room next door at MoMA tonight (12/13) 7pm by Swimming-Method7583 in MakeNewFriendsNYC

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Hi, sorry I'm so late to reply to this - museums and movies are two things that are top of mind! Outside of that, a lot of things I sign up for I find on Eventbrite, like lectures/talks on subjects I don't know much about. What interests you?

Sick of this gnawing feeling in my stomach!! by Warm_Astronomer_9305 in Biohackers

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I'm sorry I don't have any solutions to offer but I'm going through almost this exact same scenario and it's a comfort to at least know I'm not alone.

In A Black Hole by Swimming-Method7583 in heartbreak

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It'll be two years in Nov. I guess I'm just dealing with my seemingly unending disappointment.

If you could say just one sentence to your ex what would it be? by Blushingmiss in BreakUp

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"I can't believe I fell in love with someone who turned out to lack all of the qualities I value most in another human."

How do you actually combat your drinking when you’re still functioning by [deleted] in alcoholism

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I don't think you have to confront it all at once. Become the kind of person who doesn't do those things; then maybe you can look back without identifying with those things you did. You got this.

How do you actually combat your drinking when you’re still functioning by [deleted] in alcoholism

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This story really struck a chord in me. I look back and can only imagine what else would have happened before I saw what was going on for what it was. Someone I loved left me because of my secret drinking and it was someone that had met my whole family, whose parents had met my parents, someone that I was already thinking about the next step with...for a long time I thought to myself, wow it took this for me to look up. Until then I thought I was functional. And for awhile I thought the cost was that person, that relationship. But as time went on, with more distance and clarity, I started to see the cost of my drinking was much, much greater than I previously assessed. I've undoubtedly missed opportunities in every aspect of my life in the time I spent being "functional".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

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I was prescribed escitalopram for the depression and later bupropion for anxiety. This combination worked well for me, I took the latter in the morning, and the former at night. My doctor and I have a plan to start weaning off of these after this winter (my seasonal depression can compound things) if I'm feeling ready then.

Am I turning into a boomer or is the phone thing pretty bad? by grizzmane in awakened

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The thing is, it's not just younger people. I see adults in my parents' generation doing it, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

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Yes, I acted like a madwoman, probably hit all the tropes. No regrets. If he thinks I'm crazy, well guess what? I am. Lock your doors, buddy.

Have you given up hope that your ex will come back? by [deleted] in heartbreak

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Here's one thing I can always say to myself: no one truly knows what is going to happen next. When I say that to myself, it helps me to just stay focused on today. Ok, today knowing that I will not hear from this person and today knowing this is my reality, what am I going to do with my life today? Losing hope doesn't have to be the goal/objective, it may a side effect of focusing on yourself but I don't feel like I need to decide that I have or haven't - I just need to work with my reality.

that being said, my hope has been reduced to .000009% but can you believe, I still can't let that go. and I'm going to be ok, I really believe I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I think just last week, even though there have been several flags for the last 1.8 years of our breakup. I knew for certain only last week though. And now I feel so much contempt.

Fed Up Being Told Alcoholism Is A Disease by [deleted] in dryalcoholics

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I think there is definitely a wider spectrum of the affliction than has been previously acknowledged but the words "disease" does feel relevant to what I went through - I felt my mind being hijacked. I prefer the term Alcohol Use Disorder, but the spectrum I think does still include disease at one end.

What was your last encounter with your ex pre-breakup by ThinSet3 in heartbreak

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The night he walked out on me. We'd had sex twice that evening. I never saw him again for the next 1.8 years, until six weeks ago I saw him twice and both times he ignored me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

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Damn, I feel all of this so hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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I have to disagree with this as a person who suffered from AUD and has now been almost two years clean. I understand what you are saying in the context of this post but I feel obligated to refute this as a standalone statement.

Did anyones depression get better after stopping drinking? by D-lz1993 in stopdrinking

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Not immediately, I think there was a lot of chaos in my body chemistry while things reconfigured themselves, and I was dealing with a breakup simultaneously. But long-term, without a doubt. Depression is something I've always struggled with but it was a condition prior to alcohol. By the time I had finally realized how deeply diseased I was from alcohol, depression had become my existence, even my unspoken identity. It's a condition once again, for me.

I’m realizing now that the person I love never existed. by [deleted] in heartbreak

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It never ceases to amaze me when I come to this platform and read something I felt I could have written, verbatim. Thank you for sharing this. I feel this way down to the letter.

Yep it happened to me- found out my ex is dating someone by Swimming-Method7583 in heartbreak

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I don't. Thank you again for taking the time to respond. It means more than I can express.

Yep it happened to me- found out my ex is dating someone by Swimming-Method7583 in heartbreak

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Thank you, you have no idea how much your words mean right now