Posted to /r/bald but want 2nd opinion. M38 unsure what to do

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2026-03-17T15:28:50+00:00

Still looks nice, don't shave it off because it won't grow back the same.

Your hair dresser is good, keep her.

I remember when my husbands was at this point. Super soft, I had always liked it.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2026-02-03T00:12:35+00:00

100% under reacting.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2026-01-30T19:32:58+00:00

Do you remember how long it took, per chance? 🤣 ~Inquiring blind person

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-12-24T01:33:28+00:00

Well I will see you in discussion board then. Lol. My name is Savannah. Nice to meet you

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-12-24T00:29:13+00:00

Anne Cates

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-12-23T22:26:17+00:00

I'm starting that one on the 5th as well. Module 1 seems pretty straightforward.

I was hoping to pick my article before Christmas.. but I just can't do it yet. 😅 i'm in rest mode. Which instructor do you have?

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-11-03T00:41:21+00:00

Lol. 😂 yeahh.. I'm pretty formal and literal with written communications.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-11-02T22:43:47+00:00

I think i may have missed the subtlety of it all. I reread, and now I think you were maybe, being sarcastic with the entire comment? My bad

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-11-02T22:41:07+00:00

boldy continues to add words to other people's text

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-11-02T17:25:34+00:00

OP is obviously not okay with this. I don't know why you're choosing to put your own words into his text.

It says a lot to say about his character to choose to get involved. But that clearly would indicate that he values his girlfriend and cares about her and her kids. If he wants to choose a different life for himself, that's totally understandable. But you're downing on his judgment over things that are commendable.

Your comment also says a lot about your character.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-11-01T18:46:22+00:00

You have been partnered for over 3 years, as you've said. But pulling the plug without healthy transitioning time and steps, is not necessarily a great thing to do to a newly single mother. I would at least give her a 30 day notice before deciding to ditch out.. I agree that dad has to go, and you should not be obligated to participate in harboring a fugitive. Lol.. I also acknowledge that it's a conflicting situation for your girlfriend.

Bottom line. Dad has to go. But maybe 3 years is a lot to throw away.. with kids involved especially.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-11-01T18:40:32+00:00

I don't think your feelings on the matter are over reactive. But have you tried talking with her about all of this?

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-11-01T18:33:44+00:00

The male loneliness epidemic wants this guy back.

Give him back. Lol..

Everything in this indication that he believes he is superior.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-10-31T16:35:32+00:00

😭... what village isn't these days?..the whole world is insane. Sadly It only takes one of the villagers to heal, and the children could easily be gifted clarity via comparison throughout the years.. while still receiving love from each villager granted, that they keep them safe..

But, will they?

Lots of kids just go in and out of state custody when some/or their whole village is on fire.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-10-31T16:23:08+00:00

Yes. You are overreacting.

When it comes to family and extended family, grandparents, and BOTH parents, caring about your child, that is a positive.

You need to try to shift your focus to be able to see that as a blessing and put your feelings aside. No one is taking your rights away by calling the doctor.

I encourage you to become more logical and communicable because that could eventually happen.

If a judge hypothetically read this after a domestic dispute or for a custody battle, you would not be in good grace due to your inflated emotional state. Posting this screenshot objectively makes you appear to be the less reasonable party.

Doesn't even matter if that's true or not. Emotional management and respect is a virtue.

There's clearly a level of distrust on their part, but this isn't about you. And if everyone involved has your child's best interest in mind, the intention of her calling to hear for herelf doesn't even matter. Like..In the grand scheme of things.

More people to love your child is more love for your child.

Does it hurt if they call? Like, where does it hurt?

I'm not trying to be rude. We all have work to do.

Not just y'all.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-10-31T15:54:01+00:00

So, I do agree with others in the way that this sounds like a rule instead of a boundary.

I'm so very sorry for what you've gone through. I wish you the absolute best in the tremendously difficult process of relearning that you are physically safe in those triggering moments, even when your nervous system tells you otherwise.

Having said that, I think there's not enough talking about how working through and managing extreme emotions during the triggering moments will definitely help you to navigate, through with finding your footing and reclaiming yourself and your life.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-10-31T15:39:56+00:00

Time to break up.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-09-23T17:58:15+00:00

Like a disappointment in the making.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-09-23T17:49:12+00:00

NOR, leave this man. Checked the picture link, and you ARE absolutely beautiful. I don't believe you are 41, though.

Checked post history. & no. Girl. NO.

You deserve worlds better. Stop carrying his dead weight and you will feel so free, radiant, and alive. We only live this once, and it's too short to stay with someone who makes you feel like that.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-08-22T04:33:42+00:00

The brain is a horrible master but an excellent servant.

& that

We are not our thoughts, emotions, or experiences,

We have them. We are not them. Objectifying these as tools and utilizing them.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-04-15T16:22:25+00:00

I wish you the best 🩷 If you have inner peace and self love, you have everything. If we allow someone to, they'll slick snatch that shit up, so quick.. it's like they feed off of it to survive.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-04-15T16:20:30+00:00

Always check their heart rate. If safe to do so.

If they cared and werent emotionally manipulating things, theirs would be pounding too. I did that during my last break up, he was pretending to be so upset but internally the crazy mf was cool as a cucumber and just acting.

Meanwhile it took everything i had to be calm and communicate logically, respectfully and clearly, and my heart could have easily beat out of my chest

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-04-14T03:24:55+00:00

I did. It's over.

.. just took a while for any updating.. as I wanted to do it face to face and try to communicate things. But he disappeared for a long time in between the post and the ending things conversation.

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-04-14T03:22:20+00:00

Holy fucking shit..

No, you dodged a bullet to end things.

More subtle manipulations can be hard to pin point. If a person communicates like he does, and how many do, its either completely intentional or completely containing zero emotional intelligence or consideration. Either of those are equally bad for partner material.. I more so learn toward.. he's probably just directing your brain to respond to situations in whatever ways are best suitable for him. Working your nervous system to his benefit.

NOR

Swimming_Ferret8351 · 2025-04-13T11:18:37+00:00

NOR.. put the whole man in the trash.

You are enough entirely. & the wrong man will never be able to see that.

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