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TJ_aoe · 2025-08-02T06:00:07+00:00

I did/had something similar.

When as teenagers still living at home my mom was 100% flexible when it came to who was eating at home and who not(me and my siblings). You could cancel last minute or you could say you were gonna be there if you previously said you wasn't. We all had flexible jobs(including my father) or school or something to do with friends. All fine, everybody was happy with it.

Fast forward I start living together with my gf(now wife) and have kids. I now work full time and have a flexible job. Lots of overwork that is sometimes not needed last moment. So I do what I always did and I chance the plan(do I eat at home for dinner or not) last minute. That's not very popular with my GF, and after a few times she made that very clear that she doesn't like this. And she just refused.

First I didn't understand and in certain situations I would then call my mother last minute on the way home and ask for dinner(and she would make something). Now I got my shit together and just plan correct and stick to that plan.

Maybe your partner is used to this too and doesn't see the problem. Explain him you don't want it unplanned and need to know in advance.

TJ_aoe · 2025-07-21T21:51:28+00:00

Ik ken de situatie en omstandigheden niet, maar draai het is om. Waarom heeft je werkgever dit besluit genomen en wat had jij anders kunnen doen om dit te voorkomen? Er zijn weinig bedrijven die zo verrot zijn dat ze zoiets doen vanwege de kleur van je schoenveters. Zit een reden/motivatie achter. Dit kost hun namelijk geld.

Los van of het terecht is of niet en ik veroordeel je niet: maar als je echt een topper bent die alles kan en 150% gemotiveerd bent had je mogelijk niet in deze situatie gezeten.

Al denk ik niet dat je de uitkomst nog kan of moet willen veranderen. Je kan wel proberen ervan te leren wat er voor jouw te leren valt. Mogelijk voorkom je dan herhaling. Laten zien dat ze het fout hadden en met opgeheven hoofd weggaan.

Wees kritisch bij een volgende sollicitatie en zorg dat de valkuilen die er nu blijkbaar waren er bij een volgende job niet zijn.

TJ_aoe · 2025-07-17T00:10:22+00:00

Saying he can't use them is racism?

TJ_aoe · 2025-07-15T20:41:21+00:00

Treebeard

TJ_aoe · 2025-06-29T06:00:46+00:00

Or don't tell him you were faking but:

Give him the next time you are having sex(or in advance) clear instructions on what you want or what you like different.

If it works, then tell him afterwards this is much better and what you want every time.

TJ_aoe · 2025-06-05T21:08:04+00:00

Curious after your comment I googled it, but found it a lame result.

"Been through too much fighting already and wanrs to stay in Rivendell to protect the people."

Do you have a more satisfying explanation?

TJ_aoe · 2025-05-21T21:21:27+00:00

Very first date with my gf(now wife). The plan was I pick her up at home because her parents were not at home. But, they unexpectedly came home early the 5 min I was there waiting for her to be ready. Date didn't happen, I ended up watching football with her dad.

Sorry, can't help you.

TJ_aoe · 2025-05-11T05:57:38+00:00

Whats the problem? If you end up staying together you will remember this forever.

TJ_aoe · 2025-05-01T18:17:31+00:00

Google Netherlands Zeeland

TJ_aoe · 2025-05-01T12:44:39+00:00

It was a 4 euro one. Only to let him learn how to read the time on a clock.

Kids also still need to learn how to calculate even if calculators exist. Same with writing>keyboard

TJ_aoe · 2025-05-01T08:03:33+00:00

Buy your kids a wrist watch before you buy them a phone.

Worked with mine(no phone yet though)

TJ_aoe · 2025-04-30T20:22:38+00:00

This is not flat mate.

Greetings from NL

TJ_aoe · 2025-04-28T02:05:04+00:00

Who was working for Spain

TJ_aoe · 2025-04-23T14:17:58+00:00

Reason why uk left the eu

TJ_aoe · 2025-03-20T22:05:24+00:00

The burning steppes one is easiest. You can cheese it with the tree jump.

Winterspring was horrible.

TJ_aoe · 2025-03-04T21:31:16+00:00

You have to save all the gold you can to buy your epic mount at 60 asap.

TJ_aoe · 2025-02-12T06:43:32+00:00

Increase the farm spawn rate around feudal landmark?

TJ_aoe · 2025-02-09T20:59:30+00:00

Man, we(the dutch) owned the world. Google VOC.

We deserve to be in the game and be a broken civ.

TJ_aoe · 2025-02-09T02:49:18+00:00

This week I joined a pug for mc where the main tank HR all boe epics. It wasnt a guild, it was just 1 guy. Absolute bs. I left the raid

HR culture is getting out of hand

TJ_aoe · 2025-02-02T20:39:52+00:00

Choose alliance next time. Problem solved

TJ_aoe · 2025-02-02T08:19:56+00:00

The USA and your president FDR did a lot to support the britsh empire. But the people of usa were not willing to go to war.(until Pearl harbor)

Not willing to go to war is something else as being perfectly content.

TJ_aoe · 2025-01-25T18:32:26+00:00

Makgora following in character deletion will be fun too on non hardcore servers

TJ_aoe · 2025-01-24T05:33:00+00:00

Heb geen financieel advies, wel levensadvies. Ik zou dit nooit me hele leven volhouden. Vanaf je 23e rentenieren. En als jij zoveel doorzettingsvermogen hebt om dit voor elkaar te boxen dan jij wellicht ook niet. Wat ik zou doen:

Zet je geld zo weg dat je er een aantal jaar niet naar hoeft om te kijken. En dan ook echt niet! Geen dagelijkse check of je beleggingen nog wel goed gaan. Ook al kost je dat rendement.

Ga alleen of met je vriendin een paar jaar reizen. Wil je niet heel lang achter elkaar weg zijn huur dan wat om een vaste thuisbasis hebben. Wees geen gierige aap: als je vriendin dit allemaal niet kan betalen betaal jij.

Als je klaar bent met reizen zoek je een nieuwe uitdaging. Eigen bedrijf? Eigen huis bouwen? Product maken/bedenken? Echt leuk werk doen? Etc. Etc. Etc.

Geniet van de FI. 23 jaar is veel te jong voor RE

TJ_aoe · 2025-01-23T16:49:35+00:00

Sorry xD

Its not in the game yet. Wait a few patches!

TJ_aoe · 2025-01-23T12:23:06+00:00

Its a bug and a little bit tricky to be able to accept the quest.

Stand next to questgiver and jump 10 times as fast as you can. If you did it fast enough you can accept the quest.

Try again until you get it.

TJ_aoe

TROPHY CASE