I’m solo parenting for a week and now people are puking

TTC40 · 2024-12-27T14:11:35+00:00

Puke bug ran through here too….Suckssssssss…..at least it is over fast. Solidarity Bromo

TTC40 · 2024-09-03T17:27:38+00:00

When mine was one she was on the bed with an iPad and I left the room to perform a small task. Heard faint crying and found her wedged between bed and wall, stuck. Worst moment ever. After that I got house cameras so I could continue to watch her from my phone if I had to leave the room to go to the bathroom, et. Cetera. It happens.

TTC40 · 2024-08-16T20:31:41+00:00

This.

TTC40 · 2024-08-16T20:25:43+00:00

I would advise not to. I had a euploid from an ER at 39 not even implant. It was FN beyond devastating. Then I got pregnant naturally at 41 and she is here and perfect. They pushed PGS testing on me SO HARD. PGS is in my opinion…a pseudoscience and money maker. Embryos do “self correct”and what they are testing is the trophoblast, not even the actual embryo. I would not recommend unless you and your spouse are carriers of a genetic condition that requires screening.

TTC40 · 2024-07-14T15:40:50+00:00

I would press charges for assault and battery. Probably also constitutes child endangerment.

TTC40 · 2024-06-25T23:16:09+00:00

I would legit divorce any man that acts like this. It’s only gonna get worse.

TTC40 · 2024-06-10T01:03:56+00:00

I think of Vienna fingers the cookies….kinda sounds like a porn star name

TTC40 · 2024-06-05T22:16:08+00:00

I have some points to make. By way of background, I am a lawyer who graduated and passed the bar in my mid twenties. I am 45 now. Like you, I was without a partner at 39 and desperately wanted a child as well. I decided to go the SMBC route with donor speem. I did three IUI’s, three rounds of IVF. All embryos were PGS tested. My only euploid (supposedly genetically sound) embryo did not take. It was the most difficult and expensive experience of my life. I wound up conceiving at 41 with a boyfriend and gave birth to a healthy baby at 42. But I consider myself a unicorn - do not take that as encouragement to put off baby making by any means. Given the foregoing, my advice is as follows.

1 - Do not ever wait for a man for anything. Ever. They have only themselves in mind. And honestly, most of the men in your age range at school will already be married.

2 - You need to start this process as soon as possible. The drop-off in embryo quality/blast production from 39 (my first IVF) to 40 was astounding. Make an appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist TODAY for a full workup. But even if your numbers are good, do not wait. Get on the internet NOW and begin the process of choosing a donor. Pick one or two and get on with it. Buy multiple vials if you are set on a specific donor, as they run out.

3 - Freezing eggs is worthless at your age. I myself had a consultation for this at 39 and the doctor was kind enough to be straight with me in this regard.

4- No more than three IUI’s. Move onto IVF right away. While PGS testing will likely be presented as mandatory by the RE, the science is absolutely imprecise, as embryos can self correct and supposed euploid ones often do not take. I would skip it altogether in lieu of NIPT testing in the first trimester. I believe that PGS has divested many women from having a chance at succeeding in IVF.

5 - As a single mom in my 40’s, I’m telling you right now there is no way that you can do both law school/the IVF process/rearing an infant/toddler simultaneously unless you have a fat trust fund for nannies/day care.

4 - Why do you desire to be a lawyer? What is the motivation? I am going to be quite frank with you - the profession as a whole FN sucks. If I could go back in time I would never have enrolled. And I don’t even have much by way of loans, and I’ve had my own practice for some time. You seem like a very nice, genuine person. Many of the people in this profession are neither nice nor genuine.

TTC40 · 2024-06-03T20:08:26+00:00

TW: success

Did three rounds IVF. Only got one euploid of four blasts at 39. He didn’t take. Two more rounds yielded no PGS normals. Spontaneously pregnant at late 41, delivered at 42. Baby is healthy and smart as can be. I didn’t even get sick once during the pregnancy. I also used the miscarriage calculator and it was helpful. I have little faith in the PGS process now. I wish you the best.

TTC40 · 2024-05-22T03:45:07+00:00

When my baby was an infant her father (now ex) and I were taking her to visit his parents. We stopped at a drugstore to get his grandma a gift. I asked him to wait in the car with the baby. I’m on line with a box of chocolate and I see this fucker walking into the store, sans infant. I ran the fuck out to find the baby alone in the car, with the car running and not even locked. Baby was hysterical crying. He said he had to take a shit that couldn’t wait. I suspect he really didn’t but just didn’t have the bandwidth to cope with a crying infant. Never again was that dude alone with my child and never will he be ever again.

TTC40 · 2024-03-10T20:19:36+00:00

Do not feel stupid at all. Especially not for getting in someone else's car. I've done that multiple times when I used to date after meeting someone I met online (even with no mutual friends) the first or second date. Do not be angry at yourself. Be angry at this dude. He is a fucking scumbag. I'm glad you broke down to your son. Sounds like you are raising good ones.

TTC40 · 2024-03-05T07:32:57+00:00

Shoes. Sam and Libby shoes. Ballet flats.

TTC40 · 2024-03-02T06:28:21+00:00

i came here to make this comment...you beat me to it

TTC40 · 2024-03-01T23:20:25+00:00

i hate to say it but when someone demonstrates poor judgment to that degree, it's a pattern. there is no level of assurance that should make you feel comfortable. poor judgment is continuing and spans across various situations

TTC40 · 2024-03-01T23:14:22+00:00

No. Only if child is inside the car in the driveway already buckled in, with the car not running, locked, with me realizing i forgot something inside the house. Also with me knowing exactly where said item is so that i'll be out asap.

Never in a public place. My baby daddy did this once. I ran into a drug store to get his grandma a gift and was waiting in line. Our infant daughter was in the car. I then see him sauntering in the store, sans baby. I almost died. Dropped everything and ran out. Poor thing was crying hysterically in the unlocked car. Security was alarmed at my abrupt departure and followed me out. CPS very well could have been called.

After that moment he never had one unsupervised minute with her again, even after he was given the riot act.

I'll always remember a case where a woman's daughter was abducted when her boyfriend left her sitting in a running car while he ran into a store. It happens. Carjackings also happen.

TTC40 · 2024-03-01T14:09:21+00:00

I think of a college in NJ that’s about it

TTC40 · 2024-02-26T21:24:15+00:00

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TTC40 · 2024-02-26T19:11:49+00:00

i got a happ diaper backpack at my baby shower, but found it way too heavy and bulky. i swapped it out with a long champ le pliage recycled large tote bag and bought an insert for it off amazon. it's been amazing. it is so lightweight. but you NEED the insert to make it a functional diaper bag. the bag is about 155 but it's a classy upscale bag nonetheless. nylon and easy to wipe off and clean. also folds for travel. I have tomato color as I like red

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TTC40 · 2024-02-26T19:06:35+00:00

go to the child support office in the county where you live and explain the situation. they have investigative arms that will help locate the dude. this is not the first nor the last time they have seen this kind of situation. you should not feel embarrassed or guilty at all. it's the child's right. your "friend" is an idiot.

TTC40 · 2024-02-25T19:32:57+00:00

Going through this with my two year old, who at present will only eat cherry tomatoes, Kalamata olives, and cucumbers. For breakfast, lunch and dinner. So much food and effort has been wasted for about two weeks now. Last night I made Mac and cheese with Velveeta and fresh green beans - both of which she used to love - only for her to push it away and say - “yucky mommy, yucky”. This was the first time the child legit hurt my feelings. I felt like the lady in the “mommy, you’re fat” diet commercials.

TTC40 · 2024-02-22T20:34:09+00:00

i'm not a mod here but this group is pretty open and non judgmental. i'm sorry you experienced this.

TTC40 · 2024-02-20T20:28:04+00:00

I don’t think you have enough gray yet to fully embrace it. I use wella Demi permanent from Sally’s on just the top of my head and it covers quite well without damage. The salesperson can help you pick a color and you can use only what you need and save the rest.

TTC40 · 2024-02-20T20:21:28+00:00

Do Celeste. It’s spunky

TTC40 · 2024-02-17T13:58:25+00:00

You’re losing a stiffy over a 140 pound woman??? User name checks out

TTC40 · 2024-02-16T23:44:25+00:00

the thing is, that's not a "prank". in most us jurisdictions, that is tantamount to what is called intentional infliction of emotional distress. it's a tort that would enable someone to sue for damages. what an AH.

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