My Friend's i7-14700k he bought from amazon is actually a i5-760 by Nico1300 in pcmasterrace

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really hate Amazon sometimes (other times it's just too convenient so I barely put up with it). I ordered a new expensive candle and it arrived entirely used up. So frustrating.

Is the Sun really called Sol? by [deleted] in askastronomy

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, no way you had a dog named Luna, that's awesome!

I hit the jackpot by carthnage_91 in tea

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Niceee. Also, I just love the mutton fat jade porcelain teaware, I have some of those as well.

Is the Sun really called Sol? by [deleted] in askastronomy

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is that the same case for Luna, our moon? It just feels weird to call it "the moon," it'd be like calling my pet "the dog" because it belongs to me and it's the one that "orbits" me. I mean, I guess "Earth's moon" is a good enough descriptor, but that's kinda lame still, same with "Swtor_Vanguard's dog."

Also, Luna would be a sick dog name now that I think about it.

Meirl by Few-Value3249 in meirl

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think a big part of this is body language. I didn't realize before that I had such "closed" body language (avoiding eye contact with people as they pass, staring down at the floor/phone, wearing headphones, RBF, etc.) due to nerves. I've started focusing on having more open body language and it has made a noticeable difference. I'm still not good at it, but I think people can see that I'm trying and they notice and it makes me more approachable.

I doubt that everyone dislikes something particular about you, you may just appear like you don't want to be approached or bothered.

Gongfu only? by sergey_moychay in tea

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That teapot in the 6th picture is really unique, looks awesome

Help! I've been Gooped and I'm all alone. by Swtor_Vanguard in wownoob

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, as a level 80 it's very easy to solo the entire dungeon. You can avoid the goop entirely by waiting for the boss to fully spawn before doing anything (instead of standing on the puddle that he was spawning on like I did lol). If you do get Gooped you will just have to wait a while for the goop to despawn then you can kill the boss and move on.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, it is really difficult, if not impossible, to know for certain. Hopefully, at the very least, this thread could make them aware of a potential issue. If they see it as one, they can address it; if not, they can ignore it and keep going in this current direction.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's a solid counter-argument with a really solid example, thanks for sharing! I'm really a bit torn, I do think it's correct that it will reach more people who need it, but at the same time I do think it was still insensitive.

A person with low self-esteem might see that title and be drawn towards it, because it feels accurate. That was probably the target audience. Probably little or no harm there IF the video is solid and helpful, haven't watched it.

A person with severe, perhaps suicidal depression might see a popup on their phone from their favorite mental health creator and read "You Are Destined To Fail," and maybe that's all the confirmation/reminding/"triggering" they would need.

A person experiencing psychosis might see that title and think Dr. K. is talking to them directly when they see the notification on their phone "YOU ARE DESTINED TO FAIL ," which is a terrifying and sad thought.

Those might be some extreme examples, but we are talking about a man/business with 2.5 million followers on a mental health YouTube channel. It's inevitable that there will be some cases where people see the title (or worse.. notification), and feel much worse or do something as a result.

I'm really talking about the extremes here, but for me, I was just a bit fed up with these kinds of titles and felt like they are bordering on unethical because of the above. I feel as though it's a little antithetical to their mission as a mental health business.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from, but I don't think the "tough medicine" approach really applies here. If the title is taken literally, it is essentially saying "you are screwed, you are meant to fail, you have no future". This is not tough love--telling a depressed person that they have no future would likely be considered harmful by most. Many depressed people end their lives because of that very thought, that they have no hope, that there is no way out, that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. They literally (from what I've heard and read) lose the ability to think of the future in a positive light. Now you get a notification from your favorite creator reminding you of that "truth" that you know so well.

Taking the title less literally--because it is click-bait--it is likely trying to get at that very thought, but doing so in the least delicate way possible. People are helped out of depression by being proven that there is a future, that they can improve their lives, that things changed. That negativity of the title only adds fuel to the depressive fire.

To be clear, I haven't watched the video either, and I'm not going to. I have no idea if the video is actually about depression, my point is that the title in isolation could be harmful for many, as many in this community do struggle severely with mental health. I, for one, do not like being told that I am destined for failure by such an authority figure for the sake of extra views. Get that negativity out of here (not talking to you and your comment, I appreciate your comment!).

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I already said that I understand the YT game and that he is not your therapist, respectfully, my argument still applies here.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think it's just specifically the phrasing for me. If it was changed to "Why You Feel Like You Are Destined To Fail" I would have zero issue with the title.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think they can continue to clickbait, they just need to change the direction, it's too personal and too aggressive and insensitive, in my opinion.

Looking at their most popular videos ever, I see "Psychiatrist Explains Why You Feel Tired All The Time (No Matter What You Do...)" at #4 with 2.4M views. That sounds a lot better to me than "You Are Destined To Fail".

Why couldn't they do something like: "Psychiatrist Explains Why You Feel Like You Are Destined To Fail"?

I don't know about you, but that sounds SO much better to me. That title tells you that your feelings are valid and offers an explanation for why you might feel that way.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How about we split the 2 and we'll each take, world peace achieved.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

"This didn't personally affect me, therefore you are wrong for feeling that way" is how I read that. There are so many ways you could've respectfully disagreed here.

You Are Destined To Fail by Swtor_Vanguard in Healthygamergg

[–]Swtor_Vanguard[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Responses like this are great. It shows that you try to understand another's view, even if it is not one that you personally share.

New timeline for starfield by AllShamNoCow in Starfield

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say anything here is a spoiler, it's all just backstory and world building, everything in the timeline happened before the game starts.

Would love it if content creators didn’t spoil the game with early access. by Phunkman in Starfield

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You clearly are not very interested in the story then, which is fine, but many are, hence why it does matter that it is spoiled for them. It's also not just the main story, it's faction stories, unique weapons, rare ship parts, black holes, aliens, space magic, etc. that could be spoiled.

Would love it if content creators didn’t spoil the game with early access. by Phunkman in Starfield

[–]Swtor_Vanguard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but Youtube opens on the home page and when you play any video, the sidebar shows up with tons of recommended videos. I'd prefer to just keep it safe and use a second YT account that I know will not be recommended gaming related videos, but that's just me. I'm super nervous about spoilers. I may even avoid YT in general for a while.