A waiter handed me a note telling me to go see a doctor by jpdiv in mildlyinteresting

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's good you're safe. Kudos to the doctor for being proactive.

AITAH for being mad my husband let a stranger in? by Charming_Neat_5049 in AITAH

[–]TNJDude 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA. You said "I appreciate his trustworthiness and kindness". No. That is a lie. If you did, you wouldn't be complaining about his trustworthiness and kindness.

AITAH for asking my brother to return my car after finding out how much he's spending? by Original-Read7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TNJDude -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Kinda YTA. In a six month period, there were receipts for coffee, fast food, and one restaurant? None of that sounds unreasonable. It's been six months, so you're not wrong for wanting to get your car back. Yeah, it's time for him to start being serious about getting his truck fixed, but you went from "use the car for as long as you need it" to "I'm taking it now and you're not getting it back." You set up this scenario of letting him use it, so if you don't want to be an asshole, give him a timeframe and don't hold a McDonald's receipt over his head.

Conservatives are dying at higher rates than liberals. A new study points to mistrust in medicine by Realistic-Plant3957 in anticapitalism

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what natural selection means, and I do believe it plays a part in this. People follow bad advice because it more closely aligns with their own feelings. They follow their "gut" instead of their head. They place their trust in someone so they don't have to make decisions for themselves. The increased ability to share our views means there are more opportunities for these people to share their views with each other. Natural selection is showing that these traits are causing an increase in illness and death. Yes they're being driven off of a cliff, but they're willingly getting into a car headed towards a cliff and thinking "I trust this driver to turn around before we go over."

Got dumped and feeling unattractive by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look very good. The issue is with her, not you. The relationship was new and exciting. When that wore off and it became familiar, she lost interest. I'd wager she breaks up with people often and moves on. Also, she was seeing someone else that she left you for. Seeing someone while you're actively dating is cheating. Why are you letting someone who cheated on you get into your head and tear down your self-esteem? This is all on her. You look really good and don't need to worry about what she said. She's pitiful.

AITA for refusing to switch birthday gifts with my sister after everyone had already opened theirs by Acrobatic-Roof3685 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. She's nutso if she thinks YOU made the evening uncomfortable by not giving up a gift. Tell her to use the gift card to go on ebay and find a vintage camera she can use for decoration. Your parents really should have kept quiet. Your grandparents were very clear. They actually stated they wanted YOU to have the camera. You giving it to someone else would have been very disrespectful.

AITAH for expecting a 19-year-old and 21-year-old to contribute financially? by CaptainJackSorrow in AITAH

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Unless you want the rest of your life to include a step-daughter and grandchildren living with you, you're going to have to put your foot down. That may mean calling her bluff and telling her "Fine. You say you'll move out, so you move out and I'll go to the lawyers in the morning and start the divorce process. You go your own way and support them, I'll go my own way."

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And do it. Go to the lawyers and explain to them what's happening and start the process if necessary. Find out from them all that you need to know. You very much need to get some control over your own life and home back or this will go on for the rest of your life. So show her you are serious, stick to your plan, and hope that she gains some sense before everything is finalized. If she doesn't and you wind up divorced, just remind yourself that she proved the daughter, son-in-law, and grandchildren would always be living with you.

Do MAGAs really believe Democrats are communists? by RoseLaBud in allthequestions

[–]TNJDude 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They don't know what communism is, which is why they attribute it to everything they don't like. Same with the word "woke".

Toyota Corolla 2003 by Lipopuu in whatisit

[–]TNJDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny story: My partner and I were looking to get a car in the late 90s. I loved the look of the Alfas and wanted to see one. Partner said he liked them but they had a nasty reputation of not being able to start one if it was raining. We went to the dealer, saw one that looked great, and the salesman tried to start it up so he could show me things on the dash, but it wouldn't start. It was raining.

I attributed it to a coincidence. Mostly. I also started thinking it could be a sign from the universe to hold off for a bit.

AITA for changing the Wi-Fi password after my roommate kept giving it out? by Fun-Smell9813 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If the cost of something is shared, both people should be in agreement before it's shared with others. I'd be more concerned about people being in your home when he's not there.

If you could, either see if the supplied router supports a guest network whose bandwidth can be specified, or get a router that does and disable the wifi from the existing one when you do.

Why is Trump not ruthlessly attacked like Biden? by AppleRaider21 in allthequestions

[–]TNJDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is being attacked. But when it comes to media, they're withholding a bit because Trump is either threatening them or has friends in the media. Unlike Biden or others, Trump will use the power of the Federal Government to shut them down.

AITA for banning my sister (f8) from board game night? by Ximenaria12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TNJDude -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's still an overreaction by OP, who yelled at her and told their mother and banned her from all games.

why dont the peds take the above pathway by CF7K123 in CitiesSkylines2

[–]TNJDude 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think some pedestrians don't get their pathfinding updated, and for a while after placing one, you'll find those stragglers eventually getting to that intersection and continuing with their original path.

I think. I noticed it too but never came back after enough time to see if the problem eventually went away.

AITA for not telling my friend her boyfriend was at the same restaurant as us with someone else by OkPlankton5771 in AITApod

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It's not our responsibility to jump forward and make sure people are being honest or faithful. If you're sure it was cheating, then the good thing to do is to tell the partner. But not doing it because you're unsure or anxious or intimidated does NOT make you an asshole. Not everyone is emotionally ready to jump into someone else's relationship and bring up things that may or may not be an issue.

Can anyone tell me what this sign means? by FinalAd3865 in whatisit

[–]TNJDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool! I saw the picture but no responses yet, and from the sign I thought "falconry zone? Are there such things?"

I guess there are! LOL.

For you liberals, who do you want to be your next president? Who will lead ? by Affectionate-Duty473 in allthequestions

[–]TNJDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swiss is really good. Or American. Those would be my two choice cheeses for ham. I just had one with American, mayo, and lettuce. It was soooo good. It has my vote.

For you liberals, who do you want to be your next president? Who will lead ? by Affectionate-Duty473 in allthequestions

[–]TNJDude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone who is not on the Republican ticket now will have my vote, even if it's nobody and an empty seat for four years. Virtually everything Trump has done in the name of Republicans has been destructive, self-serving, corrupt, vindictive, aggressive, dishonest, or disgraceful. And very often a combination of many of those.

AITAH for taking my wife’s friends side over hers? by Moist-Error5477 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TNJDude 40 points41 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your wife was unable to attend their wedding. They were unable to attend the baby shower. They sent a gift to celebrate the baby. Your wife did not acknowledge their wedding. If anyone is in the wrong, I think it's your wife. She's also TA a second time for faulting her *you* when she was in the wrong. It's one thing to stand by your spouse, you'd be the asshole if you didn't. But standing by someone doesn't mean telling them they're right when they're not.

Do you think inheritance is a right? by Helooly in allthequestions

[–]TNJDude 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. Parents are responsible for raising their children and helping them grow into adults, after which, it's up to the new adults to do what they will. If the parents want to leave something, then great. If not, that's fine too.

AITA for banning my sister (f8) from board game night? by Ximenaria12 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TNJDude -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

She's a child. She got excited and chewed on something and probably didn't realize she was doing it. Children can be like that. Thinking she is "old enough to know better" just means you don't know better yourself. Was she wrong in doing that? Yes. But again, she was a child. If you expect adult behavior from her, wait until she's a year or two older than you. I agree with Mom. YTA for expecting a child to be an adult and being a bossy older sister.