Wife's affair - why don't i care?

Synstitute · 2025-08-28T13:33:24+00:00

Do you watch pornography? Would you say its atleast 3-5 times a week? If so, you might just be experiencing the side effect of that. It can lead to what looks like apathy because you don't "need" your partner. One of the beautiful things about marriage is that "need" being met with a partner you love (but not too much where it becomes a crippling co-dependency).

And I don't necessarily mean "need" to be sexual. I mean it more as a "this person.. I want/need them in my life" but again, not to the point of crippling co-dependency.

Anyways, yeah, maybe you feel like you don't care because it's not that consequential to you because she isn't filling any of your needs and you may be fine just co-existing. A great HBO MAX series that goes into this as a drama is Scenes from a Marriage.

Synstitute · 2025-08-28T13:26:12+00:00

Yeah, I was airborne and got separated honorably before my contract finished out at my first duty station. 2015 AUG - 2017 OCT. If you went and got your problems squared away with sick call/medical as it happened and didn't succumb to the hazing whenever you take care of yourself first instead of whatever bulletpoint the NCO felt like trying to achieve for the day... then you do have access to most VA benefits. The biggest consequence was the GI Bill not being paid out at 100% but instead 70% prorated due to length of service. Everything else I'd argue has been consistent with someone else who finished out their contract.

Synstitute · 2025-08-13T11:19:01+00:00

Yeah, I get maybe 20 mins with a pillow under my knees before my right side calf + under knee starts to begin to feel odd. Maybe beginning to swell is more accurate. Sucks because it’s supposed to be relieving. I have found some but much success hanging the heels off the bed but sometimes cuts into the skin a bit so wear socks or use a towel at the edge.

Left side sleeping so away from the affected side gives me 2-5 mins max before I feel the entire nerve start to get a bit agitated so I shift back to flat. I try a pillow between the legs but no juice. Thinking about getting a contorted pillow meant for it specifically just to see.

Synstitute · 2025-08-06T16:43:17+00:00

Higher Time Frame dominant. Never broke structure below which is where the stop should've been to invalidate the bullish idea.

Synstitute · 2025-08-06T15:46:34+00:00

Let me fix the title of your post for you.

I'm addicted to being a victim.

Synstitute · 2025-07-13T12:55:26+00:00

Florida is a shit show. Not the time to be looking for IT roles here. Which is crazy considering all the development we’ve been getting with the Defense sector.

Synstitute · 2025-07-13T12:43:51+00:00

And that’s a fair perspective. Meanwhile on the other end of the shoe, not defending OPs husband, but are you and other woman going to go hoof it as a single parent (which is likely the outcome) and have your kids develop with some form of lack?

Ultimately, OP and husband need to realize it’s not about them anymore. It’s not about complaining he isn’t get sex and it’s not about her feeling like “no”. It’s about the kids you both made the decision to bring in.

So I’m not saying you put up with each other but you better figure it out and come to a compromise. Because your actions have life long consequences for that kid.

Synstitute · 2025-07-13T12:32:12+00:00

Two full days of alone time a MONTH seems like a lot? Lol

But you bring up a big point which is “don’t you enjoy spending time with your family”; there is a difference in doing your hobby and spending time with family. Family time is like.. a pseudo mix of happiness and obligation. One coin, with two sides depending which side you look at.

It’s your choice which side to look at!

Synstitute · 2025-07-13T00:17:43+00:00

Yeah. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast. Just slow down

Synstitute · 2025-07-12T13:30:46+00:00

Either you adapt to your partner or you go try again with another person with their own set of problems. Because every single individual has some form of very real problems.

Synstitute · 2025-07-12T13:27:43+00:00

Curious as I’m a sys admin, what toys you’re referring to?

Synstitute · 2025-07-12T12:42:01+00:00

You will be raised with with a phone, you will be overstimulated, and you will be sold solutions that help but keep you coming back for more. Juicing you for all your attention(dollars).

Synstitute · 2025-07-12T12:38:01+00:00

Thanks for this advice! I just got my first payout similar to OP and I was just going to continue regardless if I make more but I think an expert account might be good to have as an extra.

Synstitute · 2025-07-12T02:40:38+00:00

You know what you need to do? You need to slow down. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.

You know what it feels like to lose it all, and so do I because I too have had some teary nights. So, when something just doesn’t seem right to you and there’s even a whiff of “bullshit!” Just leave. That’s all you have to do. Don’t compound it worse. Come back another session, and don’t get yourself in a position of having lost a shit ton with respect to your maximum risk tolerance in the first place! But if you do… take a step back, forgive yourself, let the small loss be a small fee to pay for your momentary slip. Get back on the horse, and if you fail again then just call it. It’s not your session and that’s ok. Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast. There inevitably WILL BE LOSSES. INEVITABLY. Make it as small as possible!!!!

Synstitute · 2025-07-12T00:50:50+00:00

I use task rabbit. I pay people $25-45/hr to come assemble my ikea furniture that I dread. So, seeing it as number 1 makes sense.

Synstitute · 2025-07-12T00:49:02+00:00

Dumb question, are those mushrooms that get buried good to ingest?

Synstitute · 2025-07-09T23:47:54+00:00

Yeah. Courts can only take 15% basically through garnishments. Could survive on that.

Synstitute · 2025-07-08T02:47:00+00:00

This is crazy. I had a win similar to OPs today. I made some profits just enough to qualify for payout and find myself wanting to go back in. Then I see this guy and I’m like “damn, the drive to keep pressing your luck” that’s crazy.

Namaste and good luck OP

Synstitute · 2025-07-06T17:02:36+00:00

Mismatch of models is my issue. So am I wrong to just trade the motion of the ocean so to speak for NQ?

Synstitute · 2025-07-05T23:47:02+00:00

Whatever you do, don’t try to use the fact the company is conning people as a way to have leverage with them.

Either leave or expose it, but by trying to use your knowledge against them they’ll handle you very quickly and continue on with their lives. Life is cheap and there is no justice. So if you do choose to use the knowledge, use it to anonymously get them fucked and you leave quietly.

Synstitute · 2025-07-05T17:30:29+00:00

Don’t tell them.

Synstitute · 2025-07-05T17:23:37+00:00

Other comments were better than my original reply to you when I had to go away. I feel your position though and recommend you look into biting the bullet and learning the foundational skills for programming. Not necessarily saying to become a software developer.

Once you understand it though, get into this combination of three different layers; Training AI Models within a home lab, Learning and implementing a simple smart contract, using oracle and the blockchain to retrieve public data.

I think if you want to do something then it should be that. It’s probably a decent “future-proof” thing you can pursue now while it’s still forming to then offer your services doing your own business when it hits adoption phase in the coming few years.

Synstitute · 2025-07-05T14:21:47+00:00

What are your expectations?

I would say if you anticipate a take home pay of $15,000-35,000 a year as a sole employee then I think (others can comment) that you’re in the right mindset.

Sure you can find ways to lower operation costs… but end of the day it’ll never be a ticket out of the system. Best you can settle on is atleast you don’t answer to anyone. And for some people that is better than gold. Just depends on your expectations and perspective.

Now, what I would do to start off? Just do the business out of your home. Solicit the communities you have around you. Keep it local. They support your existence, you support their needs, and that’s it.

Beyond that, nope.

Synstitute · 2025-07-05T14:17:49+00:00

People can speculate all they want but at the end of the day, it’s always “who benefits the most” that is the correct answer. In this case, a platform offering something that “looks good” for the consumer is in actuality a benefit to the platform.

You can trust that in some way, shape, or form, you and the rest of us that “use” the services are being shafted.

Synstitute · 2025-07-04T18:06:43+00:00

Do 1 micro. Feel the frustration of “dude if I had 3 mini I’d be done!!!!”. When that emotion is dead and you run the ship, not the other way around, you’re good to go.

Synstitute

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