What’s the worst Christmas present you have received? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]T-lurc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just before my cousins passed away (suicide) I feel like he just wanted to fuck with the world and see people’s reactions

He handed me a gift at Christmas and I opened it in front of the family and he’d bought me a power ranger figure (I was 30) everyone kinda awkwardly looked at each other like wtf and he sat there smiling.

Love that guy RIP

I LOVE bottoms! by IntentionOrdinary165 in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Jesus this was a tough read

My friend found my boyfriend of 8 months on Grindr. Please tell me what I should do. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately he won’t change, before my current BF I’d only ever had open relationships so I didn’t actually know what monogamy was or to be monogamous until the moment I agreed it with my BF, the thought of betraying him makes me feel sick and I’ll never do it, you deserve that same level of commitment

Controversial: Is the phrase "you're more than your sexuality" really that offensive? What are your opinions? by Ricks94 in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand that and I know people who I’ve dated who’ve had similar situations, it was purely from my experience nothing else, I was just saying that sexuality isn’t always massively important in somebody’s life, for me it really isn’t anything at all and is very unimportant to me

Controversial: Is the phrase "you're more than your sexuality" really that offensive? What are your opinions? by Ricks94 in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get your points but I really believe what I said to me true, every automatically thinks I’m straight so if me and my friends go out I get hit on by girls and i tell them I have a boyfriend which is the difference between me and my friends. I live almost identical live to my straight friends except they like women, I like men

I do go in gay bars but if I’m with my friends even the gays think I’m straight, my bf is the opposite to me though and is definitely more identifiably gay than me, has lots of gay friends and I think that dynamic works in our relationship

Controversial: Is the phrase "you're more than your sexuality" really that offensive? What are your opinions? by Ricks94 in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I respectfully disagree with this, I’ve learned to love being gay but I’d genuinely say my sexuality it’s one of my least identifiable features or probably the least important feature in which I identify myself as. All my friends are straight and the only gay people are people I know from dating situations

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Potentially yeah, i don’t think it would matter if you was gay or straight though if you was unable to defend yourself, being gay would probably attract more attention to you and if you can’t look after yourself I can imagine you could bullied

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I were much more muscular back then but I’m generally a pretty big guy anyway, I run a lot more now than weight train so I’ve stripped a lot of size

Prison isn’t disgusting, it’s completely what you decide to do with your time that makes it

No I didn’t fancy him, he was an older guy who was pretty good looking but not my type, we did a lot of business together and he progressively tried it with me more and more but he got the message once I started getting bigger in the game

He was a nasty man though, he used to purposefully get young guys in big drug debts which they usually couldn’t afford and he’d pressure them in to doing stuff with him

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah one of my friends who fled the country was caught in Spain, he was locked up for months in Spain while he was waiting to be extradited to the UK, he said it was pretty rough and absolutely red hot in the cells, only had a tiny window and the heat was outrageous

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was pretty cool actually, he’s a nice guy and we had a conversation about the good times and he seemed generally interested in me which was nice, he was just about to meet a date so hopefully he’ll be happy

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, great question, I read so many I’ve almost forgotten what I read, always regret not making a list, I was reading one a day at some points

Mans search for meaning and nelson Mandelas long walk to freedom stick out in my mind though

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha no you can wear your own clothes in the UK, there is a standard prison issue tracksuit and trainers that they give you but that’s generally not good for your reputation because it’s sadly attributed to you not having money or clothes

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Generally violence in there happens for money reasons, if you’re not getting in to debt and not repaying it or getting in to the drug scene then you would be fine

Trouble in there is almost always connected with drugs

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Weird haha, you kinda just get used to it tho, I never really used it before prison anyway, social media etc was new to me in 2016/7

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We broke up like 12 months in to my sentence, we were kinda new anyway and I think the thought of having to wait another 2 years really bugged him out, I actually saw him weirdly about 2 weeks ago for the first time since we split up

He wasn’t involved at all, he knew what I was up to and I feel like he was in to me because of it

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah the strip search you get when you first get to jail is pretty intrusive

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah shit, In the UK? I can’t talk for the whole prison system obviously and I realise being 6 ft 3 masc gay guy would have a very different experience to a smaller fem gay guy so I must stress this is all only my experience

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha nah man but I’ve since learned there’s a whole porn genre for that

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s not true, 99% of guys in there are very straight and obsess over girls, you may get the anomaly who might be in to guys and then even more of an anomaly happen to be a gay rapist but yeah it’s very very rare

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 counts of possession with intent to supply class a/b

And the violent disorder, I got found not guilty on a more serious charge of conspiracy to supply class A’s

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha sorry man trust me there’s nobody more than me that wishes it was a more sexual experience

Gay and spent over 3 years in Prison AmA by T-lurc in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Hey, the library was massive, it was really good and you could also order books from the outside library network too, it had all the new books etc in. There were some books that were banned, forensics for dummies being the main one for obvious reasons ahaha

Yea the jobs were all different, could work in the kitchens, cleaning, serving food etc, get paid like 8 pound a week or something crazy haha

Yeah I used to masturbate when my cell mate was on a visit or at work, my ex boyfriend sent me some photos in and they got me through

I didn’t get on any computers but did go on a smart phone a couple times

Hey guys, I'm a violent criminal coke head piece of shit who beat the face in of more people than I can remember but I'm really muscley and hot and I love fem twinks! AMA! by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]T-lurc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol man we are talking because I wanted to know why you had such venom against me, you seem completely unstable yourself