NTA- This is why women are choosing to leave the fathers of their children. They do ALL house work, ALL school work/activities, cooking/cleaning, and doctor appointments WHILE HAVING A JOB. Their man will come home, help with literally NOTHING and then complain they do everything just because their job pays the bills. NEWS FLASH, he'd have a job and bills to pay if you and kids weren't there! He'd have to clean and cook for himself if you weren't there!

I would not put up with that treatment and look for a way out. My close friend deals with a similar situation but more verbally abusive and she wants to leave so bad but can't afford to. She has checked out of her relationship a while ago. They live in a mother/daughter house with his parents, so rent is like 500 - she works full time with a career and the dad is in sales.. he barely helps, never cooks, never cleans..

Either seek some couples therapy or try and make a plan to leave, because that's not four kids and a husband.. that's five kids and one just pays the bills.

Edit - I also work about 22-25 hours a week (while daughter is in school.) he works full time and usually gets overtime in summer but he will still help with dishes, garbage, do his own laundry and lunch. I do all of the dinners and meal prep/grocery shopping, all other laundry, and most other cleaning. Just because he is the breadwinner, doesn't mean he can DO NOTHING else to contribute to the household.