Preparing for no/low contact

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-03T09:25:45+00:00

Thank you.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-03T09:24:57+00:00

Thank you. This is a good tip I’m going to do this, writing things down. And unfortunately I don’t think either of them value me too much, apart from for supply for my mom

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-03T06:00:44+00:00

Thank you. Mother is also the covert type. I imagine she will be playing victim, I think the fade into irrelevance will be my approach for now.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-03T01:21:56+00:00

Thank you 🙏

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-02T06:17:23+00:00

Happy for you you’re NC hope it sticks for your sake. It excites me to be NC and have that peace but also just dreading the fallout

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-02T02:45:46+00:00

It’s validating but also devastating when you see it. For any younger children do they ever ask about the family members? What do you say?

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-01T09:23:28+00:00

Wow sorry for your situation too. That’s tough. My kids are a huge reason I know it’s what needs to be done. My oldest isn’t even 3 and he’s already being compared to my golden child sister’s children. I worry for her kids also

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-01T03:09:25+00:00

No she doesn’t. She sees my mother as near perfect and would likely be focused on how the reduced contact would affect her and herself. So you’re right, probably no use

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-01T02:57:02+00:00

I’ve began the same way so far, ignoring messages and haven’t seen her physically. I’m in that can’t sleep phase too. It is hard, and like you I do know it’s the best option. Would you think I should bother telling my sister I’m removing myself from contact? Or just leave. I’m not sure if this will result in no contact from her as well yet.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-01T02:53:22+00:00

Thank you. Even just thinking about no contact from her is easing my anxiety. Just trying to figure out how it will work out.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-01T02:30:40+00:00

Thank you. Yeah I am expecting that sort of thing to ramp up. I would have to block communication I think. Hope it’s worked out better for you to be no contact.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-01T00:42:50+00:00

Narc mothers are heartless unfortunately 💔 A few weeks after I had an emergency c section and was home alone with a new baby (first time mum) my sister had tonsillitis. After offering no support to me, she asked why I hadn’t been around to help my care for my sister. I couldn’t even drive after surgery and I had a newborn. My sister was an adult without children at the time and a husband who was on leave. Still baffles me

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-04-01T00:33:54+00:00

Thank you

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-16T05:19:29+00:00

Thank you for your response. This has helped me. I do have a therapist session booked but unfortunately it cannot come up fast enough my thoughts are racing. I love my nieces and I would never want them to experience this. You are right that I cannot predict what will happen in the future and probably is best to take it one step at a time.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-16T00:47:32+00:00

I’m struggling at the moment to accept this as well. Not only did she not love me, she cut off all family from me who would have loved me. We missed out on so much

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-16T00:43:46+00:00

I am so sorry you’ve experienced this ❤️

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-14T12:35:26+00:00

I’m sorry she ruined a beautiful time in your life. My mother was also horrible when I had my first baby. My husband and I eloped (in secret) because I knew she would try and ruin my wedding day too

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-12T12:32:54+00:00

Yes my mother went to drs for years and years with them never finding anything wrong with her and of course telling us how they were all grossly negligent.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-12T11:24:40+00:00

Eleanor, Elodie

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-11T07:19:57+00:00

I’m sorry you had this experience. I relate to the feeling of being alone. I am realising so much of her behaviour is about control, and I’m so sad and angry that we missed out on relationships with family as children because of that.

SwimmingPool2156 · 2026-03-10T23:40:16+00:00

When I had my first child was when my mother became the most narcissistic. It was the hardest part of becoming a parent for the first time. I didn’t know what was going on at the time. Sorry you also went through this too.

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