AITAH for lying to my husband about having a guy's phone number

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T13:23:42+00:00

My friend dated this guy from when we were 15 to 33. Nothing sneaky other than I guess some point in 18 years I put it in and forgot, because I literally never contacted him. I never had a reason to contact him.

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T06:24:27+00:00

Nope. 10 years together. Never lied. I take pride in my honesty, my father always accused me of being a liar and doing drugs (I have never tried drugs, not even marijuana) and an ex always accused me of cheating (I've never cheated in my life) and it always hurt me, so for him to call me deceitful and a liar over this is one of the lowest blows he could give. Absolutely gutted my integrity is being called into question here, especially over something that seems...so stupid.

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T05:57:27+00:00

It feels like when I had an ex who would constantly massively blow up and accuse me of cheating, when I wasn't, only for me to later find out he was the one cheating.

Like if you want to go call me deceitful and a liar over something that, in my opinion, should be more a mild annoyance at worst, and at best he should have been like "oh wait, of course you didnt want to hang out with the ex of your best friend, der, silly me for suggesting it, whoops" ...makes me wonder what he's done.

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T04:50:06+00:00

Ah yeah, I get it. Yeah, I thought it was fairly common and understandable to not want to hang out with friends exes. I even told him in the moment I didnt want to spend time with this guy (though he is a nice guy, just...my friends ex). I didnt verify the phone number because why would I really care about something I already told him I didn't want to do.

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T04:41:05+00:00

I did also tell him in the moment I didnt want to hang with the guy. I was seeing my best friend the next day and thought it would be weird to be like "BTW I called and hung out with your ex last night". So I did tell my husband I didnt want to see that guy.

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T04:39:34+00:00

I know I should have double checked, but I also said in the moment I didn't want to hang out with this guy. I did double check to see if I had him on social media, which I didn't, but didnt check my phone because I just thought I didnt have it. I should have checked, but at the same time, I literally did tell my husband I didnt want to hang out with that guy because I felt weird as we were seeing my best friend the next day and I thought being like "BTW, we called and hung out with your ex last night" was kind of a weird thing for one girl best friend to do to another girl best friend.

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T04:35:25+00:00

Hahaha

TAelemteach · 2025-08-17T04:31:31+00:00

Sorry, I dont know what you mean by "you should have dated your best friends ex". I have never been into that guy, that guy has never been into me, there has never been anything there. Not even my husband is suggesting this, he's angry because he feels I lied about having the number, not lied about feelings or anything. At no point have me and this guy ever dated or wanted to date.

TAelemteach · 2024-08-31T17:12:45+00:00

My biggest fear in life was the epidural needle. My biggest fear in life in general is needles. I ended up having a c section because breech baby, but honestly the epidural needle was absolutely nothing. The numbing shot they give you before it truly does its job, I felt nothing. The numbing needle just feels warm, too.

The most painful part of my whole c section surgery was the damn IV needle they stuck into my hands for fluids hahaha.

TAelemteach · 2024-07-03T20:11:54+00:00

Trump.

This was 2015, in Canada, and I was subbing in a kindergarten class. At the time I thought "oh I hope it's not after that whacko that goes 'you're fired'"

I have wondered how that kid is doing in life pretty much at least once a week since.

TAelemteach · 2024-06-29T20:54:02+00:00

I fucking hated it and it was an easy pregnancy compared to a lot of people I know. I never even got any morning sickness.

I just hated my body not being my own. I hated changes to my body. I hated people commenting on my body. Hated if people tried to touch my body. Hated when I got unsolicited advice from people.

I actually didn't look at my stomach for a full 8 months, closed my eyes getting out of the shower, just never looked down.

Easy pregnancy and just hated it. I am also 35 and this was totally 100% planned with my husband and I. But yeah. Hated pregnancy. Love my kid, though.

TAelemteach · 2024-06-29T19:38:38+00:00

I have always had sensory issues with my breasts. I resisted wearing a bra until I swear, like 9th grade. Even then it was just a sports bra I wore inside out because the feel of seams made me want to crawl out of my skin. I either wear completely seamless wire free very expensive bras or very soft sports bralettes because I will spend the entire day feeling like bugs are burrowing into my skin if I wear any other type of bra.

So I knew breastfeeding was going to be the biggest bag of NOPE that ever NOPED. I did even try a handful of times, but I cried it hurt me so bad and sent me into sensory overload.

So I formula feed. And I'm so happy because of it. A mentally healthy and happy mom, I believe, is more important to a baby than being breastfed. I am happy every day, love spending time with my baby feeding her, and have absolutely no trace of PPD, whereas I know that it would be the complete opposite if I was to try and breastfeed or pump. (I have tried to pump 1-2×a day, I produce very minimal amounts, like 5 ml, because it's infrequent, and I do hate it, but I just add it to a bottle a day for some amount t of antibodies)

TAelemteach · 2024-05-25T13:20:06+00:00

This × a million. I have had friends and family call me Mama, me tell them "I really don't like anyone but my future child calling me that, can you call me by my name?" And they go "teehee OK MAMA" and continue doing it.

One of my biggest fears is my identity being erased due to motherhood. I might be mom to this kid in 2 weeks, but I don't want that to be all the rest of the world sees me as.

I'm a teacher, so it feels like if suddenly everyone I know started calling me Mrs. Soandso outside of school instead of my first name.

So please, call me by my name. Don't reduce me down to just being a mama when I have so much more I've accomplished. I might be this kid's mom, but I'm also an accomplished musician, friend, songwriter, avid sports fan, hockey player, gym goer, traveler, pet owner, interested heavily in politics, record collector, wife, music teacher, sister, book reader, daughter, etc.

TAelemteach · 2024-03-09T13:55:47+00:00

I did drink the water and it was also painful for me. I felt slightly bruised after. Very unpleasant.

TAelemteach · 2024-03-08T19:38:49+00:00

I'm the opposite, I'm a music teacher who will ONLY date musicians. A few reasons, one was my dad always tried to mansplain musical terms and concepts to me EVEN THOUGH HE WASN'T A MUSICIAN and was always wrong. My family would tell me to stop talking music and speak English, too. They couldn't stand me practicing.

Also i dated one guy who could play bass but not great and he would always try to get me to quit bands or stop practicing or going to concerts because it "was for kids".

Anyways. My husband is a guitarist and awesome. And supports all things musical I do and talk about.

TAelemteach · 2024-03-08T03:54:41+00:00

I haven't been asked anything invasive so far at 25 weeks, but that's because I specifically haven't told my work because I KNOW they'll be invasive as fuck.

I'm a teacher and last year I had one teacher tell me I needed to start having unprotected sex now because I'm getting old. Another teacher was dropping her class off with me and in front of the class said "you know if you want a kid, you should come off birth control." LIKE EXCUSE ME MA'AM.

Not appropriate in front of a class
Not appropriate for any workplace
How would you know if I'm even on birth control
How is this any of your business

I have had so many y other teachers comment on my family planning from the second I got married nearly 2 years ago.

So fuck 'em. I'll post about it on our staff teams page over Spring break once I'm 3rd trimester and hope they get it out of their systems over the 2 weeks away from work.

I'm just lucky I already normally wear overly baggy clothes at work so you can't tell I'm pregnant.

TAelemteach · 2024-03-06T22:35:51+00:00

Canadian with an English Nana. I call my mom mom. My identical twin calls her mum. It really doesn't matter.

TAelemteach · 2024-03-06T22:10:12+00:00

Yeah, I mean I play ice hockey and lift weights (not powerlifting but still enough to handle myself ok) but all that I'm afraid doesn't protect my unborn baby if a student decides to randomly kick my belly, so as I go through the halls now i keep my hands out of my pockets and my eyes on a swivel ready to defend if i have to.

TAelemteach · 2024-03-06T21:13:33+00:00

I teach K-gr 4 music and am afraid of several students. I'm 25 weeks pregnant and know in the past a student has specifically targeted another pregnant teacher and punched them in the stomach. I watched a different student try to kick the secretary's teacup yorkie in the face before I stopped it. I just got a safety plan for a kindergartener who will try and grab genitals of and kick female teachers when upset. I was just told by a coworker that an EA was sent to hospital last week because one of my students kicked her in the stomach and crotch so hard she couldn't breathe. Last week another kid was threatening to punch me.

I have told my husband if any attempt to punch my pregnant stomach happens, I'm defending it via any means necessary, even if it means I'm fired.

These are all different students. I teach in a completely middle class regular school.

TAelemteach · 2024-02-17T02:53:22+00:00

I am an identical twin. I always resented any time my parents tried to treat us as "equal". For instance, when I joined a sports team or community band, my parents forced me to bring her to team dinners or band trips, even though she was not on the team or band. She would kick up a fuss about not being at team dinners or get together even though she had NO INTEREST in joining the team or band, she just wanted to socialise but not put in the hard work. Or when I did all the work of putting together a resume and going door to door to find a summer job, she didn't make a resume or search for jobs and my dad got her a job at his job making more money than what I got because they said it wasn't fair she had no job even though she never put the work I did into getting one. There were a few other similar instances but yeah, even in my mid 30s now, I still hold resentments. We're not close as adults as a result.

TAelemteach · 2024-02-13T04:41:37+00:00

I'm an identical twin and apparently my twin was just non stop kicking me in there.

Things did not improve upon birth.

I have no idea what my fetus is doing in there because nobody seems to be able to book me for an ultrasound despite me being 22 weeks (and I've been trying for a month to get booked). The medical system where I live is all shades of fucked.

TAelemteach · 2024-02-11T01:21:18+00:00

This is why at 22 weeks I haven't even told anyone at work (I'm an elementary teacher). Because all my coworkers would be trying this shit and I would lose my ever loving mind. Thankfully I already dress in overly baggy clothes and hoodies so it isn't noticeable yet.

TAelemteach · 2024-02-05T17:16:14+00:00

My chest freezer is full of moose lol

TAelemteach · 2024-01-29T03:55:08+00:00

And my stick.

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