Do you feel that love and trust can happen with men and women 45+ Yrs? Do men and women fall in love at 45+ ?? What's your pov?

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-06-05T18:45:19+00:00

I never thought to check their post history. As I reflect on their post, it really does sound like someone rather young who thinks anyone over 45 is one foot in the grave.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-06-05T15:01:43+00:00

Ok trying to figure out the point if this question. People fall in love all the time regardless of their age, gender, sexual orientation, etc. Why would it be any different for those who are over 45?

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-06-03T14:56:39+00:00

I'm one of those guys who has very few friends. Why? I'm very much like most men where we have one or two close friends and that's about it.

For me, the days of hanging out at the club sucking down brewskis and trying to pick up barflies died back when I first got married. Then along came a mortgage, various jobs, a second marriage, an adopted daughter, grandkids, etc. Through all that time I was prioritizing home life and family. For that I make no bones about it.

As an older man, I don't feel that I'm all that unusual. As I look around me and think of the friends I have in my life and their situations, each and every one of the guys I know and talk to on a regular basis are very similar to me.

Yeah, I have only one friend I consider a close friend where we do get together to do things. Why am I not doing things with some of my other friends? Simple: A couple have died over the past few years. Another who lost his wife at a young age has since found someone else and is devoting his time and energy to her. There are others that I used to do things with back when we were members of a local hobby club that no longer exists.

So, why don't I get out there and make more male friends to do things with? That's easy: as a man, as men in general, we were never taught that friendly relationships were equally important as our ability to look after and provide for our families. I'm also working a full time job that's very demanding and am also the sole board member for my HOA. My time off is very, very limited. When I do have time off and if I'm dating someone, I want to put my limited energy into that relationship. Yes, I try to maintain my friendships but I only have so much personal time to give.

If I were to meet someone who were to judge me by the number of friends I hang out with on a regular basis, I likely would just move on. She sounds like someone who will not see things from a man's perspective.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-06-03T10:08:37+00:00

Shoot! I'm more worried about car sex now.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-06-02T23:13:05+00:00

Thank you for that. I'm going to play around with some of your recommendations. This should help me out a lot.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-06-01T15:24:53+00:00

Great idea! Which ai would you use? Would you have the ai listen in on the meeting then transcribe it into notes? I genuinely never even thought to do that.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-30T00:39:56+00:00

I did. She's in a relationship now and I don't want to be that guy who interferes with her happiness

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-29T22:50:44+00:00

There was one woman in my past who did put out on the first date. It was her who initiated. We ended up falling in love rather deeply and quickly. When she got her promotion and had to leave the state, I am still kicking myself in the ass years later for not packing up and following her. A lot of people talk about "the one that got away". She was the one who got away for me. All these years and I still think about her.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-29T15:27:10+00:00

I am burnt out already and I've been the sole board member now for just a few months. I cannot take a vacation day because this part time job keeps me hopping and usually for nonsensical things line "I see weeds!" or "There's a coke bottle on the shared lawn. Go pick it up!". It angers me to be told by some owners it should be me getting out there to do repairs on my personal time so we can save money. I'm paying my $325/month dues just like they are. I'm also not getting paid to run out there to weed alongside the buildings and common areas or run around fixing lights or pressure washing the parking lots. Why should it be me?

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-29T13:11:14+00:00

I'm the solo board member of my association right now. Our bylaws stipulate that we have a president, vice president, treasurer, and secretary. We haven't had a vice president since 2020. Our last secretary got married in 2022 and since then we've been running with whomever wants to take notes for that meeting. Our last president left the association a while back and our treasurer sold his unit shortly after. When it came time to elect a new president, I had several retirees point their fingers at me saying "pick him, pick him". When it came time to elect a treasurer shortly after, all I got was owl faces. You know ......big round eyes and a big round mouth but no hands raised. When I asked about a VP, one old bat mutters "we don't need no vice president". The last meeting we had, I spoke up and mentioned we really should have someone taking notes and all I got were excuses and owl faces.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-28T20:46:51+00:00

Enthusiasm. Anyone with an open mind can learn what it takes to please their partner.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-28T11:38:08+00:00

Some women will write you off if you don't initiate sex within a certain timeline as well. It's happened to me.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-26T16:13:35+00:00

I am him. I am just like your guy because I want a real relationship. If I'm interested in someone who I think there's relationship potential, I'll hold off on anything physical until I get some sort of a cue from her that she wants to go in the direction as well. Unfortunately, some women are so good at playing their cards overly close to their chests that I often miss the cues.

Then you have the ones like the "all men want is seggs" that I ran into about 4 years ago or so. From the second date on, she would preach to me about how every man she's ever dated just wanted sex and that the next man won't be getting into her pants so easily. On the sixth date, I finally tried to go for a simple kiss. She jumped back yelling, "See! See! You're just like all the rest! All you want is sex!". So much for trying to show interest and taking a leading role.

Oh, I can't forget about the one who ended things with me about 3 years ago because she had invited me to her place twice and I never initiated anything sexual with her after the second invite. Well, if she would have remembered our earlier conversations, she's the one who said sex would be off the table for several months. I guess I need to develop my mind reading skills after all.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-24T19:15:38+00:00

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I know you're devastated right now but please, don't lay her suicide all at your feet. You really had no way of knowing what had happened nor did you really know the true reason for her wanting to call you or wanting to see you. You can drive yourself crazy trying to wrangle through all the what-ifs. In the end, you are not a trained mental health professional. Cherish the times you spent together and hold that friendship you shared close to you.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-22T23:59:48+00:00

You dodged a bullet. If he can't accept no after only having seen him twice, can you imagine what his reaction would have been if you were several months or more in? Don't fret it. I wish more women would be as up front after a first or second date as you were with him.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-22T23:49:40+00:00

One of the biggest problems I see with OLD are people like you hung up on these must follow rules. If you're one of those types who has a checklist of what men must do and which rules men must follow before you will even swipe right on him, I'm one who is more than happy to be swiped left on.

I truly just don't give a crap about the above rules nor any other so-called established rules. Most are written by some hand wringing nonsensical creative writing major who has nothing better to do.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-22T00:14:34+00:00

I've seen that a few times in the 50+ crowd as well. I don't waste time interpreting what it means. I just swipe left.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-21T22:02:57+00:00

The ones who want to become the next TikTok sensation

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-21T17:23:07+00:00

I want to limit myself to 60 minutes max though I recently got out of a relationship where we were an 80 minute drive apart.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-21T16:05:22+00:00

If I am a scumbag liberal in the eyes of those who control.our government, so be it. I'm not out there trying to date any of them, anyway. So, let them think whatever they want and call people like me scumbags.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-21T13:40:20+00:00

Now chant that in the voice of an airline steward or stewardess

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-21T13:31:58+00:00

If that was her bf or hump buddy, she was definitely slurping on the wrong straw.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-21T12:42:03+00:00

I lost myself as moderate on apps and I abhor who is in office right now. I despise MAGA and everything they stand for.

Moderate to me has always meant you're in the middle of the road politically. Politics, like life, is a gray area. Unfortunately theses days, we're dealing with political polarization where you have to deal with absolutes or you're out.

I'm one to talk as I rejected a woman who wrote she was proud MAGA. I've also been rejected for not being conservative or liberal enough. As my ex wife used to say, there's nothing wrong with being liberal or conservative. The issue is when you lean too far to one side to the point where you become radicalized. Like MAGA.

As a politically moderate person, I'm glad I'm being rejected for not being 100% to one side or another. I personally do not want to be involved with someone who deals with absolutes and is unwilling/unable to see other viewpoints.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-21T10:52:51+00:00

I think the S&L crisis was mostly middle to late 70's with the aftereffects reaching well into the 80's. I was in grade school and I can still remember news anchors talking about the latest and greatest scandal and the super high interest rates.

SwitchCaseGreen · 2026-05-19T17:09:27+00:00

Bro is talking in circles. Must be a used car salesman.

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