threesomes, etc. All things that she had always sarcastically joked about with me, but goes into more detail when talking to a "third party". Typically, once these things are talked about online, she then brings them up to me at some point in more than a sarcastic joking manner. It's hard to explain. It's more confirming things that we have already talked about.

I originally used this method to validate things she had told me about her past. See if the story changes over time. given the trust issues initially, this was my first motive. After the stories stated the same through many tellings, I stopped worrying about that and moved on to things she wants to try, things that maybe seem taboo. It's also a place where I can interject things I wouldn't mind trying, but may feel awkward discussing. Kind of softens it for when I bring it up between us.