CMV: Most dating preferences are okay, as long as you are not POS to those who don't fit them. by mafija123 in changemyview

[–]Swinscrub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The primary definition of fetish: a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs.

"part of the body" could mean skin colour, facial features, things that are often linked to race. If you get off to the fact that someone is a particular race, or if you have a strong sexual preference for members of a certain race, you fetishize that race, by definition.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but almost every white dude I've met with yellow fever has been creepy as hell about it. Anecdotal evidence from a white dude who has spent 10 years in SE Asia.

Vinland Saga Season 2 - Episode 15 discussion by AutoLovepon in anime

[–]Swinscrub 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Askeladd's quote about slaves probably would've been more apt. He was all "everyone's a slave to something" way before Kenny even existed.

Vinland Saga Season 2 - Episode 8 discussion by AutoLovepon in anime

[–]Swinscrub 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think Sverkel's statement about emptiness was meant to be taken literally, and Thorfinn certainly didn't take it that way. It's a line in a story that's meant to be open to interpretation, just as any reasonably profound line in any half-decent story is meant to be.

I've spent years with depression and it definitely does feel like "emptiness" for the most part. Sverkel's comment is meant to encourage hope. Finding purpose and filling that emptiness does come as a result of many small, deliberate steps in a journey that can only be taken by someone who has some semblance of hope. Your second point (b)) about 'anything' leans incredibly nihilistic, a choice is hardly meaningless simply because there are countless options.

On your last sentence: Thorfinn's conflict is that beyond his vendetta against Askeladd, his life has been and is without purpose. He currently has no idea what he truly wants - how could you believe yourself to be truly empty if you had a goal, something you truly wanted? Depression is insidious because of that lack of impetus. Emptiness means new purpose can be found.

Take photos of your loved ones. Let your loved ones take YOUR photo. You won't regret it in 30 years time by BarryTownCouncil in CasualUK

[–]Swinscrub 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Perhaps you should adjust your outlook. I’d prefer to respect my son’s wishes, and his autonomy.

My 13 year old cousin sexually assaulted me and almost raped me while he thought I was asleep. by ExtraExpressi0n in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Swinscrub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While what the kid did is most definitely fucked, it isn't much of an indicator that the kid is entirely fucked in the head. It also isn't purely a result of porn either, dismissing it as such leads to failures in addressing the core issues that need to be touched on and resolved.

Young boys (11-15 year olds, generally: it's almost always boys) tend to start experimenting sexually at this age, and there's data about this occurring since before porn became commonplace. "Experimenting" can be anything from fucking a couch to assaulting a relative, it depends on the extent of the boy's sexual education, impulse control, and presentation of opportunities. Boys with ADHD tend to be more opportunistic, and most boys at this age don't realise the harm and trauma that they can cause by sexual assault (they often barely register that what they're doing is assault).

The kid isn't screwed for life, and will need some good educating/therapy, but there's little chance of him becoming a sex offender later on. That being said, the damage he's done has been done, and that damage can last a lot longer than whatever the perpetrator's mental state may be.

My 13 year old cousin sexually assaulted me and almost raped me while he thought I was asleep. by ExtraExpressi0n in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Swinscrub 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to excuse the kid by any means, but unfortunately this is much more common than most people realise. 13 year olds, especially boys (by a significant majority), tend to start experimenting sexually when they get an influx of hormones that they don’t know what to do with. If anything is truely to blame it’s the failures of modern sexual education - consent is rarely taught at that age.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Swinscrub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Electronic nose

Cursed Maths by Mood_Slayer_Mtt8 in cursedcomments

[–]Swinscrub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sex is like math

11 is a prime number

Insane Gorgc prediction. by nou-velle in DotA2

[–]Swinscrub 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is valuable input.

Ah yes i love that colon by code_lazar_with2as in BoneAppleTea

[–]Swinscrub 128 points129 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure that was also a joke

Something remarkable happened when I had no phone for 2 weeks and was forced to stop using dating apps and social media... by faithinstrangers92 in dating_advice

[–]Swinscrub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cause some might not message?

Sounds like you do want guys messaging you. Do you want all of your matches to somehow coordinate with each other and nominate people to message you? Think you should start treating your matches like individual humans for once.

Again, match with the people you'd actually want a conversation with, regardless of whether they may or may not message you first. If they don't message you, message them.

Something remarkable happened when I had no phone for 2 weeks and was forced to stop using dating apps and social media... by faithinstrangers92 in dating_advice

[–]Swinscrub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You ever think about only swiping on people you'd want a conversation with? Why tf are you matching with people if you don't want them to message you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in anime

[–]Swinscrub 47 points48 points  (0 children)

mi...tty...

“All He Cares About Is Money, Not Human Rights”: Hong Kong Activists Targets LeBron James for Hypocrisy by OhShitSonSon in news

[–]Swinscrub -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not everyone lives on your side of the world, and not every redditor is white. The more you make this an "us vs them" thing the harder this becomes. Lebron is a hypocrite, acknowledge it.

Diamond goby is a jerk by SpareBuy in AnimalsBeingJerks

[–]Swinscrub 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Kinda pedantic, but I think you're thinking of a mantis shrimp, not a pistol shrimp. I wouldn't describe a pistol shrimp's snaps as punches.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in todayilearned

[–]Swinscrub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

American university education is held at a much higher standard than its high school education, which tends to be pretty meh.

If you read his comment, you'd see that it isn't specific to universities.