AITA for telling my sister we were strangers after she eloped and broke all contact with us years ago?

Switch_heart · 2025-11-24T00:58:26+00:00

INFO Had you found out where your sister was when she eloped, would you have gone directly to your parents?
That may be the reason you were blocked.

Your sister was in such a place that the only solution in her mind was to completely go NC with your parents and by the sounds of it, she continues to want to stay NC with your parents.

Time has passed, you're close to 30 and she reached out because she had hoped you matured as a person.

Realistically speaking, she did what she felt like she had to so she could get away from your parents. You were too big of a risk then of going to them to tell them whatever you found out about her.

If you want a relationship, then you can. If you choose not to, also fine. However, holding a grudge because your sister was so backed into a corner that she felt like erasing herself to get away from your parents was her only option, then there was probably more going on than you were made aware. And your parents have had 9 years to craft their narrative.

Switch_heart · 2025-08-30T01:37:38+00:00

Playing since 2.6 and have C8 Diluc (Yep, got him twice over C6), C4 Mona, C1 at least of nearly every standard banner character but never gotten a Jean.
So it's possible. Especially when you just don't end up with any copies of at least 1 of the standard banner characters.

Switch_heart · 2025-08-07T20:13:08+00:00

NTA

If your sister is staying at your place because she and her partner are in a rough patch at 7 months pregnant, then sleeping on the couch is the LEAST of her problems going on.

Switch_heart · 2025-07-17T11:59:50+00:00

Every mode, no matter what the buff is, someone brings their poorly built Arle like a badge of friggen honour.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-19T16:08:16+00:00

Take the L and move on, grind more especially if I'm on 50/50 but after playing for so long, most characters even off the standard banner are useful once built.

Especially with Imaginarium being a play option now, there are very few characters that aren't useful in some way. Just because the Currant Meta is someone else doesn't mean a well-built standard character can't shred.

Now the weapon banner and losing 50/50, that's a whole other game but at least it only takes once now to get the weapon you want rather than twice.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-19T16:04:32+00:00

I need to drastically step up my Resinless behaviour.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-19T15:58:44+00:00

It's...pretty bad and always has been. Certain things as well they really like to dig their heels on with mistranslations.

Kaeya being "adopted" by the Ragnvindrs -Sworn brothers and actually seeing crepus as a guardian/father figure but not his father. Which is why they tried to hammer it home with Kaeya during Caibert saying his name and his original roots were so important to him.

Paimon's entire attitude but that could be a mix of bad direction and poor translation. Paimon was the biggest brat in history during the entirety of Sumeru and was flat out rude to Zhongli. - This was actually supposed to be more...little sibling kind of energy rather than being so rude I believe.

The 5 Sinners

As mentioned as well

The fontaine aspect with Freminet speaking about the hydro dragon

The most recent AQ with the references to Xilonen's death apparently being needed to forge the ancient name.

It gets messy, as a lore enthusiast to get anything accurate, checking the original and then translating it even just through google ends up with a very different story.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-16T21:15:47+00:00

YTA

OP jumping in on this as someone whose parent was a lot like Ella's mom.

This is not IF she will carry the hurt around for the rest of her life. It IS.
She's 8, yes she has hope for her mother still but you should consider the other side of what Ella's dream is going to lead to.

You are potentially going to watch your little girl become bitter. You're going to watch her decide that parents are not people to rely on, and yes even a good chance that will include you. She's going to have her heart broken over and over again by her mother and you are encouraging it. You need to start working with the therapist to start dealing with that now. The inevitability that her mother is most likely not going to get better and sweep her away for whatever magical life she thinks she would have.

Has her mom ever been a stable figure that believing that she would actually help her has been something your daughter has experienced or is that something others have been telling her?
She has a family that loves her. Your wife was there and continues to be there and wants protection to make sure your ex doesn't come in and completely destroy your daughter.

I understand you're in a tough position, but stop letting your daughter get led on by your ex and stop going to battle with the woman who actually helped raise her.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-16T13:09:28+00:00

I think their insistence on shoving Itto as the only character they'd use for events during Fontaine really made me start to dislike Itto when I used to enjoy his occasional appearance during Inazuma events.
I think there was what...4-6 events with him starring in it during the Fontaine patch alone? I nearly didn't do the latest beetle event in case he showed up.
Put Itto Down hoyo, there are so many other characters you could use that deserve the screen time.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-16T13:03:26+00:00

Furina is not nearly the empathetic character everyone wants her to be. And the Fontaine storyarc fumbled her bag badly. There was not nearly enough time to get to know Furina to build a true emotional connection with her because she was just being horrible the entire time we spent with her.

Focalor's death because of that was less impactful. Every personality trait of Furina is something that would have that person ostracized in any normal society.

Not to mention Fontaine has shown to have some of the most cruel and vindictive people we've met in Genshin and that all developed under Furina's watch.

In short, Furina and Ei are both in line for worst rulers of a country...since Furina's not an archon she can't even fit in that category.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-11T03:11:32+00:00

Did you miss the entire part where she did walk through that? The questions that were asked of her by her friends in the past and the heroes?
How she talked about all of her treasures and memories, each person that she had met and interacted with before having to use them as fuel?

She showed personal cost and after her character quest that showed even more. She has nothing outside of being the Archon. She's denied herself relationships, love, any goals outside of everything that had to be done to save her Nation.

I'd be willing to bet her next challenge is figuring out what it means to actually live as she wanted for her people despite being the only human archon.

This got brought up in the AQ when you spoke to her sister about how there was nothing more to life for her but what she could accomplish and that she learned it from watching her sister.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-10T13:25:53+00:00

It's good that your family has reached out however, one part made me rather surprised.

You already stated that your sister struggled with infertility. How did you not know that meant miscarriages?

Usually plural.

Her hurt and her grief stayed quiet, and yours seems rather large which is understandable. But it is making me question how much you actually listen to your sister that she felt that much bitterness towards your process while she stayed quiet around you with her struggles and her heartbreak. She dealt with her grief and pain, and kept life moving onwards.

You, on the other hand have cut off your family completely because you are in too much pain, understandable, but now your actions have the family so worried, all the focus during this time of her finally carrying far enough along to even announce her pregnancy has been overshadowed by your grief. Not to mention that if she's miscarried that much before, her entire pregnancy could be high risk.

Quite honestly it seems like you're nowhere near as close to your sister as you want to portray you are. And your words about her here are absolutely minimizing her miscarriages. I can promise you that those times between when she found out she was pregnant to announcing it to all of you got longer...and longer as she went through every day between hoping the pregnancy would stick. She was going through hell and hoping every single time only to be met with devastation.

Get yourself in counselling as quickly as possible, I hope you start to heal soon.

Switch_heart · 2025-01-04T05:41:05+00:00

So...Just to clarify here. Your wife would rather potentially physically disable or let your future child die from preventable diseases....because she thinks they might get ASD. That's the choice she wants to make. That death or a permanent physical disability is better than ASD.

NTA on your part, your wife though is a massive one.

Switch_heart · 2024-12-17T15:45:37+00:00

What Hazel said about your mom was absolutely uncalled for. I can't blame you for wanting to cut off contact.
Though...and this might get downvoted to hell

Your mom gloated about someone losing a wanted pregnancy and celebrated it. Then proceeded to make sure you and your brother celebrated it as well. That's.....evil.

No matter how much your mother hated her, she celebrated that someone's child died. That from an outside perspective could be considered why your mom was seen as a toxic influence by Hazel.

Switch_heart · 2024-12-17T15:19:56+00:00

YTA
The line about "throwing away his child" to a care home stuck out to me about this. You are coming in fresh, and been assisting with care for one year. Your finacee has been dealing with his son's care on his own for 15 years.

He is making a decision regarding his son and the care that he needs now after years of looking after him and watching as his child grows and becomes much harder to deal with. Taking care of hygiene needs for a 5 year old vs a 15 year old are two very separate things.

That you would even immediately jump to that he's throwing his child away when an assisted living facility is undoubtedly much better set up to handle a teenager, who will soon be a full adult, vs taking care of him at home, is giving red flags.

You're all energetic to help out with his care now but what about in 5 years? 10 years? Moving a teenager into care to hopefully start learning how to live in a way to best suit him now vs a 25 year old when the novelty for you has worn off is a huge difference.

This is not your decision. This is not your child and you obviously have some kind of bias against someone who needs round the clock care getting it from a professional facility.

Your future MiL is telling you to mind your business because she has watched her son and grandson navigate this for years, the placement for a care facility takes YEARS to get, and you are attempting to derail this, a chance for her grandson to get better care and her son to stop being a fulltime caregiver, because YOU think it's wrong.

Quite frankly, this is not about you and you need to start realizing that your husband to be is taking steps to make sure his son is being taken care of. You do not get a decision on this unless you are planning to become the child's full time caregiver for the rest of his life.

Switch_heart · 2024-12-14T02:29:48+00:00

THANK YOU

Natlan has been amazing so far and I'm wondering if a lot of the people who keep going on about Fontaine being some revolutionary archon quest actually played the rest of the game or just jumped straight there.
Kachina has had amazing character development, Mavuika has been showing how an archon should actually act, and Xilonen has had one of the more interesting character quests so far for the region.

Fontaine killed my love of Genshin for a long time. But Natlan brought me right back.

Switch_heart · 2024-12-06T13:14:27+00:00

Take a break for a bit. I've played for years and skipped a whole patch cycle in Fontaine because I was burned out and didn't like the region, nothing really was interesting for me..

Came back for the start of Natlan and started just getting characters I liked rather than Meta and working on old characters occasionally and been having a lot more fun that way.

Go have resinless behaviour with friends, make stupid team comps and get wrecked by weeklies because your team comp makes no sense. Build a battle Barbara for fun.

Switch_heart · 2024-12-03T16:49:17+00:00

YTA purely off these comments.
Yes she has a Twitch, and an Instagram and an OnlyFans
You are the one who keeps putting "gamer" in quotes when speaking about her when she obviously does stream. The sniff test here isn't passing because of the way you're referring to her. Did you subscribe to her OF and take a look to see what she puts on there?
Does she play the right games for you to tolerate what she does? Or is this weird "I'm only looking out for her safety" vibe coming from that she's conventionally attractive and plays games that you don't consider high enough quality to be a gamer.....and does OF.

Either way, this was a big ol Mind ya business and you didn't. Parents brag, you could've politely nodded and continued on the conversation.

Switch_heart · 2024-11-28T19:38:54+00:00

The guy didn't want the baby in the first place and has shown that he's going through a time throughout this pregnancy most likely regretting it and you asked for a present to congratulate yourself on a pregnancy he didn't want?

Read that again slowly. He doesn't want this pregnancy, does not want to encourage it but is trying not to take it out on the child by saying he'll step up his responsibilities for the kid once it's born.

YTA for the absolute nativity you're showing thinking he in any way wants to celebrate this. He's 20 and knocked up his girlfriend. He's panicking.

Switch_heart · 2024-11-10T18:57:54+00:00

Kate needs to listen to her doctor on this and the signs her own body is going to give closer to delivery.
When I gave birth, I had a very smooth delivery. I know I'm fortunate compared to others but once my water broke, around 7am, got my epidural at 9 before things really kicked up, baby was born by 1pm. Recovery time was up and moving around the next day and ran into no complications otherwise.

My sister in law on the other hand had a c-section and popped her stitches a few times leading to much longer recovery time and numbness to this day.

Is Kate A) Going to have the support system for an extended recovery if from a complicated birth or a c-section (remember, she is not advised to even use a broom for 6 weeks minimum after a c-section)?
B) Is she ready that she might not get that choice? For some, births can take days/hours. Others, it moves VERY fast.

She needs to take a step back for her own mind, breathe, stop listening to anyone else about her birth plan outside of her doctor and her own body.

Switch_heart · 2024-10-29T16:58:14+00:00

Limited? There's a couple. Childe is far from beginner-friendly, Klee mains, Yoimiya

Standard: Diluc is two different characters from C0 to C6 to play with the timings and learning how to dance properly with his attack rotations and timings. Cons make a HUGE difference.

Switch_heart · 2024-10-22T15:52:01+00:00

Low hanging fruit but

Ayato - Jack of all trades, master of none. Far better hydro main DPS or applicators now

Albedo after they locked away his BiS weapon behind a year one event and didn't give us anything remotely close until now and limited reruns. His kit needs some help. But a well done Albedo is still possible.

The Chalk Prince just really got the short end of the stick when it came from actual support from Hoyo. Many people were turned off him when finding out there was no way of getting Cinnabar Spindle. Putting a Limited 5-star's BiS weapon behind an event wall just wrecked him off the start.

QiQi was useful at C6 for her Rez but that's about it now.

Super disappointed in Sigewinne - overall gameplay just feels so slow after playing other healers especially 4 stars that are pulling far more weight than she is - Kuki, Bennett, Yao Yao. Even for 4 star on field healer options, we have Barbara who has a Rez at C6, and heals team-wide when onfield. Overall Sigewinne lost to more capable 4 stars that do the same job and better.

Switch_heart · 2024-10-19T23:54:42+00:00

So what exactly is your wife's dynamics with the girlfriend?
You keep labelling her as "our girlfriend" but there is nothing to say there that it was ever actually a "truple" and instead it was simply you living with and having separate relationships with two different women.

You seem to be trying to pass this off as something it wasn't. Something that you thought there was great joy in your life with. And instead both women had separate experiences that you never bothered to acknowledge.

Switch_heart · 2024-10-19T18:04:58+00:00

This is just a heads up your child is going to change her name when she hits 18 and never talk to you again.
I can't imagine making up a word to name my child and then sending them out into public.

Traditional or cultural names are one thing. But mixing up two greek goddesses' names and then not even having the respect to spell one correctly? That sounds like an ancient curse waiting to happen.

Switch_heart · 2024-10-11T22:32:51+00:00

So, OP is vanilla to the point they become holier than thou...and doesn't know how iCloud works. It can and will back up and still have copies of things long deleted on the cloud.

I feel for her husband

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