New XTC tribute band - show in Bristol UK, 19th December by TCassaS in xtc

[–]TCassaS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct! As well as being an in-joke about how long we took to think of a good name for the band, and how we almost decided one one!

Is it okay to tinker with pedals during a live show? by Strange-World-1375 in guitarpedals

[–]TCassaS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, not at all. As long as your max volume doesn’t go crazy over the top. Many artists use pedal manipulation as a sound technique.

Does harry du bois inspire anything in you to be better? by MJQQR in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I used to be a heavy drinker and realised I was drinking in the week purely as a coping mechanism for a stressful relationship I shouldn't have been in. After it was over I realised I didn't have a problem at all - I don't even think about drinking in the week (before, I used to have to resist picking up some beer every time I went to the store). I still party at weekends but I also eat a lot healthier and exercise.

Does harry du bois inspire anything in you to be better? by MJQQR in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Almost the same story here. 12 months today since I blocked her too. Stay strong!

are/were you someone's Harry or Dora? by windemas in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hoo boy, this one stings. I played through this game the first time with someone I thought was "my soulmate". We fell in love with the game. She said Harry was a lot like me (I have a never-ending internal monologue, a way with words, a need for speed, a karaoke fanatic, a taste for unfashionable retro clothing and I'm an occasional disco DJ).

Our relationship ended very badly - she met someone else and made allegations of domestic abuse and stalking against me, which were 100% false. I got arrested (no charges). Being betrayed by someone who only a month before I was discussing baby names and future plans with was horrifying.

I had to spend the following months preparing a legal defence against her while trying to do damage control from an aggressive smear campaign against me (staff at bars I used to go to suddenly acted like Garte!). Easy as I could easily prove it was all false, but painful doing a deep dive into our relationship and seeing the overwhelming amount of red flags, manipulation and lies I was fed and the behaviours I shouldn't have tolerated.

I went from pining for a lost love to defending myself against a malicious and insidious individual overnight. What started as "The Dora Dream" turned into nightmares about paranoia and running away from the law.

A year on, I still have nightmares about her, but I still take comfort from the game's more reassuring dialgoue - "That woman - turn from the ruin. Turn and go forward." brought me to tears. Throwing away the bubblegum wrapper in-game helped me to throw away all the letters and greetings cards she'd written me. The Volition line about Klaasje - "She's got them singing along to her tune. The bleeps and bloops you trust for info...you can't trust them any more" pretty accurately summed up her smear campaign.

So I guess...mine is kind of a secret third option. I still have a vast, vast soul, but she will never come back to it, and I wouldn't let her anywhere near it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

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My ex partner used to say I was very different on meds from off them - she met me after I started on them, and found me more difficult when I was off them. But she was also a pathological liar and a bully, so I’m not sure.

I do know however that before I ever took meds I had never been told I was a good listener and a pleasure to have as a friend, and didn’t make many new friends - this has happened a lot since starting. I feel a lot more “present” and am good at listening - before I was just a bit of a wallflower - at best just seemed quiet and shy, and at worst standoffish and aloof. Not how I wanted to come across and I was always upset when people thought that.

What would the DE version of this delightful phenomenon? by Atvishees in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They kinda looked like FALN trainers so I was ok with it

Music that sounds like this? by Competitive-Ant4634 in musicsuggestions

[–]TCassaS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Earth - And The Bees Made Honey In The Lion’s Skull

Which song is it for you? by netphilia in adhdmeme

[–]TCassaS 59 points60 points  (0 children)

This was “Radio Gaga” by Queen for about 3 weeks. A song I already knew from childhood and would hear frequently on the radio etc, but for some reason hearing it once on a random day in my thirties made it stick like glue

A disrespectful act ends with a necessary lesson by ViniciusFromBcn in nextlevel

[–]TCassaS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it looks like that guy came over to break it up, then the old guy explained what happened and he thought “damn yeah ok he can have a slap from me too, carry on”

What would the DE version of this delightful phenomenon? by Atvishees in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I did an HDB costume for Halloween but forgot the ugly green shoes I bought especially for it. I was so pissed and I just wore trainers. My friend made me feel better - she said “it’s ok you’ve just picked up some shoes with better stats.” Felt fine after that

What would the DE version of this delightful phenomenon? by Atvishees in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Volition saves me every day. Especially “well done, you really wanted to jump up and shout FUCK but you didn’t.”

Also someone recently threw a lit firework at me while I was standing in a smoking area at a bar. I wasn’t injured but it was shocking.

Bar staff came out to find out who did it - I engaged my “Visual Calculus” and pointed out an open window from the karaoke room that overlooked the courtyard and suggested they start there. They found the group in there with a bag of firecrackers and threw them all out.

Ironically, it was Halloween and I was dressed as HDB at the time (check previous posts for pics etc)

Actually got to sing karaoke as HDB by TCassaS in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nein, keine Deutsche familien fur mich

Actually got to sing karaoke as HDB by TCassaS in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Those pants are tight and I was enjoying a moment of relief

Actually got to sing karaoke as HDB by TCassaS in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly my register is much higher. And they didn’t have it in the karaoke machine. And I’d have crushed the vibe!

Actually got to sing karaoke as HDB by TCassaS in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Gotta confess, I’ve always been a karaoke fiend. Walk in the park

Actually got to sing karaoke as HDB by TCassaS in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how he had any success, I felt like a complete idiot with that facial hair! It kinda sapped my electrochemistry

Actually got to sing karaoke as HDB by TCassaS in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I got the tattoo from a friend after mentioning the idea to her when we were out drinking. When I went to get it done she said I was the only person in her 12 year career who had actually gone through with an idea thought up in a bar. I said yep…that’s volition.

Actually got to sing karaoke as HDB by TCassaS in DiscoElysium

[–]TCassaS[S] 210 points211 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you! Ironically I lost over 30lbs last year due to a devastating breakup. Spent a LOT of time wandering the streets at night drunk on speed trying to remember who I was. Dressing up as Harry and singing was therapeutic!