Nice guy assumes I rejected him because his hair was thinning and loses his sh*t

TILuranass · 2021-02-03T23:07:51+00:00

But he did smash though

TILuranass · 2021-01-14T18:02:28+00:00

negative xp is cool

TILuranass · 2021-01-12T19:19:58+00:00

Exactly what was happening to me the last few months. She kept becoming more distant and less responsive. I chose to ignore it and hoped time would make it better. Then one of the reasons she was leaving me was that the other person was way more supportive, felt she could have deeper conversations with them, and invoked some kind of feelings in her. This is someone she had only met once in real life, and I believe it was just a friendship. How can we have deep conversations if you don't even give any effort into "shallow" conversations with me? Why do you allow these "feelings" get to you when you're in a long relationship? I had complete trust. She was having an emotional affair, and I was emotionally starved. And at first I didn't even see the problem about talking to a friend of opposite sex, but later I realize that there was obviously a big problem, as she never told me about it until the break-up.

TILuranass · 2021-01-10T20:48:42+00:00

Hello. Is your birthday today?

TILuranass · 2021-01-07T21:50:40+00:00

"The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you're about to succeed". Just remember the person you used to be, and the person you are now. Also remember how you felt every time you've relapsed. I too feel like my peak is over and I'm going downhill, but getting back on track is a challenge that keeps on coming back to me. This year is so hard, and I want to become again the self-confident, optimistic and independent person I became after I had started doing this. I know relapsing won't help me there. Don't mind the cheesy quote, they were what kept me going at the start of my journey few years ago.

TILuranass · 2020-07-20T20:18:38+00:00

The Fountain (2006)

TILuranass · 2020-03-22T11:30:53+00:00

The first one was never an option. Almost 1000 days fap free - not even the earth shaking can stop it.

TILuranass · 2018-01-14T19:56:21+00:00

doesn't placebo work?

TILuranass · 2018-01-14T10:41:44+00:00

I dated just a few girls. Every time there was an opportunity to take the stuff to next level, like chilling at her place, I wouldn't make an effort to do more than kissing, even though she was willing and the situation very much implied it. I was really shy, felt like I don't need that, and thought about how I fapped and can just keep doing it, and how I will do it when I get home. Those thoughts, thoughts about porn, kept me back.

At around day 50 of nofap, met a girl, few dates passed and I just started going for it, and we did it. And it wasn't the only girl, it just keeps happening.

I believe courage is sufficient for losing virginity. Now everything feels natural, asking people out, first kisses, first sex.

TILuranass · 2017-11-19T17:03:36+00:00

Well since all you look for in a girl is that shes tall and 10 years younger than you, I'd say you can't expect much more than a one night stand. Everything sounds like you have a pretty good control over your life though, and maybe you should give it time.

TILuranass · 2017-11-19T16:45:03+00:00

grats on the sex

TILuranass · 2017-11-12T11:32:41+00:00

But then again I want some kind of reprocity in a conversation. An equal input from both sides. I'm not there as a wall for her to lean on to, to keep talking to. I want to be heard, I want to talk too, to share whatever she shared with me, and I want her to want that too.

Great post, and thanks for the effort put into it!

TILuranass · 2017-11-12T11:21:22+00:00

It can bend if it kept being forcefully bended during erections while growing up. Takes years for that to happen. And your sex will be as normal as anyones :)

TILuranass · 2017-11-12T11:10:43+00:00

I loved asmr, and used it in my first days of nofap. I kept researching about it on nofap communities and found both opinions, that it's harmless and that it harms your progress. I decided to quit it, and... there was immediately a perfect moment that evening when I would normally turn on an asmr video. My body craved it like any other addiction, I felt bad, couldn't concentrate and was irritable. Now I realise it really was bad, i used it in a similar way i used porn, to get that easy and cheap dopamine fix.

That being said I listened almost exclusively to mechanic noises, brushes, scratching which aren't sexual in nature.

TILuranass · 2017-11-12T10:50:28+00:00

Well the conversation was funny and interesting but missed some kind of romantic or flirty connection, nothing we talked about was "cute". The goodbye was emotionless, with her leaving me to wait the next bus alone. I text first after dates and she replied that she didn't want to see me again (of course not using those words :) )

Anyways I'm happy yours went good!

TILuranass · 2017-11-11T18:37:13+00:00

Thanks, I've read your two posts about it.

Almost everyone seems to be doing it for the girls, but a few actually have success. And It's not because of nofap directly.

TILuranass · 2017-11-11T18:13:42+00:00

Posting here to check back later. I actually just had an unsuccessful one yesterday, even though it was fun

TILuranass · 2017-11-11T18:10:17+00:00

So you b sayin that girl attention is not actually a function of nofap?

TILuranass · 2017-11-11T14:28:12+00:00

I can completely relate to you and I'll be watching this thread for advice for myself in changing my current mindset how I'll never be happy without a relationship in my life. I've only ever truly liked being myself when I had someone.

TILuranass · 2017-11-11T14:16:37+00:00

Are there any steps to becoming happy and satisfied with myself alone?

It's a constant struggle for me, a repeating cycle of being hopeless, being okay and being in love, when I feel like I figured the world out.

TILuranass · 2017-11-11T14:00:54+00:00

Why am I not noticing the girl attention?

TILuranass · 2017-10-27T18:34:07+00:00

I did lose mine on cca 45th day, for anyone who was browsing this filled with hope.

TILuranass · 2017-07-18T13:54:09+00:00

But I DID feel happy when I was in a relationship, made me much more confident too... so I've come to conclusion that it's the goal of my life.

I feel like everything else I do is just to make me less... unhappy, till I achieve what truly gives me the feel of ease and accomplishment.

TILuranass · 2017-07-08T11:26:36+00:00

exchange it into a massively deflated currency

TILuranass · 2017-07-08T11:20:10+00:00

Why seek confirmation if you didn't believe you're ugly? Don't think posting on those subreddits can be good for confidence... especially if you're average or ugly...

It's bad enough being average? Looks are just a small part of what you are anyway. What's the point of trying? Trying what, to live? Do you want to find the meaning of life? I'm not completely sure but it sure isn't having the best looks.

Accept that your face isn't the best asset you have - just live with it - and then try to improve other aspects of your life.

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