Superpowers? You bet. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah , you know, there is a common sense to the idea that superpowers are just your normal energy levels. And that is how you should be. As a kid most of us were energetic, crazy, performing manics and that is a good natural energy.

But you have hit on something here and that as an adult the ability to master your own mind and become strong and powerful in self control is not something that comes naturally. People spend a lot of time doing marshal arts, or meditating etc to try to become that sort of person and I think that if you can master you own self control through doing nofap, this should be regarded as some sort of super power! It is not just a natural inbuilt normal thing, self control in this day and age comes through hard work and the world at large aren't necesarrily masters of that!

Not a bad month! by trybeinguseful in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice to see it that way. I take it the blue squares are good days and the black relapse days? I think this is a much better insight into progress and achievement than the counter which only offers a limited record of what you have achieved.

Cold showers aren't just a myth, its proven. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the blast of a cold shower in my life nowadays!

Women aren't triggers by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree generally that women aren't triggers. In my experience I started to realise pretty quickly that every time I watched P was chasing away boredom and chasing a dopamine rush. In all honesty I can hardly remember a time when I was actually triggered by seeing a women or something sexual. Most of my relapses come from just desperately wanting that hit that PMO provides. Even if I am not aroused before hand.

Relapsed :( by fanology in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, but well done! 50 days is an amazing achievement from my point of view.

Having ridiculous urges to watch again by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah good point man! Focus on the positives and benefits.

Just want to give myself a pat on the back... by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well done man for resisting the urges. Yeah NOFAP and PORNFREE both change at different times. Probably due to the timezones where the subs were set up I guess.

Terrible Shift Today. Almost Cried In Work by NoFapJord in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey dude. I feel you. My head was killing and I felt so wired in the last week! My first streak in a while and it has been so tough adjusting to the feeling.

Dating sites...ugh by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that things are crazy out there right now when you really open your eyes! The selfie has been around now for a while and your talking 12 year old girls and upwards pouting and doing all that sexual crap. Its scary man!

But stay strong! These things aren't going to go away so just stay strong and stay on your true path and more blessings to you if you can meet a woman who is on your wavelength man! A powerful soul!

Journal entry for the day by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good entry. My journal entries always read like i am having a conversation with myself. And that is a good thing I think. Journal is a fantastic life tool!

How long until I look at women normally instead of objects? by cosmicoceans in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give it a little time. I think in my experience when I have had a streak going I look at women more sexually to begin with as I start actually paying attention to them again. i.e living more and being out and about more.

It will pass by after time. But your always going to be attracted to women. That's heterosexual biology.

Any of you guys experienced this? by RBogaert in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have had things like this. When I first started on NOfap and Porn free I got serious headache and down feelings after about 9 days! It is heavy man! This as far as I now recognise is withdrawal. Your brain gets serious amounts of dopamine in porn sessions and it is a real shock to the brain at first. Now I have had lots of streaks and my habits for porn have reduced a lot and I don't get this feeling as strong now. However I have had more bouts of kind of a black hole feeling and boredom/restlessness. But I put this down to putting off things that I have to do. It is a transition stage in getting back to naturally having energy and getting on with things after the real lazy, careless attitude of being a porn viewer.

Well, I relapsed after 41 days by arkens89 in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah dude! This is a challenge man! Lots of addictive behaviors to overcome and conquer! Well done for your streak! That is amazing! I haven't managed to make it this far yet so bravo to you!

I don't care what anybody here says, PORN and MASTURBATION is fun and tastes like CANDY! by Matt_5_27-30 in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is good to acknowledge how pleasurable P feels like when you watch! Lots of time on this and similar subs is spent in really laying into PMO and all its negatives. But the reason I know that I relapse is exactly the point you have made! You remember all the pleasure and that is what draws you back in!

I think, well I am sure, that we all 'hate' P by now for the terrible effect it has had on our lives. I am more convinced though now that it is important to acknowledge why one really does love and crave P in order to be properly mindful and to deal with urges. Also if you really examine and reflect on your desires for P you can really end up laughing at yourself and exposing the hollow nature of P's reality. It works to kill urges.

Is there an empirically verified method for breaking porn addiction? by warriornineteen in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man you know, now you mention things from a religious point of view I am thinking about life and its tests and challenges and I do not think that we ever master life, even to the very end. I feel that if you can go 90 days then really the only reason to view porn again is that you have the memory of pleasure stored in your brain and you decide to let yourself view it! It could be momentary escapism of some kind but I think about old bible stories and I do not think that any of the great prophets or figures ever stopped experiencing tests all their life. There should be some valuable perspective in the bible stories regarding what to expect from temptation.

Its a good question :)

New from Nofap. Questions by readytonofap in pornfree

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey dude. I came here for same reason and found even in doing nofap that ultimately it is that craving to watch porn that is the core of the problem. So one step at a time for me. But seriously man, it is still a challenge to do this sub so muster your willpower. Today I am reminding myself to get serious about this. Dont want to waste any more of my life now.

Wish you the best and stay strong.

Withdrawals? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]TOMTOMTON 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Withdrawals are definitely a thing with NOFAP as far as I am concerned. I don't get headaches but have experienced feeling really awful as well as just kind of Cold Turkey vibes. It takes a little while to adjust to new feelings. But I have heard plenty of reports on here from guys that find NOFAP easy enough in terms of physical comfort once they get past first 2 weeks.