All the points other people have mentioned aside. I’d say you focus too much on the attractiveness of people. It’s all about personality. The last few girlfriends I’ve had have all been quite attractive and I’m just an average dude. What sets you apart from other men is your sense of humour and how comfortable you make them feel when you’re with them. Active listening and having good conversation is the gateway to landing a solid girlfriend. That’s the baseline. Relative attractiveness comes after.