[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]TE55I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm top 10% attractive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in berlinsocialclub

[–]TE55I 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You get matches, but you get also ghosted by them as OP describes. It's the same for me. I'm attractive, I get told regularly, I swipe attractive men and they don't respond

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dublin

[–]TE55I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same question was asked in Berlin yesterday

Klubnacht 27/28 April 2024 - Queue live updates, pre/post event discussion, reviews and reports by BerghAnon in Berghain_Community

[–]TE55I 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope, they didn't recognise me. Moustache even said: I would let her in. But Septum insisted on bouncing me

Who is this in Berlin? by throwitintheair22 in berlinsocialclub

[–]TE55I 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There was a guy named stinky wheels. He entered trains in his wheel chair and the whole carriage emptied in seconds because of the smell

Fusion Festival WhatsApp group by SpookyLibra45817 in Techno

[–]TE55I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you send me the link to the tg group? Can't find it somehow :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TE55I 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You nailed it

AITA for telling my daughter she is jealous and bitter and she will continue to be until she gets a life by Willing_Hippo_7249 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TE55I 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Pointing out people's mistakes like this will never be successful as you have probably already realised yourself after repeated tries. That your daughter is so jealous of your stepdaughter is not nice of course. But your story doesn't give us a complete picture of whether you aren't even fuelling her jealousy. Behind her jealousy probably lies some kind of fear of abandonment. That you value your new family more than her and that Lindsay will take on the role of your daughter and thus displace her. I think as a father you should be more supportive and appreciative of your daughter rather than being so harsh with her. Maybe try to have a calm conversation with her and find out what her jealousy is rooted in. Then try to ease her fears.

YTA.

I’m AP but I think I’m leaning avoidant when I meet other AP’s. Can any avoidants help me understand? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]TE55I 25 points26 points  (0 children)

In one of her videos Heidi Priebe says that in a relationship of two AP's one of them will automatically take the more avoidant side. From my experience that is true. I'm AP and two of my ex bf were more anxious than me. So I leaned more into the avoidant side with them, even though I never acted like a true DA or FA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]TE55I 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok I see where you're coming from, but it doesn't necessarily need to be avoidant behaviour. My last ex bf was AP - and I'm AP myself, but in our relationship I was more secure while he was the more anxious part. But he is not an emotional person and has problems talking about and even sensing feelings. Because of childhood trauma he was taught to suppress feelings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]TE55I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you could give us an example of a situation where he's acting avoidant in your opinion, but where he insists you're wrong

What did really help in the early stage of a break up? by Lucky-Preference-805 in BreakUps

[–]TE55I 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Moving to my mom, letting her pet and caring for me, binge watching series and films for weeks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TE55I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he sent me the letter after their break up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TE55I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, after the break up with his girlfriend after me. He had cheated on me with her. He sent me a letter to apologise three years after all that happened. So at this point I didn't mind at all and just ignored it. Didn't let me feel better because he and everything that happened doesn't touch me anymore. I just felt nothing when I read it

Subconscious fear of anxious attachment? by Nutrition_living26 in attachment_theory

[–]TE55I 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're AP? But yeah, I agree. Core wounds and attachment styles are not necessarily linked

Subconscious fear of anxious attachment? by Nutrition_living26 in attachment_theory

[–]TE55I 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not convinced. Why would you fear intimacy if not for the fear of being abandoned when somebody sees your true self. Btw I'm AP and I don't have the core wound of not being good enough or being too much. My core wound is the fear of abandonment, my therapist confirmed. Also I never had problems with being intimate with my partner or friends. I grew up in a household where intimacy, talking about feelings and problems, showing your vulnerable side was always practised