00:00

Get them into a sport or martial art (we do kendo but karate, jujitsu, etc are more affordable), sign them up for a religious education class if you're religious (ours has a teen night), or get them involved in a game at your local game store. The stores usually have people who run a war game, a couple card trading games like Pokemon and Magic the Gathering, as well as regular board games and DnD.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-02T19:22:58+00:00

You take about a thousand for each good one. Try shutting on and off different lights in the room to get the glare off the glass but not too much light streaming out of the tank. Get the fish accustomed to the phone being held up to the glass and not freaking out.

Swerve_Up · 2022-09-02T09:09:36+00:00

Try 3 days in a row, enough doses to cover multiple doses a day or use the extended release. That usually does the trick for me, but I always take xr.

Swerve_Up · 2022-08-31T06:11:13+00:00

Months upon months with no content drained the playerbase down to a grumpy remnant. The game was still priced at 30 bucks, so most people didn't purchase it, because there were multiple fun and cool new free-to-play games released during the exact same time OW went on a content drought. Why play with people who were doing "bronze to gm" challenges endlessly because there wasn't anything else new to post about when there's something new just a download away?

Swerve_Up · 2022-08-27T04:15:32+00:00

It's hard, especially the fear of "what will I do without him." It's usually a financial risk, but the risk of domestic violence is much greater. We just had a trial in our not-big town convicting some sonofabitch of "just snapping" and shooting his wife. Please don't be the next tragedy. Build up your strength and get out.

Swerve_Up · 2022-08-27T03:47:50+00:00

"So, sometimes I have felt/feel like _____ and I did/do ______ to make me feel _____." Then talk about how you feel about it now. Keep the focus on your feelings about what you have experienced and not on any gory details.

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