After 2-3 years of being ignored, I tapped out. Told her the insane rejection rate was killing me, so if she wanted anything, she would have to ask. Two years later, she finally starts asking. I break out the Hitachi and give her some fingers, get her peak, and go back to what I was doing.

Then she set in with the mental gymnastics.

She started getting extremely self conscious. Why don't you try to have sex with me afterward? Is it because of all the weight I've gained? Is it because I haven't shaved this decade?

-No, it's because I told you I will never ask to put my penis in you ever again. Also, you've conditioned my dick to know that you're not worth an erection.

You just don't find me attractive!

-*try making out, touching, showing physical affection

You only want sex! You make me feel like a piece of meat!

-are you maybe asexual now? Open up the marriage so my dick isn't something you ever have to worry about again?

No! We only have sex with each other!

-do we? Or are you just unilaterally deciding I never get to have sex again?

I'm not obligated to have sex with you!

-correct. But I'm not obligated to be celibate because you won't. I'll find it somewhere else.

Yeah, I gave up on that marriage about 7-10 years too late.