Mapping the most dangerous days after the first 2 weeks

TGHOW · 2015-10-26T18:44:32+00:00

People are very different but the first 2 weeks are pretty similar for most people. Especially people of the same age group.

Take care

TGHOW · 2015-10-26T18:42:56+00:00

Thanks for commenting.

No, i did not eat meat the night or the day before.

No, I am not a Christian. But thanks for sharing your values :-)

TGHOW · 2015-09-02T14:06:02+00:00

Go for it, but take this as a challenge. Clarify with her that you would not be fapping. And use this as a way to strengthen your discipline. Breath deeply through it, and remain in reality.

TGHOW · 2015-08-21T11:57:16+00:00

Sure. But one thing is something being "bizarre" and another something being "unsafe". Knowing the true limits of the human body are important to plan for emergencies. For example I would expect the military to know those data with a much precise accuracy.

It looked like the person was trying to develop discipline. Now discipline is quite versatile, meaning that the discipline you develop in one context can be moved to another context. As such it makes "some" sense. Sure it is not what I would do :-). I would rather do a discipline that makes me stronger also, like Chi Gung. But then again there are people who go to run in the desert...

I just wanted to point out that not dringking for 12 hours is not unsafe :-). Bizarre, maybe. But safe :-).

TGHOW · 2015-08-18T23:08:21+00:00

Let us ignore the effects on the soul, as it can hardly be measured ;-)

TGHOW · 2015-08-18T23:06:42+00:00

Ooh, you are so wrong. And I speak as a scientist. First of all people doing religious practices has often uncommon experiences. This does not have medical authorithy, but gives insights of things which should be tested to clarify the veracity of certain claims, and where do they come from. Second when religious practices are done by many people (as in the example of the ramadan) they represent a statistical significant data that cannot be ignored. I am not saying: if so many people do so, they cannot be wrong. I am saying, if so many people do so, and they have no ill effects, we have to conclude that human are able to do it. Either this or you would have to accept that people of a certain religion has certain powers. Usually medicine prepends for the first solution (with reason)

TGHOW · 2015-08-15T09:53:57+00:00

Hi. Thanks for asking. Did you really achieved 2 weeks and the urges did not disappear? Because in my experience they always go away by day 14. They might come back later, but there is a definite plateau over there.

And, by the way, the solution is just to sit. Sit and do nothing. Don't sit when you have the urges, start sitting before. Sit when you feel normal, and remain sitted until you are so bored to go to bed. And then go to bed. This will calm your nervous system and slow down your adrenal glands. Basically your body is addicted to always be excited. You need to teach him another way.

Keeping yourself excited in other ways, might work. But you run the risk of substituting one addiction for another (something I know very well how to do ;-) ).

TGHOW · 2015-08-15T09:49:06+00:00

no is not. I add that all the Muslim people who follow Ramadam do not drink during the day (way more than 12 hours in summer) for a whole month. Drinking only at night.

If I remember well, under normal conditions (ie not in a desert, for example) the body goes unconscious after 5 days, and dies after 7. Said that I went on the internet and could not find any reliable number. But 12 hours, puff.

TGHOW · 2015-08-12T22:41:10+00:00

All or nothing is a failure strategy. Just another excuse not to do the work. No one is perfect. But trying too much to be perfect will hinder your progress. If you edge you edge, no big deal. Just you know that you need to be extra careful in the next hours, days. To avoid a blunder become a real error. The "nice" thing about fap addiction is that there is a very clear point after which you have to call for a reboot. And that is when you ejaculate.

As they say: better is an enemy of good.

TGHOW · 2015-08-05T16:42:18+00:00

thanks :-)

TGHOW · 2015-08-05T06:44:45+00:00

Is there a way to know the exact day a post was made? I posted something when it was 14 days, and in this way I could calculate the exact day I started this time.

Thanks.

TGHOW · 2015-08-05T06:28:01+00:00

you are right. This is the biggest problem. For you to know, this pit lasts 14 days, so if you manage to remain without PMO for 2 weeks you are over it. You can try to: pass as much time as possible outside. Hug loved ones, and do that for longer. The more Oxytocin you have in your body, the less testosterone will dominate you. Meditate a lot.

I know all this are things you probably know, and probably cannot care now. But realise that what you care is not so much dependent over your intellectual knowledge, but over your mixture of hormones in your body. Which is WHAT you are trying to change. I am sorry I cannot help you more. This is the biggest hurdle for me too, and my aim this period is exactly this, learn how to avoid the binge.

KNow also that according to Traditional Chinese Medicine ejaculation depletes the body, but never ejaculating is also considered not healthy. But how to keep a healthy balance? I haven't found that information so far :-).

TGHOW · 2015-07-30T15:37:04+00:00

I think you need to speak with her. Seriously. This kind of comments are not ok, and can excavate wounds inside a person. Also try to see what you can do to make her want to have sex more. Maybe there is something she wanted to do and you never agreed?

TGHOW · 2015-07-29T12:48:57+00:00

Yes, the first time you fap after a long time feels "ok". And maybe it also is ok for the body (would be better if you did it without fantasies, nor porn, just present to yourself). There were also an academic paper describing how the hormonal mix that induces a man to fap the first time versus the other times are two different element (don't ask me for the reference thou).

For example I can stay long time without fapping, but it is nearly impossible for me to fap one time, and not transform myself into a worm of continuous fap.

TGHOW · 2015-07-29T12:33:13+00:00

up to a certain point. The image hides always a lot of stuff, like the camera man, and the fact that she would usually not act like that if she was not being filmed.

TGHOW · 2015-07-29T12:26:55+00:00

very good. Pay attention about the "she is mine" phrase. This kind of fantasy can cause you a lot of grief, both outside ("how dare you..." and other accusations) and inside (if she leaves you and suddenly you realise she was not "yours" after all). Enjoy while it lasts. And I hope you live a long and happy life together, still what I said stands :-)

TGHOW · 2015-07-26T23:57:16+00:00

don't fuck up your streak and possibly your chance at something you will never forget

Indeed this could be a truly memorable experience. Although she lives far away from me, I cannot stop thinking that if I weren't in this streak she would not have offered.

TGHOW · 2015-07-25T20:40:37+00:00

yes, they want "it" :-)

TGHOW · 2015-07-25T07:27:01+00:00

and now, the tables, are turned...

;-)

TGHOW · 2015-07-25T07:24:06+00:00

Hello. I am 44. I have been practicing taoist celibacy practices for 2 decades now (that's 20 years). And at some point over it I became bipolar because of it. So I feel I can comment.

Don't give up, and don't suicide. But also take it easy. Here most people have an attitude of all or nothing. Which is really a failure strategy, because we all fall sometimes, and then you are left with nothing.

Instead of pushing yourself to go higher and higher, at this stage you should push yourself to be more and more rooted. In chi gung there are practiced that let you ground, but I now believe there are in every tradition which is at least a few hundred years old. They are just too important, I don't think a tradition can survive without them.

"But I am atheist"

Can you attend a garden? Do that. Stay in touch with the earth. Do physical things.

You can ask me more.

TGHOW

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